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From ladiesagainstfeminism.com Comments and Letters Dear ladies, I am a male who really enjoyed your site. It is encouraging to see that there are real ladies in the world that don't buy into all the feminist rhetoric that seems to be everywhere. Hello from Ireland! I came across your site and really enjoy reading it. Although I don't agree with all of your opinions, I do think you have a very interesting website and I will continue to come back to it. ~ Britta As a twenty-year-old college student besieged by the decadence of a large city and the vices found in most any college setting, it is difficult for me to find those whose opinions mirror my own. Looking back over the past few years I realize that, while I have always behaved in a manner appropriate to a moral and religious young lady, I have not always been comfortable enough with my convictions, and have sometimes disavowed or hidden my beliefs behind an "acceptable" contemporary exterior. My recent rediscovery of God and faith, after a regrettable period of nearly two years when I was not regularly attending church or praying has made me realize what is truly important in life. I'm glad to be in college, as I have a thirst for knowledge, and a real desire to learn. However, it is through the encouragement of faithful friends and family, God, and the occasional blessings such as this wonderful site, that I have been able to trust that there is a plan for me that will be much more meaningful and fulfilling than any career. Thank you for confirming once again my conviction that I can, even in this distressingly modern twenty-first century, be an "old-fashioned girl" and be content in the knowledge that my eventual goals of being a wife and mother are not silly, outdated or passive. Your site is truly an inspiration and a help to me and, I am sure, to many more ladies out there. Alena Thank you thank you thank you! I am a 26 year old wife, mother and homemaker who loves to read the articles on your site. A friend on a ladies web group sent a link to your site and its so helped with how I see and think about things. I've read articles that have supported how I think and others that have changed my thoughts. Its such an oasis in a internet of so many hateful sites. Thank you for having such a positive site for us homemakers! ~ Shannon I wish I had found sites like this one when my daughter was still young. She is in her second year of Bible College and, though she loves the Lord so much, there have been recent issues of authority. She believes she should be totally on her own and allowed to make all her own decisions. This is causing a major and never before rift between her and myself. I'm going to show this site to her. I hope it brings her back to reality on what her 'real' mission in life should be. I've saved this site & plan to go to it a lot and refer it to others. Thank-you.......Belinda Hi I really appreciate your site, its great and I only wish more women thought like this today. I believe feminsim is a cancer and is helping bring this country down. GOD bless the REAL LADIES who believe the godly way. We live in a day when being a witch is fashionable. 'LADY' has lost its true meaning.. its good to see humility in SOME women today. Keep it up! ~ Billy J. I cannot begin to say how wonderful your site is! I log on at least once a day. As a busy working mother of two in the fast-paced legal profession, I find this site a breath of fresh air. I look forward to the day that I can stay home with my children full time. I email articles to my fiance, so that we might be of the same mind. Once again, THANK-YOU for such a lovely site for the ladies of today!!!! ~ Carmelita I just wanted to let you know how much I appreciate your website. It is my favorite site and I visit it every day! I specifically wanted to tell you how much I loved the article from News Max about the boycott of the planned parenthood building. I think that is so exciting and practical. I am so glad I know about your website because I probably would not found out about that exciting victory for pro-lifers if I had not read about here. Keep up the good work and God bless you. ~ Amy I. I particularly appreciated the article from "A Teenage Mom." I got married later than I had expected, twenty-three years. It wasn't that late, just later than I had daydreamed growing up. For three years I worked full time, so my husband could finish college. I couldn't stand the thought of waiting until he was all finished and ready to support me. But, this put having a child off, because I wanted to stay home to have a baby. In our first year of my husband going to seminary, I was about 26 years of age. I was feeling a bit blue and realizing I was longing for a child myself. Our Pastor suggested at this time suggested we step out in faith and allow the Lord to give us a child. WE had NEVER thought of this. We took his councel. After a few months we were blessed with my first pregancy. I am so thankful that this Pastor and his wife gave us the advice. The Lord did indeed supply our needs. It has not been easy, but I have been home since 1986 when I left my job, when my first baby was born. I have been blessed with four more children since then. Sometimes, I still long for one more. If I had been married and seventeen, I would have been happy about it. Somehow, we are usually instructed not to want to marry and want children. It is as if it is an immature desire. A girl that wants to wait for a baby, or perhaps even put off marriage, is looked upon as having "a head on her shoulders." But, perhaps