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I am proud of my life now. I retired from a paying job but I am more active than ever in engaging in real life. I know it sounds trite, but I do think I have the most important job now as a wife and a mother. And, in all fairness, I am far from a natural. I try hard every day to be better at it than the day before and it is all I can expect from myself.
Success at work offers a real adrenaline rush. Unfortunately, it’s typically fleeting. Marriage and motherhood, by contrast, offer more lasting satisfaction. Those are among the important life lessons Erin Callan Montella shares in her new memoir, Full Circle: A memoir of leaning in too far and the journey back.
Montella was CFO of Lehman Brothers from December 2007 to June 2008, and Wall Street’s highest ranking woman at that point. Her memoir follows her through two decades of a high-flying career, an ill-fated first marriage, the public collapse of her career and a subsequent suicide attempt, as well as her recent transition to being a full-time wife and mother. While Montella found great professional success practicing law and working on Wall Street, her new roles have fulfilled her more. That was clear in her book and only reinforced by her emailed responses to the following questions (edited for length).
Feminism taught a us a different kind of womanhood all together. One that had little to do with how God designed women, and what His intended purposes are. Unfortunately, many women discover this truth far too late.
As reported by the Chicago Tribune recently, a national survey of childless women in the USA aged 25-45 found that while more than half wanted to have kids one day, just under half didn’t realise the difficulties that can arise post age 35 (and therefore most thought it a good idea for infertility education to be implemented during school education and at Ob/Gyn visits). About half admitted that they would have made different decisions in the past regarding their fertility if they had been more informed.
Titus 2 women who spend time counseling in the Christian community will appreciate this.
By Leslie Vernick
As Christian counselors, pastors and people helpers we often have a hard time discerning between an evil heart and an ordinary sinner who messes up, who isn’t perfect, and full of weakness and sin.
I think one of the reasons we don’t “see” evil is because we find it so difficult to believe that evil individuals actually exist. We can’t imagine someone deceiving us with no conscience, hurting others with no remorse, spinning outrageous fabrications to ruin someone’s reputation, or pretending he or she is spiritually committed yet has no fear of God before his or her eyes.
The Bible clearly tells us that among God’s people there are wolves that wear sheep’s clothing (Jeremiah 23:14; Titus 1:10; Revelations 2:2). It’s true that every human heart is inclined toward sin (Romans 3:23), and that includes evil (Genesis 8:21; James 1:4). We all miss God’ mark of moral perfection. However, most ordinary sinners do not happily indulge evil urges, nor do we feel good about having them. We feel ashamed and guilty, rightly so (Romans 7:19–21). These things are not true of the evil heart.
Below are five indicators that you may be dealing with an evil heart rather than an ordinary sinful heart. If so, it requires a radically different treatment approach.
“Who is this who looks down like the dawn, beautiful as the moon, bright as the sun, awesome as an army with banners? (Song of Solomon 6:10 ESV)
Who indeed? A woman, of course.
Where but in the Scriptures could we find a vision of womanhood as glorious as this? Who but our God could design something with such blinding beauty alongside robust strength? The Psalms and Proverbs fill out this vision of a woman that shows us fortitude clothed in splendor — a woman who presides over her domain with strong arms and resourcefulness (Proverbs 31); daughters that are corner pillars, whose strong support could only be matched by their exquisiteness (Psalm 144:12).
I had a vision for who she would be. I was fairly certain that, with enough work, I could make her happen. I could be all the things: educated, well dressed, articulate, political, logical, and – the end goal – successful.
Then I had a baby.
When God brought me home – literally and figuratively – the limits I’d set on myself were removed, and I was free to embrace the woman God designed me to be.
Willing to be exploited, this is what we’ve become.
How important is it that we are an example of what God created and defined as man and woman? How important is it that we model Christian family life? How important is it that we order every sphere of our societies with godly order and according to scriptural terms?
