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From ladiesagainstfeminism.com Comments and Letters I so enjoyed (well, that is if you can call tears of conviction and awe at God's mercy and efficiency "enjoyment")--your article on Materialism vs. Stewardship. I have learned a lot about stewardship in the last couple years. My Pastor, books, and my conscience are all *talking* to me about this. I have just recently been thinking that my *stuffitis* is actually covetousness and idolatry. Perhaps my thoughts are more than just that....thoughts. They are reality. I learned so much from your article and was just thinking this very day about the word covetousness and its relation to money and frivolous spending....just today!! Then this evening I read your article! God loves me so much and speaks to me so clearly! Hello to all the ladies responsible for running this site! I just wanted to say thank you and let you know what a blessing and encouragement this site is to me. I am 21 years old and a senior at New Mexico State UV and majoring in Home Economics Education. This site gives me hope that there are others out in the world like my family and myself!! Thanks! Katie Thank you so very much for such a wonderful site. I read the latest headlines almost every day. You have helped me to become more feminine in appearance and action. Keep up the great work! ~ Mrs. J.P. M I enjoyed the interview with Mrs. Cartwright so much. That was such an encouraging article. Thank you very much for this wonderful site. I find encouragement every day. Sincerely, Mrs.Cindy J I just wanted to thank Mrs. Sherman for the latest interview (with Mrs. Carmichael). As a white mom raising an African-American daughter, what a blessing to see such beautiful photos of beautiful role models which I will certainly share with my little one. We live in a mostly white community and many of the Black women my daughter sees are in the media--and not modest! At age 7, she is *very* aware of modesty issues. What a joy to be able to share this family's story with her! Thank you. ~ Anna S. Dear LAF, I love your website! Finally there is one place that encapsulates my views in a lovely and gracious manner! Please continue to touch our lives and encourage our true femininity!! God bless your work, Mara Dear Ladies of LAF, Thank you so much for your website. It has been very encouraging to me and I don't find any place where it says women should be beaten and be slaves as some of the mean letters have said. Don't be discouraged by negative feedback. You're doing what the Lord wants you to do. Bless you all ~ Regina S. I just love your site and find it very informative. I appreciate the fact that you keep me abreast of current trends and events that are near and dear. Your site is also a beautiful haven from the world and I enjoy stopping by whenever I can. I love being a housewife and appreciate the support offered here to women such as myself. I have a question, based on a petpeeve of mine. Specifically, I object to the liberal use of Ms. As a little girl I couldn't wiat to gain my Mrs., but I can't help but feel a bit cheated when mail arrives bearing the Ms., or when the school or some other entity refers to me Ms. I apologize if this seems like a minor issue and I appear to be carrying on about it. Perhaps, I am making too much of it. Basically my point is this, back in the 70's when this Ms. issue reared its head I thought the idea was that we would have the option, not that it would be standard. My other question is this, who decided to change how married and single ladies were addressed? I don't recall there was a vote on this issue. In my son's school all of the teachers are referred to as Ms on an official level. However, many of the teachers who are married do refer to themselves as Mrs. although the sign outside of their door reads Ms. I wonder if you happen to know the history of this movement and if you are ever inclined to write an article about this perhaps you could offer some lady-like suggestions for those of us who resent the Ms and even like being referred to as by their husband's name with an Mrs. in front of it. I doubt we will ever return to the days when women were introduced via their husband's name, but I would gladly settle for the Mrs. in front of my own first name. By the way I unreservedly support other women's feelings on this matter. In fact a dear friend of mine who is divorced prefers the Ms. and I certainly understand and respect that. I guess in turn I wish the same level of consideration from others. Again I worry that I am making a fuss out of this, but any insight or helpful suggestions on your part would be appreciated. I think that Mrs. makes a positive statement about marriage and family and would grieve its passing. Many thanks for your efforts in support of an on behalf of women. ~ Kristine I really enjoy your site. I think women have lost their femininity. The way young girls and young women dress is absolutely awful. I do have a question about long hair. I would love to grow my hair long but due to severe allergies I cannot. Pollen and dust, also animal hair gets in my hair and aggravates my allergies. So for that reason I keep it short. Is this ok> ~ Diane Dear Diane, I am so glad you have enjoyed LAF and found it a blessing. :-) I think the Bible's point about a woman's hair isn't to set a legalistic length requirement but an admonition that we look feminine and different from men. Our hair is our "glory," just like a young man's strength is his "glory" (see Proverbs 20:29). As long as we keep it groomed in a feminine manner and refrain from imitating the ultra-short mannish cuts, we let the world know that we do glory in our God-given femininity. I hope this helps, and God bless you! In Christ, Mrs. Jennie Chancey I thoroughly enjoyed the article, "Reaching Generations: An Interview with Mrs. Mel Cartwright." Being an Afro-American myself, it was encouraging to read an interview on a godly black family. Thank you! ~ Torii C. I want to thank you for the article "For Young Girls: The Importance of Living A Meaningful Life." It was both inspiring and encouraging. With so many negative things surrounding us, young Ladies need to gain confidence in what God has given us. I hope it will encourage other young ladies like it has done for myself. I hope you will consider having more articles for young girls. ~ Bethany Well done ladies!!! Your web site actually encourages me to be a more godly man. Keep up the good work and may God continue to bless this web site. Bryan from Arizona. Dear Ladies, Thank you so much for your inspiring website. The articles you offer are not only helpful but encourage me to re-pursue being a keeper of the home. My children are grown, but I continually struggle with the fact that I was not a full time stay-at-home mom, even though my heart longed to be so. Now, after they have grown, I feel God is calling me to begin again. Not by having more children, as that is physically impossible, but that perhaps He is calling me to mentor a young mom or even a group. I'm in prayer about this, and know that I have much to learn in this area before I can help others in this area. I have pulled your Proverbs 31 woman (article #912 and #1007) articles and will be studying them in depth. I would covet your prayers for clear direction for myself as I seek to glorify Him in my life! I would also ask if you would pray for my husband (a believer) as he feels financially trapped and cannot see the possibility of my being at home, that God would help him find a way. Thank you so much, again, for helping us (all women who desire to) be an example of godly women to those around us and to get back to being women who are spoken of in Titus. God bless all of you richly, Debi I just want to thank you for your website. It is such an encouragement and inspiration to me. I visit it almost every day. I am almost 50 years old, but I have children in almost every age category. I especially appreciate the positive tone of the site. Rather than calling all sorts of gray areas sins, your site encourages women to dress and act in a beautiful and feminine manner and thereby glorify God. Thank you so much. Sincerely, Mrs. Cindy J I love your site! I think my favorite articles are the ones that encourage me in my daily routine. I am a stay at home, homeschooling mother and although I am living the life I want, I still get discouraged. The articles that reaffirm my decision to stay home I have read more than once. Thank you for the hard work that you do. Tressa S I just wanted to thank you for this incredible site. It is so wonderful to find support as a stay-at-home mom. Your site is full of helpful suggestions and fantastic articles. When I take my breaks from my work during the day, or if I am feeling tired and discouraged, I turn to your site for the wonderful inspiration you provide. I am truly grateful! Alice I just wanted to tell you what an encouragement and breath of fresh air the LAF site is to me. I appreciate your thoughtful commentary, interesting articles, and gracious defense of beautiful womanhood. I have been married for nearly 24 years, am the mother of 11 children ages 7 months to 21 years, have been a homemaker for 22 years,and have homeschooled for 17 years. The articles on femininity and modesty have been especially helpful to me in this season of my life. Thank you so much for your hard work in maintaining the site. Please carry on, valiant women of faith! ~ Charlotte S. Dear Ladies, Thank you so much for creating and maintaining the LAF website. Thanks also are due to the Reverend Sherman for his Godly oversight of this important mission. Your articles have given me great encouragement along with my own personal Bible studies as I try to learn and apply Scripture in my own daily life. Thank you again for your hard work and for the tremendous spiritual benefit I have enjoyed as a result. May God continue to bless you all. Most Sincerely, Mrs. James T Greetings! I felt the need to write and tell you what encouragement I receive from your articles. The Lord's timing is perfect and this is shown time and time again. Often when I have an area in my life that is challenging, there's an article that pops up relating to my situation. Praise the Lord for His kindness' and great love. God Bless, D.C Dear LAF, I just wish to express my thanks and prayers for the beauty of your mission. Your message of "promoting beautiful womanhood" is one desperately needed today. I truly believe that woman have an essential role to play in helping to restore a culture of life. Today's woman must hear the call to real femininity...to purity, modesty, and beauty...which in turn will help lead mankind toward Truth. I am also very encouraged to see the number of positive notes from young ladies who are my age...they have helped to boost the hope I have in my generation! May God bless your work! Faith, Hope, and Love, Claire from Illinois age 16 I want to thank you for setting up this website. Each article inspires me. I love in England and we have lost the vision of being femine. i wear dresses and jumpers all the time and so does my Mom and we both enjoy your website. Please keep up the good work. ~ Ruth P. I have always been a fulltime stay at home mom,I have never regretted it once. No matter if we had little or more. It is good to find a web sight that supports mom like me. I am also a strong advacit of dressing in skirts, and dresses. Thank you for a plact to go, that is so up lifting. Mom of two teen daughters Sandy Hello, I just finished reading "The Secret Power of Lesbian Style" and I was extremely disturbed by the fact that there is a shirt called a "wifebeater." I didn't see a picture of it in the article so I searched the Internet and it turns out that it's a spaghetti strap t-shirt. I have always loved LAF. But this article has made me even more appreciative of the need for LAF. I have not previously financially supported LAF but now I will. I appreciate your positive, encouraging articles. I have learned a lot from the many women who have written articles and I wish you all continued success! ~ Rosalind C. I'm a Pagan. We've made it a way of life, almost, to never tell another person what is right or wrong. After all, how can you know that answer if you haven't lived that person's life, if you haven't lived the question... Lately I've been disagreeing with that. No, I'm not converting. But I am beginning to see that there are moral absolutes in this world. When my husband and I first married I became pregnant within 6 months. Within the first two years I became pregnant 4 times. Unfortunately none of the babies made it past two months. But from the first, I had friends and family suggesting that it might be better to terminate. After all, we were too young. It was a difficult time for us. I have certain genetic issues that might be passed on. And there was a certain feeling in my family that being pregnant was somehow distasteful. At least if you are going to do that, be quite about it. Keep making work your priority, don't think we're going to treat you special because of this. But if you had any intelligence you'd end this nonsence now and get on with your life. Those were all quotes I heard during my pregnancies, and that my Mother and aunts are saying about my cousin Julia, who is due in October. My husband was disgusted with it all. It was one of the major factors in his deciding to transfer to a school out of state. Now we're living in an area that cherishes babies, and respects pregnant women. And even though we've chosen to adopt rather than persue fertility treatments, I