this very way of thinking is part of the cause of much of the sex before marriage and some of the pregnancy outside of marriage. I do appreciate your web site. Life may not be perfect, but I am thankful to be married and thankful to have children. It is a blessing from the Lord. Sincerely, Denise. WOW! I am so glad to find this site! I have always loved being feminine and have struggled with trying to maintain that. I'm nicknamed Holly Hobblie and am teased about my love for Laura Ingalls!!! What I want to say--someone should write and article or book on this--is that "feminists" have no right to use that word! They should call them selves feMANists. A true feminist would be a woman that embraces all she is made to be. If the feMANists want to be a man than why don't they call them selves that instead of going against what feminine truly is...It maddening to hear them using "feminist" as if it really describes them! I am a true feminist, embracing all that women are meant to be, I am happy as a woman and will not try and be a MAN!!! I love your site!!!!! Thankyou!!! ~ Naomi Dear Lydia, Thank you so much for your work, I put into the search engine "manners, modesty and femininity"and your website was one of the sites that came up. I did not realise that there was such a website I have only recently had assess to a computor( July 2003). I have become increasingly concerned at the style of clothing ladies/little girls and teenagers are wearing today.I have always been modest and I love all the pictures of our ancesters (I know the poor ladies couldn't dress so well as they couldn't afford it). I also love good manners and I am always trying to improve myself. I also love being a lady and being as feminine as I can. It feels right no matter what our society tries to portray in the media. I am so thrilled to find that their are other ladies like me. I am a nominal Christian, but I feel very comfortable with all the articles and values you write about in your articles. Thank you so much, you remind me so much of my Mother, she has the same values as you as well. Kind Regards Christine A. Sydney, Australia Dear Christine, Thanks so much for taking the time to drop me a line. It is such an encouragement to know you are determined to follow these values that our forebearers practiced almost without thought. These days there is a concerted, deliberate attempt to totally break down the family and society. Indeed, many people younger than me have never known a normal world or understood the function of a real home. Each time you dress well in public, you are influencing someone else to do the same. This is how we change the mode of dress, little by little. It is a shame and a digrace what we are allowing forced to look at these days. If people think they can flaunt these awful clothes in public, then we should also feel free to wear beautiful, inspiring clothing in front of others. I'm afraid many of us are intimidated and shy and afraid to dress our very best. I hope you will continue to apply these principles to your life, no matter how society and fads change. It is well worth it, prevents depression, and gives you life and energy and the ability to be creative and go somewhere with your plans and dreams. I hope you will stay in touch. My family emigrated to Australia in the 60's and has been there for over 30 years now. My parents live in Coffs Harbour, and my sister and 4 brothers live in Victoria, on the Mornington Peninsula. Sincerely, Lydia Here I am writing again...this time I'd like to provide encouragement. I have to say, this site has opened my eyes to what being a woman should be...according to God. I was reading about the myths of feminism and now I'm wondering, what exactly are these feminazis screaming about? I really, REALLY enjoy this site. I am so GLAD I found it! Keep up the good work! ~ Alexandra I have completely enjoyed this site. I am a Catholic young mother who came to Christ from radical feminism. It has been a major turnaround, but the Lord keeps leading me to help along the way. This has already been the encouragement I desperately needed in my work as a homemaker. Good job and God bless! ~ Sara Dear LAF, Thank you for your refreshing website. I am so glad I found it. Your encouraging articles have inspired me to make changes in my life that were long overdue. As a result the happiness of my husband and I has been multiplied. Many thanks to you all. Sincerely, Mrs K. G. Australia Dear LAF and Lady Lydia, Your website has been such an encouragement to me! To find other women that think as I do, is rare indeed. Thank you so much. I am getting ahead of myself, though. Allow me to introduce myself. I am 20 (soon to be 21) years old and am the oldest of five children. I am living at home and learning to be a "keeper at home". After visiting your website numerous times, and reading past Lady Lydia Newsletters, I am now wearing dresses everyday. In "Lady Lydia's Newsletter (#6)", Lady Lydia wrote that she had a "glove recipe" for crocheted gloves. Might I be able to secure a copy of the instructions? I have already crocheted a pair of "fingerless gloves" and would like a pair of "fingered gloves"! Thank you ever so kindly. May God continue to bless others through you, as He has blessed me! Miss Sarah This site is so amazing! I never knew these kind of women existed until just a few weeks ago when I came across the site. Thank you to all the writers and editors and anyone else who is involved. We may be the minority, but it's through minorities, not majorities, that God has always worked out his good and perfect will. Keep it