When we can no longer define what is reality from what is not, we become push-overs, unwilling to stand for anything. This is how the enemies of what is good and what is right, erode our freedoms. They know weakness when they see it and they exploit it.
I love C.S. Lewis’ simple, yet profound depiction of spiritual warfare. “There is no neutral ground in the universe. Every square inch, every split second is claimed by God and counterclaimed by Satan.”11
If we just focused on the psychology behind feminist ambitions for a second, we’d find they are counterfeiting a false strength which they sell us as empowerment. We need to know the difference between what is a sound sense of strength and what is not.
Paul Washer points out the truth here. If we’re weak it’s because we’ve bought into the idea of empowerment.
They say, “Look at what men have done to you,” but we say: look at what Christ, the perfect man, has done for us, and our husbands, and our children. Look at what His work has lead to. The fruit is incomparable to the deceptive promises of feminism. It is, as Paul concludes, absolutely spectacular.
What is the difference between a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship involving two Christians and courting? This is a question I get asked a lot! I think one of the key differences can be summed up by a single word: ‘BELONGING’. Let me explain! Read the rest here!
Spi0041984. THE SUNDAY TELEGRAPH US MARINES. Recruit Training Regiment, Parris Island, South Carolina USA. Female Recruits on the main Square for drill practice. October 2012
Men were built for fighting. Women were built for childbearing. It’s interesting to note how stubbornly true—even obvious—these statements remain, despite aggressive efforts to bury them.Women have bodies of amazing power: Nothing can compare to holding a newborn and realizing with awe, “My body builtthat.” It’s a remarkable feat that men can never simulate.
Women are physiologically awe-inspiring, but not in a way suited for soldiering. Their energies go towards something else; indeed, the female reproductive system is far more “expensive” in terms of invested energy, whether or not a woman ever bears a child.
Might these physiological differences tell us anything about what a flourishing life should look like, for men or women? Modern feminists would say “no”; that kind of reasoning is angrily rejected as “biological determinism.” Gloria Steinem famously declared, “Everybody with a womb doesn’t have to have a child any more than everybody with vocal cords has to be an opera singer.”
Have you ever started reading a story book in the middle, or tried to watch a movie starting halfway through the plot? I have, and though it is possible to figure out the gist of the story, it can be hard to have adequate context, and sometimes important details are missed. Most of all, the significance of events is lost on an audience who doesn’t understand the history of what has come before. Most people start in the middle of the gospel story, with man’s need of a savior and Christ’s atoning work on the cross. But while this is an appropriate message in some settings, if we never understand the beginning of the story, we’ll be left with a truncated view of the significance of the gospel. Instead of starting in the gospels, it’s crucial to start where God does… in the beginning.
Children are the center of any reasonably healthy society. Child-rearing is at the center of any reasonably healthy civilization…We currently inhabit a society in which more people die than are allowed to be conceived and survive until birth. Such a society is fundamentally different, including in its child-centrism, from one in which new life is welcomed as part of the natural order. The children who succeed in being born today often are treated as precious items to be protected from all harm, affirmed, and made the center of attention in any reasonably well-off household—at least when that attention is given by professional “caregivers” in government, education, or the childcare industry. What these children are not is part of functioning families and communities, in which they learn how to cooperate, compete, and practice daily virtues. The result? Two generations of people who are too self-centered to enter into lasting marital relationships, choose life, and work to make better lives for themselves and their posterity.
From children being the center of our culture we have reached a point where each child sees himself as the center of the world. Why? Because so few of us recognize ourselves as part (though not the center) of an ongoing tradition, an order of existence tying the dead with the living and the yet unborn.
What makes children the center of this vision? Children are not merely “the future” in some abstract sense; they are carriers of our traditions and of our beings in this world. They are to be valued for themselves, as products of both God’s love and our own selves. But they also are to be valued—and reared—as carriers of our way of life into the future. They are the next link in the chain of social being of our families and other associations, and also of ourselves.
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