can stay home and be the mother I've always wanted to be. Right now, I'm knitting cousin Julia's baby a sweater layette. After all, she deserves special attention, she's going to be a Mother... Mrs. Annie C Hello LAF, Just wanted you to know that I have missed you during your vacation!!! I did not realize how much I enjoy your hard work, until you've been gone--- forgive me! May the Lord guide you and continue to give you grace and strength to speak out for the beauty of being a woman, which stands directly against main stream thoughts on womanhood in America today. Working quietly with you for the cause of Christ in my own little corner of the planet! With gratitude and affection, in Christ, Kathleen L Dear ladies at LAF, In today's turbulent society and world, with accusations and myths running rampant among the so called sexual "equality" groups, I have stumbled upon your wonderful and enlightening website. It has given me hope, that yes, there are still the women of the good old days. that traditional, modest, and loving wives / mothers, still exist, strike me with a feeling of hope and warmth. Please keep up the great work, today's society needs more women like you ladies. generic male from USA Dear Ladies, Thank you for a well-researched and beautifully written website with such lovely images and artwork throughout. What an encouragement you have been to me! God bless you, and keep up the great work! In Christ, Mrs. T.E. I found your site through Mrs. Chancey's Sensibility site quite a few months back and just want to applaud you ladies for being unashamed. I'm thrilled that the new site is up and running and I've dearly missed you all. Sincerely, Mrs. Michael H I just wanted to thank you for your recent articles on modesty and protecting young women. I admire your courage in calling a spade a spade, and being willing to say that "prostitution" isn't just limited to women of the night, but that many of our society's young girls are prostituting thier bodies, if unknowingly. I have often thought the same, but not had the gumption to say it. Thank you for your uplifting, encouraging, and challenging articles. As a young wife and mother striving to be a Godly woman, I appreciate your site so much! May the Lord bless you and bless your ministry! ~ Mrs. Margaret A. D. Dear Mrs. Chancey and Mrs. Sherman, I am responding to your article, " 'Does LAF blame women for rape or abduction?' " By Mrs. Chancey and Mrs. Sherman dated Jul 31, 2004. Your responses to the critics was just beautiful! I felt like standing up and applauding. When I read the original article, it troubled me a bit, but your explanations made it much more clear. I really enjoy your site. You were missed terribly during your recent hiatus. Sincerely, Mary G Dear Mrs. Chancey and Mrs. Sherman, I just finished reading "Does LAF blame women for rape or abduction?" and I have to say it just reaffirms my respect for both of you, whom I've never even met. I absolutely love this website and enjoy all the articles I've read. I agree that women need to wake up and I also agree that it might take some pretty blatant words to shake them. My boyfriend and I discuss this regularly because at our church it is maddening and heartbreaking how the girls dress for worship, several in strapless dresses, low cut tops, and many tight fitting outfits. But, unfortunately, none of the men in leadership positions want to say anything because they're afraid they might offend someone. I say go for it! Maybe that's why there are so many noncommited Christians because it seems as though anything goes nowdays. Forgive me for that tangent, but I just wanted to say that each of your sweet spirits shine through in your responses. If you get angry when you read those notes it definately does not filter into your writing. I am continually blessed with your writings and articles and am amazed at the knowledge each of you possess. You inspire me to try and live a truly godly lifestyle even though it may be going against the grain. Keep up the wonderful work. God bless, Ashlee Dear Mrs. Chancey, I just wanted to send you and Mrs. Sherman a brief word of encouragement in the midst of the tough feedback it seems like you at LAF have been receiving. I thoroughly appreciated Aiden Humphrey's article on chum for sharks. It is an apt and appropriate analogy. When my husband and I were first married, we lived in Charleston, SC, close to the College of Charleston. Charleston is like any other city, and armed hold-ups as well as attacks were frequent at the time. My husband was always dismayed to see co-eds heading out to parties or bars, with very little clothes on, always walking late at night through city streets. Most likely, these young women justified their clothing choices because of the hot & humid weather, but, as my husband said, they were unfortunately asking for trouble by wearing clothing that offered eye traps for men. Additionally, they were placing themselves in danger by walking down the quaint alley-ways and quiet city streets late at night. No man is ever, ever justified in acting in rage upon women. However, with our sex-saturated society in the media and in the clothing choices of our culture, it is quite possible that men decide and are compelled to act out their anger in the most despicable of ways. May we women always be full of care about how we dress and travel about so as not to offer any more reasons for sin to be acted upon. I have received both the lovely Regency pattern, and the book Mother. Thankyou so much for both. I will especially treasure the book! Many Blessings, Sarah Mrs. Chancey, I just read your response to Julia who wrote such an awful letter in response to the article on protecting ourselves by dressing modestly. It was beautifully done. You spoke the truth in love and gave a well thought out response. I have to say that I love your website. I check in everyday and sure did miss when you were offline for so long. I have 2 of my daughters now that are also readers of your site. May the Lord richly bless you. Love and shalom, Serena Dear Mrs Chancey & Mrs. Sherman, First let me say how much your wonderful, wonderful web-site has made me a better wife & mother!! I am a lump of clay being moulded by God and He is using this site to help "carve" me out. Second, let me praise and encourage you further in your continuous attempts to soften the hearts of those who's hearts are ready to listen to all your inspired knowledge & wisdom. I know you (and your many contributors) are not perfect, but you are a refreshing and most sought after glimmer of hope to those of us who do not have this information at our fingertips (i.e., Godly older women in our lives, a Christian family for support). I read with anticipation your article about modest clothing and abduction. Mrs. Sherman, you are perfectly correct in your admonishment and warnings to young ladies and parents. It is a sad, sad day when the reader is mis-guided and thinks of your heed in a negative light. Very sad indeed. They are blind. This of course you know already, and to you and Jennie I must say, you come across with much love and patience when responding to those who I would probably sink to their level with a response. Again, thank you for your wonderful and gracious examples. May the Lord continue to bless you and your families and may God continue to use you for our benefit too. You are like two really great friends and I only wish we could have tea...like one of those really cool pictures on your web-site!!! With Sincere Thanks, Mrs. Cheryl A. W Dear Ladies, I tried this before, but I don't think it worked. Thank you so much for your lovely website. The simple fact that you call yourselves ladies says a great deal to me. I am a sixteen-year old Orthodox Christian girl who is living apart from Christian young women of like values. I want to live modestly and be pure. This website has encouraged me a great deal. I printed out your advice for young girls and will follow it. Please pray for me as we are currently moving to a new state. Love in Christ, Maureen Mrs. Chancey, I want to commend you on your fine article on Patriarchy. You did a tremendous job of presenting what those of us who believe in Biblical Patriarchy believe. It is sad that the world has a different ungodly definition that confuses people. We have seen a situation up close and personal of that other type of patriarchy that is so distructive. That does not mean that we throw out the Biblical definition and quit striving towards what our Father wants. He is the true Patriarch and the Father of Patriarchy in the scriptural sense. After all, "patriarch" means "father." Godly men will desire to show forth what the true Father is like through their lives and thus will be good fathers. Thank you again for an excellent article. Love and shalom, Mrs. Serena L Hi, I just wanted to thank you for your helpful ideas and encouragement. I had some time (nearly 11 years) in my past understood and known how to do many of the things that you suggest here. However, after my first divorce I thought (wrongly now I KNOW) that I was more important to my children out in the workforce supporting them financially. I am giving my 2 weeks notice at my "real job" on Saturday, and will be bravely heading home. My kids and I together will earn sufficient income to provide for our needs by throwing newspapers in the early wee hours of the morning. BUT we will be doing it TOGETHER! My teens will be with me, and will KNOW because of where my time is that THEY are #1 to me. During the day when they are in school, I have found a company that will allow me to do work from home for 32 hours a week and that is how I will make sure that my kids have medical insurance. I will be able to work on meals, clean, and attend to homemaking because even though I will still be "working" it will be AT HOME where I belong, with my kids. Now, I just pray to my Father in Heaven that my efforts even at this late date (my oldest is nearly 17 with 2 years of high school left) will be sufficient and that my children will be blessed and I will be able to reverse and undo some of their suffering and the damage that was done by my absence. Mina P When I read the New York Times article about lesbian style, I got the impression that even pants (trousers) on women originated with homosexuals. I then did a little research on Marlene Dietrich, who was mentioned in the article. I knew nothing about her. It turned out that she was bisexual, and was embraced by the homosexual community. One article said, "...her adoption of trousers and other mannish clothes helped launch an American fashion craze..." I knew that American women had not worn pants really until the 1930's, which was when Dietrich was becoming popular. So all this was very interesting. I'm sure most of us don't realize the homosexual influence on fashion which has been around for so long now. ~ Cindy J. Hello, This website has helped me in more ways than you can imagine. I have been a fan of your website since I discovered it almost a year ago. I was raised by a single father, because my mother did not have God in her life and chose to drink and and cheat on my father. Their marriage ended when I was 10 years old. I was caught up in worldliness, dressing immodestly, and just in general not doing what Godly women do. After finding your website, I feel like I am where I am supposed to be. I resisted the urge to go to college, and I stay home now and serve my husband, and because my father lives alone and I live only a few miles away I clean and cook for him a few days a week as well. I hope my husband and I will be blessed with children soon. Our marriage was literally saved because of a few of your articles. We don't fight anymore, things seem to be very harmonious when you have God in your life. Keep up the good work, you are truly an inspiration. Sincerely, Jennine R Dear Jennine, God bless you for this most heart-felt letter! I am so sorry it has taken me so long to get to it. We have just been swamped with e-mail, and there are more here than we could ever hope to answer. But yours I definitely wanted to respond to, even at this late date! It truly is amazing how at peace we can be when we walk in the paths God has laid down for us as women.I feel such grief for the young girls I see who do not know that immodesty is a cheap way of selling themselves and even bringing harm to themselves emotionally and physically. I hurt for the young women who are growing up without a godly, supportive father who can shelter them, love them, and help them blossom into maturity as my own father did. I hurt for all the women who get into abusive relationships and marriages and do not know where to turn for help. In many ways, the Church is falling down on the job of reaching out to and loving these women. But I cannot point fingers, because I myself have not always expressed love and patience toward these dear ones. May God help women to help one another, just as He designed them to do (Titus 2:3-5)! May He teach us to have compassion even as we warn of danger ahead. I am so thankful that LAF has been a blessing to you. Mrs. Sherman and I started this site with you in mind! We may not have known your name, but we began LAF with a lot of prayer for the women out there who might not know there was any alternative to the "men vs. women" nature of our postmodern culture. With each article we put on the site, we are thinking of our sisters all over the world and praying they will be blessed and challenged. We are truly thankful when we hear from readers who bless and challenge us in return, because you remind