up... I read this site almost every day and love all the new articles! ~ Laura J. Thank you, thank you, thank you! How beautiful is God's plan! Thank you for standing firm on His promises. ~ Jim H. I stumbled across your website several months ago, and although I am very much in disagreement with the ideas put forth in the LAF articles and links, I wish to note my admiration for your movement. I, as a liberal feminst, recognize that there are many ways of respecting one's faith, and the approaches recommended by your beautiful and elegant website are practical and articulate. It is a lesson to many people that when practicing one's viewpoints, it is possible to be gracious and respectful while disagreeing. I find your site very interesting, and will continue to refer to it in order to fully understand alternate opinions. ~ Paula Dear Paula, Thank you for this most gracious and articulate response! I must tell you that letters like yours are an absolute rarity here. Dissenters usually send us screeds filled with the most hateful, debasing language imaginable. It is very refreshing to hear from someone who disagrees yet can still respect another viewpoint and desire to learn from it. We fully believe that feminists are human beings (of course!) and that they base their views upon earnestly held convictions. Obviously, we differ strongly, but we do not believe anything of value can be achieved through ad hominem attack or ugly language. Your kind, open-minded response is most refreshing. With warm regards, Mrs. Jennie Chancey Hello I would want to encourage you to keep going. I'm glad there are ladies that are against feminism. I never thought there would be a site on this subject. I enjoy reading several articles and do learned alot from it. For myself as a single 36 year old man who was never married and has no kids. The articles does point out on what I was trying to explain what I want from a woman and what is a real lady. Today the is far too liberal. Especially in the Christian circle. I'm hard of hearing and heavily invovled in the deaf community. Some think I'm too picky or saying that my standard too high also saying that it's impossible to find one. Now this site will help me to explain better. Hope that it will help them to understand what I've been trying to explain along and what is really bibical ya know. I did come across to the single woman article but don't find any article for single men. Is there any? If there is, please do let me know. Thanks. Yes, it is very difficult for a single deaf man and was labled that I'm not a man enough since I'm not married.. This really hurts. They do put me on aside as an unimportant person. I recalled one man said that he wanted to get married because he wants to be a man. What a society that I'm living in! Nevertheless, I still believe that God does have a special someone out there for me as while I'm still serving our High King and letting HIm use me more in expaning His Kingdom in the deaf ministry and evangelizing to the lost soul within the deaf community while being single. Being single does have more time in serving as Paul says. Anyway, thank you for this site. May God bless you and for those women who stand up for Truth and what is the real biblcal truth about womanhood. His unworthy servant, Billy W. I have been looking through your site regularly for the last few weeks and I absolutely love it! Thank you so much for the time you put into this site. I am constantly challenged in my thinking. I was raised to be very feminist minded so the Lord has been slowly chipping away at all the old attitudes. I also just read the schorching rhetoric. I first felt so sad I almost cried and I actually started to feel ill. So much hate and hurt people. I can only hope that they will open their eyes to the Lords best for them. Once again thank you so much for your time. God bless Jennifer C. What does the Bible say of a godly woman? Pro 11:16 "A gracious woman retaineth honour:" Pro 12:4 "A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband:" Pro 31:10 "Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies." Pro 31:30 "...but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised." Ecc 7:28 "Which yet my soul seeketh, but I find not: one man among a thousand have I found; but a woman among all those have I not found." A righteous woman is much more rare than a righteous man. 1Co 11:7 "...but the woman is the glory of the man." I am sure I have missed a few, but the point is made. What is a man without his helper? What is the woman without her covering? I am glad to see that there is some encouragement for the women of God to return to their places. Not for their confinement, but for their fulfillment. With Faith and Love, Ron H I recently checked out "Home Comforts: The Art and Science of Keeping House" based on your recommendation & I can't tell you enough how much I loved it!!! Thank you very much. A book that is not on your list that I highly recommend is "The Shaping of a Christian Family" by Elisabeth Elliot. Thank you so much for your website. I check it often to read the new articles. While I am not in dresses 100% of the time, you have provided thought provoking articles on the subject. I admit that in the summer, for me, it is really easy to wear dresses only, but here in Wisconsin, it has been hard to stick to it when the weather gets cold. (I read a recent article on cold weather dressing with much interest.) ~ Heather L. Jennie: I was looking at the LAF site and saw your pictures of a day in your life in dresses only. You referred to an "everyday" dress pattern that you use frequently. I liked the style of the dress and saw that it looked very comfortable and I could see myself being able to sew this, also I could see myself running my household in it. What is the name of the company from which you got this pattern and do they have a web site? I have sewn some of the Elizabeth Lee nursing dresses and I was wondering how this pattern compared to those in degree of difficulty, etc. Are you familiar with Elizabeth Lee Designs Patterns? Also, how do your patterns compare with those (Elizabeth Lee) as to degree of difficulty/skill level involved? I just love the afternoon tea dress pattern of yours and I was thinking of ordering one for an Easter dress. I have a friend who is a wonderful seamstress and she would be willing to sew it for me or help me do it. Anyway, I keep coming back to the subject of dressing more feminine. I wear dresses to church but in todays culture they just don't seem practical anywhere else. The photos of you and the other women in dresses doing your daily chores was inspiring as are vintage photos of women in bygone days doing just that in only dresses. There were no other options for them then. I also struggle with somehow needing to show off my figure but not to attract the attention of men but to attract envy from other women, you know, to boost my own self esteem! I know this is sinful and it isn't really blatant on my part but I do recognize it as one of the reasons I wear the clothes I wear. I am not garish in my style nor am I trendy by any stretch of the imagination. I like jeans and stylish T-shirts or knit shirts. I gravitate toward classic feminine styles and nothing too revealing or suggestive but I like to accentuate my figure: i.e.: curves. I am a petite person and you could never use the word "voluptuous" to describe me but I am fit and I strive to stay that way > for myself, my husband and my children. I have 5 children that keep me busy so I need to maintain my health to keep up with all they are active in. Exercise and nutrition have always been important to me. I think this is important for all women, especially busy mothers of children. The pictures of you on your web site and on the LAF site are just beautiful. There is no doubt that you are a woman. Anyway, just a few things on my mind as I was reading through some of the articles. I should just ask my husband how he would like me to dress and follow his wishes. That is all that matters to me (that and comfort!), how he would like to see me. He has never once said if anything I might be wearing was questionable or whatever. He has never said he disliked an outfit I was wearing, etc. What is your husbands opinion of your style? Did you always wear dresses even before you met your husband or was this a gradual change before or after marriage? I get your newsletter from your site and since you just sent something out to us I thought I would write and ask these questions of you. I hope you don't mind. Thank you for taking any time you can spare to write back. I know this is a busy time of year for everyone and I do appreciate your time and attention. Thank you Jennie, In Him, Lisa S. Hello there! The dress I wore for the housecleaning and bread baking photos came from Cindy Taylor Oates's "Everyday Dress" pattern. I found the pattern (which is sold as a booklet) at http://www.quiltedclothing.com/more_books.htm . It's worth it! The other dress (yellow and blue) I wear and make in the "Through the Week" feature is from Common Sense Designs at http://www.modestpatterns.com/csp_dresses.htm (scroll down to see #416E). I like many of Elizabeth Lee's patterns, but I find them a bit tricky to put together. The sizing seems to run large on many, and the instructions aren't always that clear. If you're an experienced seamstress, you shouldn't have any trouble, but if you're a bit squeamish, you might want to try something else. ;-) I've made several patterns that work for nursing or that can be modified for nursing. If you check my Sewing Tips page at www.sensibility.com/sewingtips.htm, you'll find links to instructions for changing the Regency Gown to button in front for nursing, for example. It is also possible to nurse in the 1910s Tea Gown if you make the front inset unhook down both sides instead of being sewn into the bodice front (very easy to do, and I can send illustrations of the method). The 1914 Afternoon Dress is already created with a nursing panel option, and the new Romantic Era dress I'm finishing up now will have the same hidden nursing panel feature. Most of my patterns would be rated "intermediate," simply because I recommend fully lining bodices and using understitching (considered an intermediate technique, though it is very easy). However, I've tried to make everything as user-friendly as possible by including the online photo instructions and walking folks through each step as thoroughly as possible. I know it can help sometimes to just see a real garment in progress rather than to try to interpret a pattern illustration! I know it can seem odd at first to "go against the flow" in a culture that is so anti-feminine and anti-modesty. What is out there is either skin-tight revealing (meant to be "sexy") or frumpy/dumpy. I do not believe Scripture calls us to hide the fact that we are feminine by wearing sacks. Throughout the Bible, the woman's beautiful form is praised. It's a work of art! But we are also to think of ourselves as "walled gardens," meaning the private parts are for one "gardener" alone to enjoy and cultivate -- not for the world to see. This doesn't mean our "walls" have to be ugly cement blocks (like