us what this site is here for and help us keep going! I pray that your labor of love in caring for your father will prove richly satisfying as you also love and respect your husband at home. It really is hard to express to those who do not understand it just how fulfilling and satisfying it is when we lay our selfishness aside and seek to put others first. When we place the weak (infants, elderly, sick, etc.) before our strong desires, we learn the secret of deep-seated peace, love, and joy. Happiness isn't getting everything I want; it's learning that anything I could want can't possibly match up to the multi-faceted joys of human relationships--through all the ups and downs that go with fellow human beings! May the Lord richly bless you as you continue to seek ways to love and bless others through your life. No one else can do what you're doing. You are uniquely equipped and suited to minister to those the Lord has placed in your life, and you have been given a Queendom at home that is all yours! What an incredible delight! In Christ, Mrs. Jennie Chancey I would like to thank you for your wonderful website. You present a truly biblical and insightful view of womanhood. I am a high school English teacher at a Christian school and have recomended your sight to some of my female AND male students. Thank you tremendously for the articles on infertility. I admit that I was cautious about your web site until I read these. I am unable to bear children and my husband and I have decided not to adopt. I was encouraged to see articles that addressed this issue and did not imply that women should adopt or go through extreme measures to bear children. So many of my friends have children and just cannot understand how I can live a fulfilled life without them. I know that the purpose of life is to praise God and enjoy Him forever and that may or may not include bearing children. Thank you for your thoughtful, intellligent, and inspiring articles. Jenni Thank you so much for discussing modesty and the dangers of a lack of modesty. It so breaks my heart that even women of the church look so much like the world when it comes to how they dress themselves. I feel so sorry for the men of the church who come to worship God but are met with an overabundance of flesh displayed by their sisters in Christ. If it distracts me, I can't imagine what it does to them. Your site does much to help remind us of our own responsibility as ambassadors of Christ and the way in which we represent Him in the world. Please keep speaking the truth so more of us can keep our focus where it belongs. Sincerely, Donna B I was just thinking that the name LAF (laugh) is so good. Sometimes that's what we really need to do! So LAF at our silly ideas of gender-roles (or lack of them). LAF at the contradictions of feminism. LAF at the ridiculous arguments given by "Christians" for why they don't do what they should. And, LAF? Keep up the good work. V. V. (Miss) P.S. Don't LAF too hard. :) You hit the nail on the head! That is exactly why we chose to name the site Ladies Against Feminism -- because the LAF acronym was so wonderful! Remember how the Proverbs 31 woman "laughs at the time to come?" That's what we want to do -- laugh with godly joy. God bless you, Miss V., as you laugh with us! You're now a fellow "LAFer" as our readers often call themselves! Blessings in Christ, Mrs. Jennie Chancey Dear Ladies, I have been a faithful reader for a number of months now and am very thankful for the encouragement this site has been to me personally-- and to many other women, I'm sure. I am 19 years old and have had the benefit of two very godly parents and a family heritage, homeschooling, etc. I have found the intelligent and thought-provoking articles to be a strengthening influence on me when it came to understanding WHY I believe what I believe. Especially in regards to feminine dress have I received encouragement. As a young girl I wore frilly dresses all the time (sometimes to my mom's chagrin) and have never had a problem with what others thought of me. But as I got older I caved and began to wear jeans and t-shirts more often than not. I rejoice in the encouragement I get here that it is more than just Ok to love dressing up and looking lovely in a modest way! I have been wearing my gowns, skirts and frocks with pride and enjoying my girlhood richly! I love the beautiful historic paintings exhibited on the site and long for days when more women have some of that modest, beautiful taste. Thanks for your service to so many. God bless you. Sincerely, Chelsey A As a young woman, I must say it is very refreshing to find such a site! Women just don't understand the problems feminsim causes. I truly believe it does play a role in the destruction of marriage, simply because feminisim promotes a selfish, "me" based attitude. One of the greatest things women have going for them is their naturally caring, giving attitude. And no you aren't required to fix dinner or clean the house or give yourself sexually to your husbands; but I believe if you loved him, the desire to be a good helper to him would come naturally. Give without expecting in return...if you married the right man (and yes there are VERY good guys out there) you won't have to worry. Also, stop worrying so much about sex, it's destructive in the wrong context. What really gets me is how feminists are so hostile to men and seem to be so against them and yet are most likely to give themselves sexually. Giving yourself sexually to any man or men who don't truly love and respect you costs far more dignity than anything else we supposedly "aren't treated fairly on". I support choice...the God given choice not to have sexual relations! It is possible, ladies. Thank you for letting me get that out! Great site! ~ Tara What a perfectly lovely site! and such a Godsend for me. At present I am a single mom trying to hang onto my marriage (in spite of separation) and raise my children in a Godly way. There is very little support for women like me...many Christians shun single moms, and other folks don't see why I don't divorce my dh, put my kids in school, get a job and "move on" with my life. Anyway, all that to say that I love, love, LOVE what I see here and will be a frequent visitor:-) I enjoyed the article on hairstyles for older women..in particular I liked the style with the bun in the back and the bangs in the front (I think it was Carla?) The caption said that I could contact her for tips on this style here. I'd love to get another shot, particularly of the bangs to take to my hairdresser. Thanks so much! Fondly, Diane I was told about your site from a woman in my church. I have enjoyed it enormously and have told others about it as well. I will continue to use and support the site and will tell others to do the same. Women have definitely gone far from what God would have us be...let's get back to it!! Thank you Lisa S Thank you for your encouraging website. I am a guy from Australia who had come to think of all Anglo women as mentally unstable "shriekers". You gals have shown that womanly womanhood exists even in our western countries and is not confined to the "old countries" of Austria/Italy. I wish you all the best and pray for your success in the awful babylon of the US. I hope your country (and mine) turn back to the Lord and do not come under judgment. ~ Fred B. Dear Ladies, Something that has been bothering me for a long time was addressed in one of the recent articles: "Questions Concerning Piercings and Body Mutilation," by Mr. Douglas Phillips. As a new believer, I was in a Christian punk band, if you can believe it. It's a long story, but we really did have a ministry... As I grew in the Lord, however, I realized that, although my motives were sincere, it was time to grow up in Jesus and put my "punk" past behind me. Today I am a homeschooling stay at home Mom to two precious little boys-- and I am terribly embarrassed of the tattoo on my right forearm. AT LEAST it's a "Christian" tattoo (with a beautiful Cross and Titus 3:4-7), but it doesn't really "work" with my dresses and new feminine look, if you know what I mean! When young Christians see it and exclaim, "Oh, COOL!" I respond, "Thank you, but I really wish I had never done it in the first place." I can't afford the surgery to have it removed. I was curious as to whether the editors at LAF have any ideas, or know of others with this problem, and how they solved it? Thank you, as usual, for the timely and thought-provoking articles! I just became an LAF member-- I LOVE your website! I am learning SO MUCH! May God bless your much-needed ministry!!!!! In Christ, Mrs. T. E. I love your site. This is exactly what I have been looking for. Everything is so encouraging. Thank You, Brenda I just found your site a couple of days ago and I LOVE IT!! I have been struggling for years with the guilt that society heaps on stay-at-home moms, even though, in my heart of hearts, I knew I was doing the right thing. Keep up the good work because I know that there will (unfortunately) always be new, young wives and mothers out there struggling with the same issues. ~ Paula I have felt this way before about many articles, but after reading "Some Have Removed Landmarks" I just wanted to shout an "Amen!" How could they know how truly insightful their predictions would be. Sadly, this society has fulfilled every one. Please, Please keep up the wonderful work that you do, and keep the challenging and thought-provoking articles coming. Warmly, Mrs. Denise G I would like to thank all the women who put together this website. I am tickled that there are ladies out there with the same beliefs as myself. Growing up on a cattle ranch, I did not much opportunity to be feminine and delicate, but have tried to express it with dress and manners as an adult. I am thankful for the advice and articles that educate and encourage me to be a lady. Thank You, Mrs. Lori G Dear LAF, I enjoy reading many of your articles, and check your site whenever I check my email. Thank you for the article on modesty for little girls. I taught as a Christian school teacher for a few years, and would watch as my second and third grader's skirts would fly all over during recess. I would also watch the high school girls run in from gym in coulottes, which wasn't much better. Before I was married I decided that if I ever had a daughter she would wear biking shorts under her dresses. The Lord did bless me with a husband and a daugher and I will soon be making bloomers as she learns to walk. It seems manufacturers don't always make matching panties after babies stop crawling. My mother and I will enjoy making them ourselves! Thank you for an enjoyable site! Allison Thank you for the time, effort, and other resources that you put into this wonderful site. I am always finding new, encouraging information. I feel like I have a dear friend who is always there to encourage me in my walk with Jesus. I live in a very Liberal city and have not found many women who believe as I do. Visiting your site helps to remind me that I am not alone. God Bless you in your ministry. ~ Katrina C. These people who have mailed you and flamed you, What a bunch of Yay-hoos! Why are they so offended that this is the way you want to live your life? Why do they care? It's not as if someone put a gun to their collective head and forced them to read your website or your organization's mission statement! My wife works on weekends (but she makes a lot more money than I do), and we need her income to supplement our finances. She doesn't mind it, I love taking care of our kids, and that's our business. If your family is likeminded or no,that is your business. Isn't that just typical of Liberal thinking? They imagine that the rest of us are just too stupid to survive, and that only they hold the keys to all the answers that will liberate us sloth like simpletons from our yokes of ignorance. If thats the truth, then why is it that so many of the femi-nazi's who revile men so much want to look like us,and act like us? Some people just need to get a grip! Keep on doing what you're doing if you want and the critics be darned. ~ Steve I really can respect a site like this, especially when there seem to be so few ladies who are still modest and unselfish. I wish that other women would understand what the modern feminist movement has done to our society and to today's the treatment of women. ~ Janine I seldom respond to articles but this time I wanted to write. The article written by Julie Stoddard on 'Quiet Time With God' was so encouraging. It is so true, as a wife and a homeschooling mother, my days get busy with all the duties I enjoy so much that sometimes, the one place that seems to give, is my time with God. It's much like paying tithe, I think. When you are young you think that ten percent owed to God could really help your budget. Maybe you tried once or twice using that ten percent, on the guise of making it up, but you quickly find, you are eternally behind until you give God what is due Him at the first. When the first fruits are given to God, you never seem to be lacking in the end, just like He promise. I believe our time with God is the same way. The days I don't take time with God, and I hate to admit it, but there have been far too many under the cry of homemaker, I find I'm lacking in the end. Things don't get done, the children are difficult, or could it be that Mom is difficult, but on those days when God is given my first fruits of the day, there is a peace. Even when problems come and things seem like they are going to crater, there is a peace and He works everything out. I just wanted