a communist city!). The wall should indicate there is a beautiful garden within -- a garden that is well-tended and cared for. There might be climbing roses on the wall or something else that indicates the wall does enclose an actual garden. Passers by might smell the scents wafting over the wall or hear a brook chuckling inside, bu t they are not permitted to enter the gate. The problem comes when we punch holes in the wall or, worse, leave the gate wide open for any stranger. To put this into practical terms, a woman's dress can be modest while still showing she is a woman! The clothing just needs to show that this is a protected woman -- not someone who is cheap or open to just anyone. That rules out all the revealing, clinging outfits that our culture adores right now. But it certainly doesn't rule out flowing, feminine, beautiful outfits! Those outfits express our joy in God creating us women and His joy in making woman different from man. :-D Exercise and nutrition are definitely vital parts of keeping ourselves healthy and lovely for our families (especially for our wonderful husbands--our gardeners!). There is nothing wrong with wanting to maintain those feminine curves and lines. Just remember that they are a very special allurement intended for your husband and not to be "broadcast" to other men (who get enough of it in our sex-saturated culture, sadly). The Christian woman's dress needs to strike a balance between "I am a woman, and I want everyone to see it" and "I belong to my husband, and I am not for hire!" We don't need to be sexual, but we also don't need to become nunnish in our clothing. This requires godly wisdom, but the Lord has promised to give just this if we ask (James 1:5)! As far as my own personal "journey" in feminine dress goes, I sort of swung back and forth prior to marriage. As a girl and as a teenager, I absolutely adored feminine dress. I wore dresses on every possible occasion (or skirts and blouses). I especially loved the old-fashioned styles like you see in "Anne of Green Gables" and other movie adaptations. When I was in college, people called me the "Anne Girl" or "Laura Ingalls" because of my old-fashioned (mainly Edwardian) styles. However, by the time I hit the end of my junior year, I'd become utterly disillusioned and had lost my desire to live femininity in such an overt way (that's another story -- I have two articles on the LAF site about college, if you're interested). So I went to jeans, slacks, loose tees, and blouses. Dresses were only for Sunday or special occasion. When I first met my husband, I had gotten into a "career track" and was dressing for the office. I had a couple of nice skirts, but I also liked the "suit" look, because it made me feel like I had armor on for some reason! That's telling, isn't it? However, I always dressed in Romantic, flowing dresses or skirts/blouses on the weekends. I just missed the beauties I had enjoyed as a teenager. My husband saw through the "armor" and knew the person he saw on weekends was the real me. I am still amazed he was drawn to me at all during that time -- I was so opposite in my thinking! God is gracious, though.... By the time I had been married a year, I felt like shackles had been struck from my heart, and I just threw myself wholeheartedly into feminine dress. My husband complimented me constantly when I wore beautiful dresses, skirts, etc., and I just flourished under the praise. It really gave me a wonderful feeling of joy in my femininity that I had lost during that last year in college. He still has one favorite dress that he remembers me wearing when he courte d me, and he likes me to pull it out now and again (poor, worn-out thing that it is!). That is such a neat feeling. I know many husbands don't even notice what their wives are wearing, but I think it's the fault of our culture. We're so saturated in androgynous clothing and mannerisms that we don't even realize what we've lost. Mrs. Sherman and I get letters from so many women who have made the experiment of returning to feminine dress and have been amazed to see how their husbands start taking notice and praising them for it. Sometimes it takes a while for the change to even register, but the husbands love to see their wives looking womanly! It is also a special feeling for one man to feel that he is the privileged "gardener" of that precious walled refuge (SofS 4:16; 5:1). I guess for me, I really came back around to where I was as a teenager. I never strayed from my beliefs on modesty, but I don't think I'd ever really done a study on God's love for our femininity -- and how precious it is to be womanly. I made a study of this when I got married and was so blessed to find what a wonderful privilege it is to be the feminine half of humanity -- after all, God created man in His image "male and female," so androgyny doesn't allow us to reflect God's full-orbed image and glory. It's interesting to me that men as a whole aren't drawn to dressing in feminine styles (it's a "fringe" element that is), but women have been fooled into thinking that real "equality" can only come if they take on men's attire. Silly! We can never really look like men, try as we might. We aren't built to be men. We can only come off as half-baked imitations of men. Why not embrace our femininity and enjoy its glories, which are rightful ly ours? I've found that a wonderfully freeing and beautiful thing to do. I am always amazed at how much our attitudes can be affected by what we put on in the morning. Days when I've just "thrown something on," I feel "thrown together" all day! Odd but true.... Yet if