to write and say the article was very encouraging and appreciated. In Christ, Our Saviour, Lynne R I'm so glad I found this site! I am a 20 year old female college student. In one of my first classes our professor asked how many people in the class were NOT feminist. I was the ONLY person in the entire class to raise my hand. I decided that I was not feminist when I was about 17 after I read "A Full Quiver" by Stan and Jan Hess and "The Way Home" by Mary Pride. My professor tried to tell me that if I believed in equal wages for women and laws protecting women, that I was indeed a feminist. (The class was Critical Thinking, haha) I'm very happy I found this site. Keep up the good work. ~ Summer W. Dear Summer, God bless you, dear sister! You keep up the fight, because, believe me, it is going to be a fight. Your professor will be determined to convert you or at least utterly confuse you -- just as my profs did when I was in college ten years ago. I'd just love to send you a package of "ammo" for the fight. I have brand new copies of Domestic Tranquility, Forced Labor, and Goddess Unmasked. All of these will help thoroughly expose the folly of the feminist agenda. Also be sure to read through our Theme Articles (especially the one called "You Don't Know Feminism". The feminists always try to insist that if you believe wife abuse, rape, and slavery for women are wrong that you are a feminist. This is not only illogical -- it is irrational. You do not have to be a feminist to believe that these things are wrong. On the contrary, if you want to call yourself a "feminist" you are going to have to embrace a lot of ideas that are diametrically opposed to one another (see "What Is Feminism"). Do let me know where I can send the books. I'd really love to do it if you don't already have them! All the best, Mrs. Jennie Chancey Hello Ladies, I found your site maybe a month or more ago through a search engine. I must say that you are a great encouragment to me. When I married my husband three years ago now, I quit working in retail. I was a full time manager working at least 45 hours per week. I quit for many reasons. One was that I couldn't see how I could keep my focus on my marriage if I wasn't in the home for anywhere from 40 to 60 hours per week. Second my dear husband offered to help support me to follow my dream of being a freelance nature and landscape photographer. In the years following our marriage I struggled with feeling like I wasn't contributing to the house. Usually when I meet new people one of the first things they ask is where do you work. I always got strange looks when I said well first I'm a wife, and then I'm trying to work on my art from home. Boy did I get strange looks. I also would get comments like, well how to you just stay at home. Do you sit around all day? Ugh. Needless to say it was discouraging. The point of all of this is that you wonderful ladies are such an encouragement to me. Whenever I feel down or feel that I'm "just a wife" I stop by your site and read. Thanks Ladies, God Bless you!!! Maybe someday we'll get back to a society where the stay at home wife and or mother is not seen as someone who is just sitting at home all day. Kelly Thank you so much for your website. I read most of the articles and find them to be very informative and many times, encouraging. Keep up the great work. Thanks again, Cindy M. Dear LAF, I've visited this website time and time again, and have always found the best advice for homemaking, marriage, and family life. A few months ago I wrote, questioning about articles related to infertility, and God's timing in getting pregnant. I just got onto the site today, for the first time in a month, and was DELIGHTED to see 2 articles, one from Vision Forum, and one about the lady who waited for God's timing (although it didn't coincide with her timing). It filled my heart with joy, because I'm still waiting. My doctor is pressing me to be tested, and possibly start on fertility drugs, and even though this is the "norm", a huge part of me says (and this can olny be God)- "That's not how it's done!" I keep on pressing in faith, but I have to say that I'm grateful for the articles, which came at the right time for me. Please, PLEASE keep up the excellent job you're doing here. I read as many of your articles as I can, because I know the information will be useful when God does bless me with my babies. With Christ's Love, Mrs. Amy P Dear Ladies of LAF, I wanted to write and tell you Thank You! I found your site 8 months ago and have read every word voraciouly. Your articles on dressing nicely, in dresses have really inspired my daughter and me. We recently ordered two patterns from Sense and Sensibility. But today was a jewel of a day. On a whim my children and I stopped in a second hand store on the way home. To make a long story short, my daughter and I found a seven dresses!! We only spent $38.00!! It was a great way to jump start our dress wearing era! While we were trying on dresses my daughter (9), asked if we could wear them everyday, I said yes if she wanted to. Her reply I will never forget! "Really?, I thought we had to wear pants." I had somehow led her believe that jeans were the only acceptable form of clothing. How sad this made me, I spent my entire childhood in dresses. And I loved it! Isn't strange how we bow to others and make their ways our own, even when we don't like it! Thank you again ladies, your site has made a great impact on our lives, one that is greatly appreciated! Sincerely, Mrs. Misty L. A Hello LAF, I have read for the past few monthes on and off. Though I do not agree with everything that is written, I do believe in the general idea! And please forgive me that I don't agree. But I want to encourage you, after reading all the junk you have been recieving! FIGHT THE GOOD FIGHT, FINISH THE RACE!!!! This site is so refreshing after all the negative views we see day after day. Though I am not at the positiion to dress in skirts or dresses, I do desire modesty and feminity even in a pair of slacks. Thank you for advocating for women like my mother who gave up a lucrative career as a teacher to give me and my little brother the best childhood I could EVER ask for. Thank you, LAF! May our AWESOME Lord bless you! Jessica Dear LAF, Thankyou so much for all you do to repair the damage of feminism and restore dignity and pride to women who have been indoctrinated to believe they must act like men to be worthwhile! I was raised by a staunch feminist who openly told me that, if she could do it all over, she would never have given birth to me because I interfered with her career. You can imagine the emotional damage this caused a young child. I was also taught to look out for number one, be assertive and brash, mistrust men and disrespect Christ. This road led me to pain, sin, guilt and divorce. Spiritual turmoil ensued as I began to question my mother's path in an effort to provide something better for my own young daughter. God is good, and I found my way to His loving mercy and back to church. So much became clearer when I committed myself to living under the authority of Jesus Christ! God blessed me then with a wonderful man whose love and support help me endure 2 painful back surgeries after I was injured while working as a nurse. We married in 2003, and now my daughter and I have the home and family we've always dreamed of. I am no longer a nurse. I work part-time as a tutor, setting my own hours so I can be home for my family. I hope to stop working altogether as soon as possible. Your site has been so helpful in showing me the kind of home and family I wish to have. It is so nice to see ladies with traditional values championing feminity when the rest of society seems to have gone off its collective rocker. Being a feminine woman has made me so happy! My relationship has been so blessed by my return to more traditional womanhood as my husband loves my appreciation of his maleness. My daughter glows with pride, eats carefully prepared, nutritious meals and goes off to school in modest & feminine attire. We pray together each night. God's plans have benefitted me so much more than feminism ever could! God bless you and your site!!! Yours in Christ, Mrs. Peter P I love this site! I wish I had known about it sooner, it's like an oasis. I would like to offer encouragement, especially to other women that have children a year or less apart (we are blessed with two, that are 364 days apart) Don't let people- that express a negative reaction about the "spacing" of your children make you feel badly.(Sometimes it is even more difficult when the nay sayers are family or medical staff). Dont let it put a damper on your good news! Just remember that you are blessed by God.~ Karie S. This morning during my devotional time, I was reading Matthew chapters 5-6. One of the things I noticed was how closely many of the articles and information you have on this website parallels what I read. Having come to Christ as an adult who had been raised with and wholly accepting the beliefs of moral relativism, feminism, and atheism, I had no idea of what being a Bible believing Christian woman meant or looked like. Although I haven't always agreed with everything I've read here, I have been encourage, challenged, stregnthened and taught. Thank you for your ministry here, and for helping me to gain a picture of what a Biblical worldview and Biblical womanhood is. May God richly bless you and your ministry beyond measure. Sincerely, Mrs. F.S. M I wanted to send a litle testimony about how God continues to change me away from Feminist teachings. I am 44 years old and have been born again for 9 years. Recently I read some good books written by Mrs Delwyn McAllister editor of Keepers at Home (International)called "A Women's Vulnerabiltiy to Deception" and 6 marriage booklets she wrote. God used these books quickly to open my eyes. I had a "few" credit cards that my dear husband had authorised me to have and have had them for a few years now BUT God revealed to me personally that having these cards gave me a degree of "independence" from my husband. Basically I had the view of"they are my cards and I can spend on them as I wish without having to ask anyone" The payments were made so that wasn't the problem. The problem was becoming independent from my dh SO this week they have been chopped up,burnt and the accounts closed. I worked out I was spending a massive $880 a month on these cards - I was so shocked. I had not thought about it before. Keep up the good work LAF - your articles do truly help women who have been "deceived" by feminist and humanistic teaching. As a matter of interest most of the funds spent on the credit cards went to help family members who got themselves into trouble but my dh ended up paying for their mistakesand bad choices (with all the interest.) I truly believe that if I had kept those credit cards it would have had a long term effect on my marriage and relationship with my dear,kind,considerate husband. ~ Karen This is so wonderful-more please! Thank you. I am so glad I stumbled upon your web site. ~ Kimberly L. I am absolutely delighting in Lady Lydia's articles on homemaking--"the gracious home", "making home your career", etc. Thank you so much for your refreshing, encouraging words and advice. Keep up the great work--it's a sweet ministry to my soul! ~ Elese E. Hello there! Just a note to thank you for the lovely articles and beautiful pictures that go along with them. I recently enjoyed the one on wearing dresses in cold weather. I have to share something I discovered at Sears called "cuddle duds"--they are long underwear, very warm and comfy, but silky so they don't stick to my skirt. They only go down to mid-calf so they can't be seen and even if they are they just look like tights. There is a pretty little lace trim at the bottom. I love that they are so thin so I don't look like I've gained 20 lbs! Oh! I loved the article about the lady who had trouble finding a pretty nightgown for her little daughter. It's funny because I had the same trouble just a week or two ago! I finally found ONE pretty nightgown for her. It's amazing how difficult it is these days to find something sweet and feminine for little girls. Thanks again and keep up the great work! Elese I have just read the 2 articles by Kelly S on infertility, and Christian women being unable to concieve. I've been waiting to hear from God for 3 years, and both of her articles are right on the money. It is so extremely painful to get everyone's "help" on the subject, or their "ideas" on the subject. I wish there was a way to get this letter to everyone I know (especially my mother in law, who constantly pressures me and my husband for grandkids). I feel that in some churches, the pressure is so great to have children that it's almost unbearable to show up early, and stay after to chat. Mrs. Kelly made me feel that I wasn't the only Christian wife on the planet that can't bear a child. To that I want to express my deepest gratitude. Well done;-) I am in London, England and will certainly be sending your site to my female friends. I started my own site last year (www.challengingmen.org.uk)because frankly I had had enough! The debasement of men is ongoing, and the brainwashing gender-equality-agenda (which stinks) is now the standard. When will they realise that men are men and women are women? ~ Nicholas B. Dear Friends, I wanted to thank you so much for the daily encouragement you bring to me. I was brought up in a family of liberal women who were taught that men were stupid, dirty and controlling. I have been fighting against this my whole life. I can't express what a refreshing joy LAF is to me. I am now 25 and am entering my 6th year of marriage to a blessed and Godly man. He has been so patient in not only helping me to understand my God-given role but also to embrace and love it. Please pray that the Lord will continue to bless and encourage me and I pray the same for you.