I just make a little effort to start out fresh and feminine, I find my attitude considerably brightened. Amazing what such a small thing can do.... And we can then bless those around us with our outward AND inward feminine "glory." :-) Blessings, Jennie I just want to thank you for this wonderful site, and all the interesting and encouraging articles that you post. I have especially appreciated the ones on dressing modestly, and the encouragement on wearing dresses, even in cold weather. I moved to the Midwest years ago from southern California, and had always loved and worn mainly dresses. Then in the Midwest, I felt uncomfortable wearing dresses because just about everyone else wore pants most of the time, especially in the winter. I decided after reading some of your articles, that this winter I would go ahead and wear the dresses and skirts that I love to wear anyway, and I am finding that for the first time since living in the north, I have been warm! I just wear long johns and turtlenecks underneath my clothes, and have found that my legs are so much warmer than with pants, that I am warmer all over. Life is too short to wear what you dislike; I feel so much more feminine in dresses, and my husband prefers them. So, thank you. Keep the articles coming! ~ Cindy J. Hello, My name is Andrea, and I am Fifteen years old. Earlier this year I totally surrendered myself to the will Of my Heavenly Father. It was not easy in the least bit(blush).I despised all feminine things, and deeply resented the fact that I was a girl. After a long time of being convicted over and over about becoming a young woman, I wore thin and gave in. God is so awesome and merciful, I cannot belive the change and healing He has brought into my life since then. I now only wear dresses (instead of huge jeans, T-shirts, and baseball caps) I am totally into learning how to become more godly and womanly. I cannot express the help that you and your website have given me. I refer to it often twice in a week, excited to see any new articles and anxious to glean wisdom I can use in my life. Thank you ever so much, for being such an encouragment to me, and to my mother. Please sign me up for Lady Lydia's newsletter, I would be overjoyed in reciving it. Thank you once again, for the role you are playing in helping me become the godly woman God meant for me to be! Love, Andrea Psalm 28:7 I would just like to let you ladies know that I was pleased to find your site. Recently I have felt the need to become more feminine, more womanly, and it's nice to know i'm not the only woman out there who doesn't want to look like a man anymore. I am a 27 year old stay at home mom and wife. My husband is in the Air Force, and I've noticed that quite a few of the women in my generation and/or married into the Services are choosing the type of lifestyle you advocate. My husband and I are not Christian, rather we do not subscribe to a particular organized sect, but we are trying to raise our children with His teachings. I want nothing more than for my children to grow up with the knowledge of their intrinsic worth as His children. Children, and adults, everywhere deserve to know that they have worth simply in their being. Once again, I thank you for your lovely site. Sincerely, April W PS- To all the "feminists" who may read this and laugh at me, I was a "working mother" for the first 4 years of my children's lives. I chose this path because I wanted them to know that I care for them. I wanted to have my children, and what is the point of having children if you are just going to let them be raised by a stranger? I've tried both roads, and I choose the one less traveled. I would like to express my utmost gratitude to LAF. Your site is beautiful and very well expressed. The artwork is breathtaking. Truly inspiring! I thank you for the (almost) daily encouragement I recieve between cleaning and helping my mother take care of my four younger siblings. : ) LAF helps me to keep my God given role as daughter and homemaker-in-training in perspective. May Our Lord Bless and Keep you, Erica E. R., 19 years old I thoroughly enjoy this website. The articles are outstanding and very encouraging. I had been wearing feminine clothes, but "fell off the wagon" when winter hit. Now I'm inspired to get back on. Thank you for all your hard work. ~ Linda E. I have so appreciated your site. It's almost as if we are trying to reinvent the wheel as we strive to regain the art of being a woman. Even though I was brought up in a conservative Christian home, I still see how much of the worldview infiltrated my thinking. Your site has been a great blessing and encouragement in an area where one finds little encouragement elsewhere. I would greatly appreciate being added to your email newsletter. Thank you very much! Lynne R Thank you very much for you web site! It is wonderfully encouraging and up lifting in many areas. God bless you! ~ Melody S. Thank you Mrs. Sherman for the article "Seeing Life Through Art". An appreciation of art and music is so very important to fully enjoy the beauty God has given us. We broaden our horizons and expand our consciousness and creative abilities not only by creating art and music, but also by the appreciation thereof. I attended a plain church that did not allow art or music. (other then a'capella singing) I can really appreciate the need for a well rounded education including art, practical and history, art appreciation and music. Our Lord has given these gifts to us, and I for one am very thankful. Wishing you God's peace, Mrs. Linda V Dear Ladies, I can not begin to tell you all what this