~ Alicia GOD BLESS YOU! GOD LOVE YOU! GOD KEEP YOU FOREVER AND EVER! Feminism is society's greatest down fall. This is why women are so unhappy today. Women belong where God intended them, happily in the home with the children. I am 15, I am the future and I will be a homemaker. Thank you so much for being here, I'll look to you for help and reference. Again, God bless you and continue on this work! ~Catherine Hello! I just wanted to let you know how much I appreciate the work that you do. Your web site is one of the few sources out there that is actually trying to make the world a BETTER place for women. I look forward to reading every article that you post. Sometimes, I find myself getting discouraged. I feel that everything is only getting worse in the world. I mourn for my two beautiful daughters and what they will have to go through. I am angry about what feminism has done to us, I mourn for all of the aborted babies, I feel ill-will toward those people who want my precious and innocent children to grow up in a world where homosexuality is not just tolerated but encouraged. I feel beaten by the world and so very alone. Then, I open up my email and see my beloved "change alarm". I rush to your web page and devour each and every article. It gives me strength to know that I am not alone after all. I know that you must get many hateful emails. It is my hope that one day those who don't understand your work will find the peace that we know. I hope that one day we can make the world better for our children. I truly believe that you are helping us achieve that goal. Thank you for everything that you do! Sincerely, Kathy J I can't begin to tell you how much I enjoy your website. I am an 18 year-old homeschooled girl, and I love beautiful clothes and beautiful homes. Your site was a breath of fresh air to me; so many conservative people concentrate soley on the modesty of our dress, to the exclusion of beauty, and too often end up looking dowdy and outdated. You make dressing modestly into a thing of beauty and a joy forever, instead of a painful Christian duty. I also enjoy your support of women staying at home; once again, not only because it is our duty, but because homemaking is an art in itself, and a wonderful opportunity. I want to share this quote by G.K. Chesterton with everyone at L.A.F., because I think that it is a good summary of your website, and most inspiring! "If drudgery only means dreadfully hard work, I admit the woman drudges in the home, as a man might drudge at the Cathedral of Amiens or drudge behind a gun at Trafalgar. But if it means that the hard work is more heavy because it is trifling, colourless, and of small import to the soul, then, as I say, I give it up: I do not know what the word means. To be Queen Elizabeth within a definite area -- deciding sales, banquets, labours, and holidays; to be Whiteley within a certain area -- providing toys, boots, sheets, cakes, and books; to be Aristotle within a certain area -- teaching morals, manners, theology, and hygiene: I can understand how this might exhaust the mind, but I cannot imagine how it could narrow it. (From 'What's Wrong with the World.') May God bless you and your ministry! ~ Candace H. I want to thank you so much for this sites which supports moms and daughters to be keepers at home. Even though I grew up in a Christian home with a stay at home mom. Staying at home and helping my family while single is a new concept to me. The Lord Jesus has blessed me with parents who love and support me at home. I am learning so much from the Word about the Biblical role of women. Sometimes there is a constant battle in my mind between the world and the WORD and LAF keeps me focused. This site convicts, challenges, and inspires me on to virtuous womanhood. Thank you so much for keeping me and others on track. May the Lord richly bless you for your efforts. Blessings to you and yours, Heidi Thank you! It is such a relief to find sites like this. Being 15, it is hard to be one of the few that dress and act properly and like a lady. Reading articles here and on a few other sites is a great encouragement to me. I just wanted to say I greatly appreciate your website. I will visit this site often.~ Ellen Thank you for writing what so many of my friends and I feel! Although we may be in university, struggling through and staying out late at jobs, the one point we all agree on is that feminism has failed us. Originally, it was supposed to be about choice. However, I have yet to run into a self-described "feminist" who allows that my heart's desire (to be the best wife and mother I can without letting anything interfere with those vocations)is a valid choice. In a women's literature class that I was enrolled in (I was hoping for Jane Austen and the classical women writers and can you guess what I got instead??) the instructor asked how many of us planned to become stay-at-home-mom's. I raised my hand, hoping that I wouldn't be the only one and was sadly disappointed. Instead, I received a lecture on how I should know better than that being educated and all. Keep up the encouragement! There are young, educated women out there who need to hear another side! ~ Elizabeth Dear Jennie, What a BEAUTIFUL article you wrote on "Mommy Madness"!!! It seriously made me want to cry in a good way! I am so blessed to have found this site and to know that being a mom and staying at home is a wonderful calling still at this day in age. Too often we get told otherwise in the world. I wish I could tell you how much that article meant to me, but I don't think it's possible. My fiancee and I envision a household exactly as you describe yours and when the rest of society is saying something like that isn't possible, it is nice to know that it is if you are willing to be different from the rest of the world. It has been such a blessing to read the articles on this site and yours inparticular. I have also been searching around on the Sense and Sensibility site and I love the dresses! I have a sewing machine and am looking forward to learning to sew when I get married (perhaps I might even get to take your online class). I can sew somewhat now, but I don't think anyone would actually want to wear anything that I've made in public yet :) . Well, I want to thank you once again for the encouragement you give to young women. You never know how many lives you are touching who don't even write to tell you and how many lives those women might touch. Keep up the wonderful work and may God bless you in all your endeavors. Sincerely, Ashlee M Mrs. Chancey, Your article entitled "'Mommy Madness' or Materialism Run Amok?" was absolutely splendid!!! I truly appreciate your insight and wisdom in this area.I, too, was raised by a godly mother who taught me to manage a home. What a blessing indeed!! His, Shari U I have really enjoyed exploring your site. It is nice to read a web site about women at home that isn't full of complaints about how under appreciated we are or how we need a ladies night out. It is also nice to realize I am not a weirdo for enjoying my home, my kitchen, my crafts and most importantly my family.~ Tara To the Ladies, I stumbled upon your site quite by accident. For the most part I've liked it and found much of the information to be helpful and encouraging. As a stay at home mother I have often felt the sting of raging feminism rhetoric, that I'm uneducated, lazy, and found lacking in so many ways. I'm glad to have found a site that promotes and celebrates the good work we mothers do in the home (and also those who are not mothers). Despite what the raging feminists might think about us, we are not submissive ninnies who are incapable of doing anything but fluttering our eyelashes and baking a mean casserole. I, myself do a majority of the household chores. Not only do I do the "feminine" things, but I also mow the yard, take out the garbage, take the autos in for maintenance and wash them, assemble multiple projects, and do a vast majority of home repair and upkeep projects. I am not a helpless girl waiting to be rescued, I am a beloved woman who's helpmeet respects and appreciates all my varied skills. Those who confuse "feminine" with "weak" have a very shallow view of the world. Am I submissive? No, I run the house, pay the bills, and raise the child. Most of the decisions regarding our home I make unless it's something big, then we both discuss it. I'm an equal partner who does just as much work as hubby I just do it in a different setting. But then again, I've never read anything that requires that a woman be submissive in order to be feminine. I like dresses and skirts and enjoy dressing up, but there are many things that are easier to do when wearing jeans and a T-shirt (gardening, playing with baby, cleaning, etc.). (Regarding clothing there’s one thing I read when I was younger that made a big impact on how I’ve dressed. It was a quote, “Clothes should be tight enough to show that you’re a woman, but loose enough to show you’re a lady.” It seemed like a good guide and I’ve stuck to it.) Now, while I agree that feminism has done some harm to the social structure of our society, I cannot agree that it is the sole cause. I think that the blame for that needs to rest directly on the shoulders of those responsible. The parents who think that parenting does not require effort, or guidance of their children. My mother worked two jobs to support my brother and I while we were growing up, but she did her best to ensure that we knew right from wrong and that we would choose to do the right thing. Not that either of us were perfect children, we did our fair share of trouble making, but the lessons she taught us early on have served us well and helped to make us responsible adults. Parents who will stand by and let their children be raised by the media and their friends are doing our communities a great disservice. They’ll complain about M.T.V, but they won’t cancel the cable subscription. They’ll whine about the trouble their kids get into with their peers, but they won’t do anything about the company their kids keep. And they’ll do nothing when their children flunk their lessons in school but blame the teachers instead of offering to help the children with homework. Shifting the blame from this type of parent onto an ideology is perhaps the greatest disservice of all. Feminism may have removed us from the home but it never said, “Stop teaching your children to do right.” Well, thanks for the opportunity to leave feedback. Even though most of it was aimed at the folks who think Moms like me are nothing but foot stools. I still appreciate the chance to voice my viewpoint, and to give kudos for your support of stay at home moms. And I apologize if this is a bit disjointed; it’s very late. Kind Regards, Elizabeth S I just recently discovered your website, which I must say I visit almost daily. I just read the mixing bowl article and I laughed to myself when I read it because I did indeed cherish my Grandmother's mixing bowl. I say cherish in the past tense because my husband (whom I love dearly even after the "mixing bowl incident" ) accidentally broke my grandmother's 1970 something orange mixing bowl! I gathered it up and I just couldn't throw all of the pieces away so I am still holding on to one piece of grandma's orange mixing bowl with no earthly idea what I will do with it other than look at it and remember all of the wonderfull pancakes etc. that were mixed in it when it was still in one piece. ( I am thinking maybe I will try to incorporate it into a brooch (somehow??) keep up the great work!~ Rebecca Wonderful Site! I agree with you fully. Thank you for this uplifting site! Luv in Christ, Elizabeth Thank you for this wonderful site! I am a mother of 13 children, and look forward to being both encouraged and challenged by your site. I am also one of those "strange" moms who has always limited her outside involvement in order to concentrate on making her house a home. Keep up the good work. Mrs. Sherry H. "Abortion and the Black Community" by Mrs. Dees was absolutely excellent and right on! May the Lord bless her and you all for sharing it!!!!!!!! All of us pro-life whites need to encourage our pro-life black (and all colors of God's rainbow) friends with articles like this! We have two adopted black/brown children whose parents couldn't take care of them due to extreme dysfunction, and we were grateful that they didn't abort them. THey have been a blessing to us and will be to their world as pro-life functioning adults thanks to the fact they know the Lord and are home schooled! ~ Shari M. Dear LAF, I so appreciate your site. I, too, stand opposed to the feminazi agenda that has stolen the hearts and minds of millions of men and women. I was raised by a feminist mother who was pro-choice and a member of NOW. Even she has gotten wise to much of the propaganda. Feminism has not given us any choices or freedoms, it has only stolen from us. I am deeply saddened by comments from readers who disparage those of us who have made choices to stay at home with our children. My question to them is, "Who are YOU?" IF feminism is about choices (which it is not), then why the anger towards those who have made one? Their anger and hostility betray their hypocrisy.~ Kim I am greatly enjoying your site. I've already read so many great articles and there are many more to go! I'm a single 40-year-old woman who would dearly love to be a housewife. I worked in the past as a nanny and housekeeper and enjoyed it, but couldn't make a living or have my cats. Live is hard enough as it is, but it's awful to have the world add to our stress by trying to make us what we're not. I'm so happy I found your site and will continue to come here as frequently as I can. All the best, Lilibet P. Dear Lydia, I'm a faithful reader of your site and just wanted to thank you for all you do for us women. Your website is invaluable to me! I look so forward to the updates. I wanted to also thank you for your confirmation that the church ought to take care of single mothers, so she can take care of her children. I am a single mother of 3 daughters, and have been able to remain at home. It's very hard on me at times, but God has always provided. I have a cottage business from home that I work in my spare moments, putting the priority on my girls. My church helps us occasionally, but they do feel a woman ought to work if she is single. Being a homemaker is not preached anymore, whether a woman is married or single. I wish I could find a church where this was preached, along with girls not going to college, and so many things I read about on your site, your blog and Vision Forum. Thank you again for all you do. I am sure you are attacked much by the world, but please never ever stop! We need you desperately! ~ Janet W. http://www.pineblossomswebpages.com/raggedyjanet Hello, Thank you for your wonderful site! I have been reading your site for a couple of years now, and generally it is VERY edifying. We women need this godly encouragement, especially in this culture. Sometimes I feel intimidated and pressured by the "feminine dressing" aspect (though I totally agree with it). Sometimes it's hard when I want to fix my closet all at once, but I've not yet lost the baby weight, and I don't have much time to sew new clothes that fit! So I end up feeling like a guilty failure shlepping around in my old maternity pants (the maternity dresses I made now look ridiculously large). One step at a time, though. Love in Christ, Ann N Dear Ladies, I read with interest the article on feminine dress. As a pastor's wife, mother, and registered nurse I have been told that to wear a dress at home and at church is acceptable, but wear a dress to work at the hospital just isn't practical! Nonsense! I have never once not been able to do my job just because my uniform doesn't include pants. Many opportunities to share Christ with others starts with the question, "Why do you wear a dress?" What a compliment to how God has changed my life both on the inside and on the outside. Your Sister In Christ, Ruth G I just wanted to say how refreshing it was to read James Spangler's letter (God Gives the Desire to Obey and Provides the Means). I printed it out so it could be presented to my husband as an encouragement. There seems to be some difficulty finding Christian men with the time and inclination to encourage and support one another. With the time they must spend working, attending church services, ministering to their familes, etc. there doesn't seem to be much opportunity for building each other up in the Lord. The wonderful men's group at our church is able to meet once per month, and our family is working on having people in our home more often. In the meantime, it's wonderful to find articles written by men, such as the one submitted by Mr. Spangler. I'm sure my husband will appreciate it. ~ Mrs. Michelle L. Hi I would like to thank you for your activity. Feminism is so irretating lately. Many politics use feminism as tool to reach their own private goals. Mankind dont need such feminism which provokes war between man and woman. I cant assosiate beauty with feminism, becouse the most feminist women are simply ugly, thats why they become feminists becouse of leak of love from men. I am absolutely sure that such beautiful women like you are loved. You deserve many flowers. From Russia with love. ~ Yuri Thank you for this website. This is going to become a valuable resource for me. I lead seminars and classes for teen girls, and this information is truth. Thank you very much. Helpful suggestion: Consider referring to "single" women as unmarried, because we appreciate a title that better reflects our status. "Single" is a painful lable, and it's not truth. As far as I'm concerned, Christian women (and girls) are never single, for we have Christ, family, and Christian sisters as partners in this life. ~ Teri L. C. I have enjoyed and appreciated the articles that I have read on your website. As a new wife and expecting mother I am encouraged by the helpful tips on being a godly wife and mother, raising godly (not simply good) children, and wise use of the resources God has given to my husband and I. I just read the article on saving money at the grocrey store. I would certainly appreciate more on this subject. I would also like to note, my mother has bought Mexican vanilla in much larger quantities than 8 ounces (maybe a liter?) and for a much better price. She would usually find it at the local family-owned Mexican restaurant, though a Mexican specialty store would probably carry it for a reasonable price. I found it to have a much stronger flavor that regular store bought. And it keeps in the fridge for years. It is just a little thing to mention but I thought it might be helpful to someone. Thank you so much for your website and your effort to guide other ladies in godliness. ~ Sara W. Thank You so much for your encouraging website. According to the book of Titus, the woman is to be the "keeper of the home". How wonderful it is to find other believers. God has a beautiful role for women in His plan. Thank You for your articles. They are wonderful. ~ Reva Dear LAF, I wanted to thank you for the encouragement I've received from your site. I found you just a few weeks ago and have been encouraged and blessed by reading the articles on your website. I am a single mother (not by choice) who is raising a son while helping to care for aging parents--my father is quite ill right now. It is difficult, but good work. I would love to be able to stay home and homeschool my son, but it is just not financially possible with all the responsiblity. Perhaps someday! Know that though I can't join you all at home just now, I fully support you and your work, and try to implement as many of your lovely ideas as possible into our family life. Blessings on you and your readers! Kelly I'm enjoying your site. I'm a 20-year old female in the military stationed at Ft. Gordon, GA (born in North Carolina). I've read your site's opinions on females in the military and, while a military member myself, I tend to agree with some of it. Women aren't always treated well. However, I swore that I would serve in the military for 4 years and I will keep my word. You site has helped my to understand what it means to be a female. When I'm allowed to wear civilan clothes, I know I will be dressing 100% better than I did before. I look forward to learning how to sew. Your site made me proud to be a woman. I know that I can be looked upon as graceful and respectable, not the weaker half of the human race. I don't have to be as strong as a man to be worth something. I want to take classes to learn some of the things I have forgotten and break some bad habits I've gotten into (cussing, sitting without my legs crossed, etc..). Thanks again. ~ Laura Dear Ladies against Feminism, I am a Roman Catholic Seminarian who frequents your site often. Although I do not share all of your beliefs and opinions, I am extremely grateful for the relevant news and reflection that your site provides on issues pertaining to sexuality, the family and gender issues. Your site offers a healthly alternative to the seriously disordered understanding of the human person and sexuality presented by our culture. Thank you. In Christ, Jason K I remember daycare from when I was young. I think the only way I survived it was by escaping to my home, just down the street, every chance I could. My Grandfather, who lived with my single Mother and I, would sometimes bring me back, but most of the time if I was quiet I could just wait for Mom there. Later, when my "babysitter" retired Mom had me wait in the coffee shop across the street from the bank where she worked. I called her my sitter in quotes, because as the only one who was attending parocial school I was usually left in charge of the other 8-10 children, even those several years older. And did I ever get into trouble when they misbehaved! I am so blessed to have a husband dedicated to home raising and schooling our children. My babies will never have to go through that! Thank you for this site. It bears repeating often Mrs. Annie C Hello I am Patty.I homeschool my children and my husband works to support us, just the way it was in the old days! I would like to tell you how much I enjoy your Website. I like the articles about caring for family and husband and about modesty the very best, yet all the articles I have read so far are so true to my way of thinking,its nice to have an old fashioned web site that is Godly and helpful and daily updated with relative articles. I read daily the new ones and enjoy them, also. Don't listen to the pagans who do not like you, as I believe from what I've read that God is using you to help others, he has used you to help me alot. this site makes me feel good, knowing I am not the only one who struggles with the issues you discuss about trying to be a feminine Godly woman these days. Please keep up the good work. What an inspiration you are. Patty This website has been such an encouragement to me and I continue to come back to it and to the Word so that I can stay grounded and rooted in this present day. Please continue to speak the truth in love and encourae women in godliness and femininity. blessings and peace, Mrs. Kevin D. G. I am so alive with what I have read! It was a lazy Saturday morning and I came to my now favorite website and decided to read the negative comments you recieve. My blood is rushing through my body at a rate which opens my eyes and hightens my sences to my surroundings. I have known of the differences in opinions concerning stay at home moms, and God's desire for women, but I have to admit I often choose to hide my head in the sand to avoid confrintation when I can. I do not want to risk getting discouraged. However, I am so glad I read what you have to read on a regular basis. I did not read all of the entries but the lack of maturaty was enough to prove the lack of the Holy Spirit's leading in their lives. When I read of the not so ideal life one young girl said she felt was not the norm and that was the reason for her not beleiving she could live a life of biblical womanhood ,I was amazed at her obvious disconection with biblical ladies of her age or any age for that matter. There are many of us who have not had an ideal life. There is no one perefect no not one. My life is full of christian women from friends to relatives who have faced a childhood with unbelievers and have found Jesus then put Him in their life and were able to have godly marriages and pursue biblical womanhood. If we let less than ideal situations in life deter us from trying for a godly life then we would not have the opportunity to "grow in the Lord". A common denomenator of all of the negative emails I read was that of selfishness. The cursing, the hate, and desire to kill is very sad and proof of the violence of today. Independent attitudes of not wanting to share of themselves through possible children or their spouses make them sound so bitter and angry. I can understand whyit would be hard to follow Christ after seeing a father or husband who was a royal hypocrite in church then a wife or child beater at home. I have a grand mother who went through that kind of a life and it did turn her off to God. But she is a believer today and loves her family dearly including her husband, children, and grandchildren. She embraces feminity and talks with me about the Lord. My other grandma had a drunk for a father and her mother stayed with that man anyway. {Something a feminist would not do, unless he made alot of $ and let her persue her career and stayed out of her hair.