site has come to mean to me in the last few days since discovering it. My dear husband has heard many praises for LAF leave my lips. I was blessed to quit my payroll job right before Christmas this year. (I tell everyone it was a wonderful Christmas present from my beloved.) I love being at home. Im twenty-five years old and we have been married three years. We dont have any children of our own yet but are praying for a baby and also in the process of becoming licensed foster parents. I have spent much of my alloted online time at this website and catching up on on the Lady Lydia speaks articles. She is a true treasure. I have approached my husband and asked him to pray about the way I dress (jeans and a shirt). I feel that it is time for me to start wearing more skirts and dresses but wanted to see how he felt about it. I hope to continue sending in encouragement and hopefully even contribute financially one day. You are ! all in my prayers and I love everything your website stands for!! Thank You all so much and may God bless each one of you!! Mrs. Roy H. S I would like you to know that I have never been more encouraged by a website than I have been by yours. Every day or so, I drop in and print out a few articles to read while nursing my newest blessing. I am blessed to be the wife of a wonderful man who is also a pastor. We have 5 little blessings. Your encouragement is much appreciated. I have especially enjoyed the links for modest clothing. Thanks for all you do, Cindy Thank you so much for this incredible site! It has really turned my life around! I was struggling in my studies and in my home life until I realized that I was not fulfilling my duty as a woman. Thank you especially for the article Biblical Womanhood and Christian Living (http://www.ladiesagainstfeminism.com/artman/publish/article_449.shtml). It is very persuasive and has made me make my sights higher than I had before--To my home! Thank you again! ~ Teiru I have been a long time reader of LAF and I still feel it's a solid anchor of hope in many ways. Through the good articles and intelligent discussion with spiritual truths, I can grasp more firmly on this special identity I have as a daughter of God. It's a wonderful thing to be a womanly woman and LAF really shines out as a voice of wisdom and kindness in the midst of clanging feminist ideals that bark at us each day. Besides Fascinating Womanhood, I think LAF rocks! Larissa S. I am an American male who has given-up on dating American women. The feminists have made it almost impossible for me to find happiness here. I am saving my money to move to another country and marry a foreign lady. I am so grateful of your fine website. The beauty and sincerity of it is astonishing and greatly appreciated. I will recommend this website to any woman whom I ask to marry. I will also suggest that all my decent male friends read this website completely. May God continue to bless you and your family. ~ Jim Thank you for offering this site. Their is hope! I firmly believe that feminism is not only ruining the family culture, it is making Men be something they never were intended to be out of many factors. Certain factors are: Men that are cowards and bow down to their Woman's every whim. Men totally ignoring Women because those Men feel all Women in the Western hemisphere are "ruined" beyond redemption. Women with bad attitudes toward Men because they ARE ruined with western culture. Violence and crimes by Women are on the rise exponentially. This is not "lady like" behaviour and was certainly not an upbringing intention. Men driven to despair due to the "controlling nature" of this culturally manufactured Female lifestyle. Complete and utter breakdown of the family unit. Divorce rates OVER 60% and possiblly close to 80% within 5 years. What vehicle can be taught to end this cycle of destruction? Thank you for offering this site to "chip away" at the myth of feminisim fantasy life and to at least be some form of vehicle to improve Women's lives. ~ Bill Dear Ladies, I found your site last night and was absolutely delighted! Tonight I thought I would take a look at the "scorchers"tonight. My heart is broken. Though it is true that much of the world doesn't line up with our beliefs about the role of women THERE ARE MANY who do. I pray that God would bless you and your families. I pray that you would grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. I pray that you would have wisdom and vision as you seek to encourage and give help to those you serve. To serve...what a BEAUTIFUL word. It is not easy all of the time but there is a reward that one cannot explain to the skeptics. I thank God for you, my sisters in Christ and fellow ladies. Very sincerely, Jamie Hello! I am a stay at home mom to four children. Today I we went to my sister in law's home to celebrate the one yr birthday of my niece. My sister in law is a full time career woman who makes a large salary in a highly professional high stakes career. My neice has a babysitter five days a week. I was so sad that when my little niece needed comfort or was tired at the party or needed hug she went to xxxx her sitter not her mom. My sister in law thought it was sweet that they were so comfortable with one another. I found it heartbreaking. This is the same sister in law who asked me why I launder my children's clothes. She told me that kids need to learn right away how to take care of themselves and as a mom it was not "job"to wash their clothes! Please never stop your web site...please keep setting high standards for us mothers!!!! It is sad how so many women turn a deaf ear