} My grandma grew up to rear her children in the Lord, be a stay at home wife and mother, had a practically perefect house, cooked like a pro and she , her mother , sister and brother saw their father and beloved husband accept the Lord as his savior before he died. My mother never knew the drunk. She knew a funny, lighthearted man that grandma drove around everywhere and she never knew why. I knew the same man. I wish he lived for my husband to get to know. He would have loved him, too. I think maybe God is trying to teach us to stick it out for life. Because none of us are perfect. I don't think the feminists beileve in sticking it out. People are rather disposable I guess. I need to get to my children. They are getting a little rowdy here in the living room. I am proud to have 3 boys whom I have to get onto now and then for being rowdy. They are the kind of boys who will be brave enough to fight if our country needed them too in the future. This is a free country, girls! We have a lot of freedoms! Blessings to my favorite website, Cathy I often have a hard time expressing to other women how I feel about feminism as a whole. It's concept is just...women should be treated fairly in the world, but it has been grossly perverted by "femi-nazi" types. Some of my "sisters" have actually labeled me as sexist because of my views! Why must I keep a 40-50hr/wk schedule to validate my existance? Why must my home always look a mess because I just haven't the time to tend to it? Why should my man come home from work and have to find himself something to eat? While I don't believe that it is "a woman's place" to be in the kitchen bare foot and pregnant, kissing her man's toes, I also reject the idea that she is selling herself short by making of herself a career homemaker! I mean, if he has the ability to earn enough for the household, she should be able to do whatever she wants, right? Isn't that the core of feminism; freedom of choice??? Thank you for this site. I get tired of women telling me what I need to do outside of my home to justify myself. What these modern day feminists don't understand is that they are the only ones oppressing us with their judgemental finger wagging. Not men. They don't understand that while they're running around screaming of strength and equality, they are running themselves ragged. While we are not the "weaker" sex, we are the fairer sex and we DO have our limits. This is why so many of us today are seeing psychiatrists and taking mood enhancing, mind altering prescriptions...we are too busy trying to keep up with the men and not taking care of ourselves and our homes. ~ Kim I wanted all of you to know how much I appreciate your website. My husband and I are on the brink of a major life change and you website is helping me through that. My husband and I have a 10 month old son and for financial reasons I have to work fulltime. We are very frugal people (the last time we ate anything but a homecooked meal was 6 months ago) but still can not survive on only my husband's salary. We are trying to sell our home and move back to his hometown and start over. He has an offer of employement and the same paycheck will go much farther so that I will only have to work a couple of days a week. I am tryng desperately to not focus on the "what if" scenarios and focus on the goal ahead with a positive attitude. I check out your site daily and enjoy reading about all of the stay at home moms and their experiences. It is helping me prepare myself for being home more. Good Luck to all of you, Denise I just wanted to thank you from the bottom of my heart for acknowledging that many, many women wish we could be homemakers, and feel like feminism isn't all that it was cracked up to be. But even more, I thank you for giving tips for those of us who wish we were home but aren't. I am working toward being home full time, but it will be several years before I get there. In the meantime, I was so glad to see a site glorifying traditional marriage and womanhood that doesn't make me feel terrible for working. My husband and child and home are and always will be my first priority, and it's nice to see I can put them first as much as possible while still working! Thanks again...this site is a calm breath of fresh air to me. Rebecca Mrs. Chancey, I just read your response to Julia who wrote such an awful letter in response to the article on protecting ourselves by dressing modestly. It was beautifully done. You spoke the truth in love and gave a well thought out response. I have to say that I love your website. I check in everyday and sure did miss when you were offline for so long. I have 2 of my daughters now that are also readers of your site. May the Lord richly bless you. Love and shalom, Serena Thank you so much for keeping the article, "Against the Proletarization of Women" at the top of the page on Biblical Womanhood and Christian Living. I've been reading most of the articles on the site for several days and by far that has been the most helpful and encouraging to me. I grew up in a household where my Grandmother stayed home and most of the time my Mom stayed home when she could (being a single mother). I long to be the homemaker that I know is my destiny. I do not yet have children (another article - The Empty Womb has been helpful as well) and my husband believes that if a woman does not have children then she should be out in the workforce. He has even said that when we do have children I need to be open to the possibility of having to work then as well. My husband was raised by a mother who is very liberal in her thinking. Her daughter is the same way. The working world is much more important to them than their family. They have made fun of me because of my Christian beliefs and background, they do not see being a homemaker as a viable option. This is how feminism has been destructive in my life. My husband will not allow me to stay home despite how tired I am mentally and physically and despite the fact that I have a chronic illness. I am expected to work just as hard as him in earning a paycheck but I am also to be his housekeeper and lover. My house is in chaos, and while I'm at work all I can think about are my duties at home which causes me to make mistakes at work. I honestly could go into much greater detail but I just wanted the contributors to this site to know that because of what I've been reading, I take comfort in the knowledge that I am not alone and that I have a very healthy and biblical desire to be the keeper of my husband's home. I will keep praying that the Lord will speak to my husband's heart on this and I will keep praying that God will give me strength to go into the office everyday. I will pray that one day soon I will walk into my home for good, I will walk into my freedom. God Bless You. Mrs. Amanda D Wonderful site ladies. I am sad to say that I am one of the young women today that feel weird about wearing dresses. To be honest, the only time I remember wearing a dress is when I was a little girl. I remember being in one of my classes last year (11th grade) and getting into an argument with a girl who thought I was crazy for saying that a mother should be at home with her children. God bless and keep up the good work! ~ Marie I've been reading LAF for several months. Over the past two years I've lost a significant amount of weight. Suddenly there was a whole world of clothing out there that had never been accessible to me. I bought things the world considered "fashionable" but I wasn't comfortable. It was hard to act normally but try to keep everything covered up! I began taking clues from my daughter. She is four years old and wears dresses nearly every day. She says she feels pretty in a dress. I started wearing more skirts and dresses and found I too felt more attractive. My family was at a neighborhood get-together today. My daughter and I were both in dresses. One older lady commented how refreshing it was to see someone wear a dress. Another woman agreed and complimented my daugher and I on our appearance. The conversation has rattled around in my mind all day. Isn't it a sad commentary when wearing a dress is seen as refreshing? I just ordered some clothing from Hannah Lise. Thanks so much for providing that link from your page. The clothing offered fits my personal style perfectly. I'm so excited and can't wait for my husband to see what I ordered. He really enjoys seeing "his girls" all prettied up. Thanks so much for your efforts at LAF. Mrs. David S Wow! Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!! What a terrific site. I am a home school mom of 6, 8 total; am a retired professional now a stay-at-home mom. My sisters, all Christians, work more than full time and think I am nuts! I have very little support among former friends and my extended family. So, you are a breath of fresh air. The hardest place to fit in is church! Your articles are all so good - I felt that way about everything, but hardly hear that point of view except from other Christian home schoolers. I would like to see some articles on fixing hair! I need ideas for my two caucasion teen daughters, my one 6 year-old african american daughter, and myself - a 46 year old caucasion farm wife!!!!!!!!!!!!! We need ideas of God honoring, husband appealing hairdos (and don'ts). Pictures and how-tos would help. Will watch for them in the future on your site as I know this will excite you to write about! Thanks again and the Lord bless you!!! ~ Shari LAF ~ I haven't written to express my thanks sooner, becuase I'm sure you get dozens of emails like mine...but here I am. :) (laugh) I sincerely want to thank you though, for the hard work and time that must go into keeping this web-site up and going. I enjoy so much reading so many encouraging articles. Now, as I am twenty, it has only been in the past two years that I have begun to embrace the call of womanhood in a way I never have before. (Thanks to Mr. Phillips and the Vision Forum, for clarifying things) The Lord has used your site to encourage me in my mission of living according to the Bibles standards and not my own, and not the worlds...It's a blessing to see that there truly is a remnant. There are other women with this vision, that is so often laughed at by our society, and yet, oh how beautiful this vision is. Praise be to the Guide of my youth, and the God of my life, my heart has softened, and my thinking altered. I pray I always have the strength to share with others, the knowledge I continue to gain, through your site. May the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob be with you...may the work of your hands prosper, and may you always know the joy, of our Lords salvation. ~ Kelly B Thank you so much for writing 'The Empty Womb'. It is a great comfort to know that I'm not the only one who is/has gone through this. To know that the feelings I have are not rare and that God is there for me and has plans for me. I'm glad you took the time to share your heart with us. ~ Christina I have been on your site off and on for about two years I think. I love it!!! Wonderful! Where is your blog???? I think the blog is a wonderful idea!!!! Thank you for the support-I treasure it! ~ Kristen W Mrs. Sherman's blog is online at HomeLivingHelper. Thanks for asking! I just want you to know what a blessing it has been for me to read and browse your website. I have been encouraged, strengthened and had many questions answered. I was especially moved by the article "Two Sides to the Coin". My husband and I lost our baby Abigail Grace a year ago Feb 3rd. We have been trying to conceive again since June. This has really helped me put into prospective the meaning of trusting God. Thank you and God Bless. ~ Jennifer H. I would just like to say how much I appreciate your site, I came across it last week and have very much enjoyed reading large portions of your material, it certainly provides food for thought. I'm a 31 year old mother of three (one on the way) and very much wish I had come across your site years ago, when as a young high flying career woman of 24 I discovered I was expecting our first. Once he was born I realised that I really should not foist him onto someone else, (though I had planned on going back to work quickly). My husband and I had a very rocky time as I got used to being a SAHW; I had no knowlege of any form of homekeeping my life had been spent acheiving accademic success and building a career, I didn't have a clue. Dispite the disabrobation of society and more hurtfully close family, we got though it and out the otherside, but how much easier that time would have been if we had been prepared. Our daughter won't find herself so cast adrift I'm pleased to say, and our sons will be prepared to provide for their families in a proper way. Many thanks for all the time a effort you put into this site Mrs Theresa S. I am so thankful to those who developed and care for this site. It has been such an encouragement to me in my walk as a Christian. I was born and raised in a religion and later in life was blessed to find a deeper truth. In studying the Bible, I came to see that there were many things I did that were not pleasing to Him, so I tried to eliminate as many of those things as possible. Then the Holy Spirit started to guide me more and more toward the living of a life set apart for Him and for His service. I live in Lancaster County, PA, a very conservative area and culturally diverse as well. There are many lovely Amish and Mennonite ladies that wear dresses, but I did not belong to one of those churches and wondered where the Lord was leading me in all of this. When my husband and I adopted our first son, I was still obligated to work part-time, but my child was allowed to accompany me (to a law office!) and the burden was eased. I was still unsure about this issue of modesty and set it aside temporarily. We adopted a sibling group later, consisting of three darling little girls and one little boy. It was when I began seeking to dress my own daughters that I began to see how far from modesty clothing had really come! I began to research modesty again, and I stumbled upon your site in my renewed quest to learn more about modest dress. I began trying to wear dresses and encourage my daughters to wear them as well. At the time, my oldest daughter (now 9) was pretty rebellious about that...It seemed her birth father tried to keep her pretty tomboy-ish, and she absolutely hated the thought of wearing any kind of dress, although her sisters loved to be "pretty". Well, I prayed about the situation for a long time, and used your articles as points of discussion with my daughter. I started her out with a few coulatte-style outfits, what she calls a "shorts-skirt". But a few months later she surprised me by actually asking to wear a dress for the day! The rest of the summer all of my girls were delighted to wear dresses. It was only once fall/winter came upon us that they started beggin to wear pants again (has anyone dealt with this?)...I am looking forward to spring if only to see them in their sweet little dresses again! In the meantime, my mother has recently moved much closer to us, a blessing in many ways (we had our first born child in the fall). She is not in favour of the girls wearing dresses all the time, and neither is my mother-in-law. It is more than a little difficult to train the children when not only do some friends make them feel odd, but also their own grandparents and aunts/uncles/cousins. If you have any suggestions in this as well, I would certainly appreciate them. Meanwhile, thank you so very much for your articles. The modesty issue was only the beginning for me....I now comb your site often seeking wisdom, ideas and helpful hints and - most often - encouragement! Blessings to you! ~ Mrs. Lester B. (Mary) H Finally someone who knows what I am feeling. I am a product of the moms of the 1970's. The mothers who went out to work instead of staying home with the kids. Because my mother worked out side the home, I found myself taking care of my two younger siblings at an age that would be considered abandonment by today's standards. I did not want that life style for my children and am a Registered Nurse who came home to raise her family. I also home school all three of my children ranging in ages 10-5. I have received many comments about how I can't possibly be smart enough to teach my children, that I am ruining them and of course this all time haunting question, "What about socialization?" I feel that my generation is a generation who wants to do God's perfect plan for the family. Since the ladies of my mother's time period went out to work, they really don't have any understanding of what it takes to stay home and educate your family, as well as house keeping and being the mate to my husband that I am to be. There are no Titus 2 women for us to glean from. So, I say all of this to say Thank You for your wonderful website that I came come to and get the helpful information or support that I need. May God Bless You, Mrs. Gayla M I really do not understand some of the inflammatory feedback I see here. First, much of it is so poorly written as to betray a true lack of education. Then, there is a great misunderstanding of many issues. Regarding the comments on birth control: it is really too bad that feminists can't see that it is birth control that has vastly increased the useage of women by men. When the possibility of fatherhood was ever-present, most men were resigned to act responsibly. It is Christianity that taught a dual purpose of the "marital embrace" (procreation and unity of the spouses), which goes hand-in-hand with not seeing women as mere objects for men's pleasure. The capability in a women of bearing children is the very thing that awes many men... Even this awe is attacked by the promulgated view of babies as burdens, as "enslaving," rather than as treasures. If we all saw the beauty of a human being, we would have to agree with Mother Teresa that saying there could be too many babies would be like saying there are too many flowers in a field or too many stars in the sky. ~ Sarah Blessings to all of you who work on and support LAF! I have just read as much as I could stomach of the article on "Friends, Friends with Benefits,...etc" in the New York Times. I believe I got through 4 pages before Ijust couldn't take any more. I am SO disheartened, discouraged, and ashamed for our society. "Things" have gotten so much worse since I was a teenager. I cannot imagine what will be considered acceptable behavior when my three year old daughter is a teenager. Now more than ever I KNOW that we are doing the right thing by moving to a rural area and homeschooling. I know we cannot protect her from the outside world entirely--but she deserves time to be child. When I accepted Christ at age 28 God gave me the most wonderful gifts along with the priceless gift of Eternal Life! Amoungst these gifts were a sense of modesty, humility, chastity, and the ability to once again blush. As we raise our beautiful girl, whose name was carefully and specifically chosen to honor God, we will continue to pray, on our knees, asking God's forgiveness and that He, the only one who can, will open the eyes of our nation, and make all of her people ashamed of what we have allowed and what we have become. As painful as it was--I thank you for openin my eyes. I love this website and am encouraged that you are here. ~ Mrs Kelly D I stumbled onto this site by accident while searching for commentary about Carolyn Graglia's book, and I haven't been able to stay away. My husband gently chided me for it, saying I didn't need to read this to please him. I explained that the content genuinely interested me, and that I needed the support of my decision to be a full-time mother. I have always been very old-fashioned,deep down, but bought into feminism's lies at a young age. I wish the views and information here had been available to me 20 years ago. I'd have had a much happier life. But, I believe God always had a plan for me, and it includes finding what I need, when I really need it. I feel sorry for the women who write in to trash your site. When they claim that you are uneducated and ignorant, in poorly spelled, un-grammatical rage, I have to laugh. They are disproving their own theories. May God smile on your efforts, and show these poor, empty souls the light! ~ Mrs. G. It became clear to me a few years ago that feminism has been a destructive influence upon society, churches, and families. This is one major reason I began to support LAF after I learned about their website. Their mission is to battle these feminist influences, using Biblical truths as their guide. Sadly, the feminist religion so rules the day that church leaders have adopted its ideologies and mix them with Christianity rather than boldly teaching the truth of God’s Word. The result is the increased feminization of churches, the degradation of masculinity in men and femininity in women, and an epidemic of divorces among Christians families. Years ago I attended seminary, which was associated with a four-year college. I think I was the only one among both men and women who dressed nice and dressed modestly (yes, I think men should set the example by being modest). I felt really out of place. Approximately 50% of the student body in the college and seminary were women; a large number of them wore immodest attire during the warm months when class wasn’t in session. Other times their attire was manly. There was rarely any discussion by the faculty about these things, nor what it meant to be masculine or feminine from a Biblical sense. There was very little discussion about gender roles, although it was generally understood that men were the leaders in the church. I often read men’s ministry books; but from time to time I’d go visit the bookstore to see if I could find what was being taught in women’s ministry books. I was curious to see if I could find a definition of Biblical femininity and modesty; I never found them mentioned. This points to another great thing about LAF - a woman will learn more about being a Biblical woman on the LAF website than they will after four or more years of high-priced Christian College and Seminary! As a single man, I have to confess that I’ve done a bit of on-line internet “dating,” as some would call it, on Christian singles websites. These forums need to be approached with great caution and wisdom, but I felt I didn’t have many other options for finding a wife. I’m very specific in my profile about what I look for and explained what I believe to be the true character of a Biblical woman. I even mentioned things like submission, homemaking, and home schooling. Unfortunately most women on these sites frown at any hint of these topics and I received very few responses. I remember one day when a lady wrote and told me that both her and her pastor believed that Paul’s instructions about wives submitting to husbands had nothing at all to do with wives! I was stunned. How could anyone come to that conclusion? I had a nauseating feeling in my stomach, too. That is when it really hit me how far churches have strayed from God’s Word. I began to really mourn the loss of Biblical womanhood, and even felt like wearing sack cloth and ashes. I didn’t go that far, but that is how I felt! I also noticed on several singles websites that there are often 20,000 or more Christian women signed up at any one time; out of these, over 50% are divorced. When I did a search on one Christian website (there are several large ones) it numbered 11,000 divorced women. Several hundred others were never-married women with one or two children. Each day, hundreds more women join these sites. I’ve read hundreds and hundreds of profiles; a great number of these women claimed they grew up in Christian homes and became Christians when they were young. But somewhere something went terribly wrong in their lives, and I often asked myself, “What is going on here? Why are there all of these divorces?” As I’ve pondered these questions, I believe I’ve come up with some answers based upon what these women show or say in their profiles. I can pretty much tell which women have the greatest chance of ending up divorced. Although most women say they follow Christ and desire to please their Lord first and foremost, it is obvious to me they ignore the Biblical teachings on the activities and character of Biblical women. Very few express desires to be homemakers and mothers; most have a career and desire to maintain it. Very few say they know how to cook a nice meal and exercise hospitality; they didn’t have time to learn those things. Most of them enjoy doing activities that used to be the realm of men only. They apparently learned much about being like a man but little about being a truly Biblical woman, helpmeet, and mother - things that a Christian man desires most in a wife. Given what I’ve seen on these websites, I’m thankful to LAF, which I visit regularly, for letting me know that there are actually women out there who truly desire to obey God’s Word and desire to develop a true Biblical character! One of the greatest disappointments in my life has been our churches. My last church approved women to be pastors and elders; myself and a dozen or more families promptly left (I did talk to one of the pastors and he disagreed with my views). I noticed many warning signs prior to that time - many women dressed immodestly, many women were encouraged in leadership roles while the men were neglected, and sometimes the women taught the men. The music became very effeminate, which is common with today’s Contemporary Christian Music (CCM). This kind of music hardly stirs the masculine soul of men. It also can be very sensual or outright boring! Unfortunately, as I visited church after church, I noticed all the same things. I found that the pastors’ wives and daughters were often the most immodest! This was often true even in the “conservative” and “traditional” churches. I can tell pretty quickly that Titus 2 teaching is being ignored in these churches, and it is probably best to stay away. As of this writing I still don’t have a church home. An acquaintance and I are contemplating starting a new church based on the teachings of Vision Forum ministries and the National Council of Family Integrated Churches (NCFIC). I routinely copy articles from the LAF site and put them in a three ring binder as a reference for women, so LAF will indirectly be a part of our church too if we can get it going. I’d like to thank the women at LAF and those readers who submit articles for being a great resource. I’ve always admired femininity in women; I often sigh in approval when I see pictures of ages past when women often wore dresses, long hair, and bonnets. They seemed to dress that way no matter where they were. I’ve often longed for those kind of days to return, when women were much more feminine and respectable. Today they often act and look like men, with the exception that most still wear long hair so you can tell they are female. This may be more typically Western, though, as I’ve seen picture after picture of African and Indian women wearing bright, colorful dresses, while the Western missionary lady standing next to them is wearing blue jeans and an un-tucked flannel shirt. I have to say that a woman in a dress and with long hair wins great admiration in my book. These are very feminine, attractive, and respectable! I am especially partial to flower print dresses, pretty colors and hair bows, something that is rare today. A nice hat with flowers on it is a big plus, too. I’m thankful that LAF shares similar views and promotes “Beautiful Womanhood!” So these are the reasons I support LAF. The character of most (and I dare say most) Christian women in our culture is in dire straits, and the mission of the LAF hostesses is to turn this around for the better. Fortunately, there is a remnant of women in strong agreement with them, and more and more women are learning from the LAF website and changing their minds. Gratefully, many LAF readers regularly write articles, support the LAF ministry financially, and support LAF with prayer. Although it is a formidable task and the devil is strong, the fight must go on! Keep up the good work ladies, and pray for us men as we have our work cut out for us too. Above all, I encourage you to continue in faithfulness and obedience to our Lord! Mr. Scott Jonas © Copyright 2002-2008 by LAF/BeautifulWomanhood.org
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