to home, children, and husbands and how many mothers desire to work outside the home! Please keep writing and encouraging us out here who do try to serve our families. I feel like an island most of the time! Thank you! Mrs Kristen W It is so ironic that you put the Chesterton article up (Social Reform versus Birth Control), as I commented over the weekend to family members that I would much rather serve a loving husband than an employer who cares little for me or my well-being! Women are much more enslaved now than in the past. Thank you again and again for the thought-provoking pieces here.! ~ Sarah Dear Ladies: Again, I want to thank-you and Praise the Lord Jesus Christ for this marvelous and excellent website. What a gift of sweet encouragement it is in them midst of our sin-sick world. I was recently listening to a CD from Vision Forum, and the gentleman made the excellent point that Feminism and the mind-set of women having whole careers outside of the home was placing a DOUBLE BURDEN on women to bear The Curse of MEN ("by the sweat of your brow" to earn their livings) AND of WOMEN ("pain in childbirth"). How can we rightly think then that THAT is a preferable world when women must bear a double burden. No wonder we are so stressed! God's abundant blessings upon you dear ladies! Mrs April B I have just read your website and I can't tell how pleased I was to read it. Those have been my thoughts for many years although I didn't speak of it often because it wasn't well received by other women. I always loved the times when I could stay at home with the children and look after my home properly. I worked in a factory for several years and realized the women were spending more time with other peoples husbands than their own. I never felt that it was supposed to be that way. I found your article encouraging. It doesn't make you feel that you are just a housewife but that your job is an important one. Thank you. Aurelie R Oh what a wonderful place! Before I found your site I felt a drudge now I truly feel like a new woman. I live in the UK and am married to a wonderful, hard working man and I homeschool our beautiful 6 year old daughter but until I found your site there was never any JOY in my life. I slopped around in jeans and sweats and looked (frankly) awful. Now I make an effort with my appearance, rediscovered the pleasure of putting on a pretty dress (makes winter days SO much more cheerful!), gaining real satisfaction from my homemaking, inspiring my daughter and (amazingly!) improving my marriage! My husband is so much more attentive and loving, he is more gentle towards me, he has told me how much nicer it is for him to come home from work now. I just cannot believe what a difference LAF has made to my life and wholeheartedly recommend it to other ladies! Finally, can I please ask to be placed on Mrs Sherman's private email list to receive her newsletter (if she is still producing it?). I have taken huge amounts of encouragement from the newsletters I have read. Blessings to you all. ~ Mrs. Timothy S. I am so glad to have found this lovely website. My heart aches to return to the gracious living our forebears enjoyed. What a contrast to the culture of today! I defy anyone, especially a woman, to thoroughly read this entire website and not feel a twinge of longing.....congratulations on your wonderful work. ~ Lexi Ladies, I just found your site today, and it was a great blessing to me. It reminded me again how truly important Biblical womanhood is to a free and godly society. Thank you very much. Abigail S Your site has been an answer to the prayers of my heart. I have not met any women like you where I live, so you have also been a cool drink in a very dry land. I would love to recieve Lady Lydia's Newsletter. Thank you, Mrs. Ronda R Dear friends, I hope my last message didn't go through, as it was an unfinished version of this one, and I accidentally lost it! :) I found your site through Vision Forum. I love this site! My daughters and I found your pattern website to be very impressive, as well. My struggle with feminism has been as follows: some of our relatives believe that because we aren't very well off financially, I should be working outside the home, and stop homeschooling. We choose to trust the Lord with those details. We know that our money and our belongings will not accompany us to Heaven, so we focus our efforts on what IS of eternal value. Thank you, Jennie, for your insights into feminism and its destructive outcome. I am striving to be a Biblical woman. May God bless all of those involved in this website's work. Your friend, Stacey J. Wife of 1, mother of 3 Hello! I am a 12 year old homeschooled girl. I was delighted to find your website, as it is very difficult to locate groups that share my anti-feminism views. I really enjoy the articles, as well as the emphasis on feminine clothing. God Bless you, and keep up the good work! ~ Elizabeth Thank you for your wonderful site! I had been feeling convicted about my wardrobe, but wasn't sure what kind of guidelines I should be following (other than no short skirts, shorts, or super clingy knits). Your site has inspired me to put away my jeans and move towards a more overtly feminine style. I also enjoyed the other articles on biblical womanhood, homemaking, and other issues so often considered taboo even in Christian circles. Please be encouraged that you are being strongly used by the Lord, and keep up the great work! ~ Catherine H. I really enjoy your web site. I can identify with many of the young girls who deepdown wanted something other than what the feminists gave us. I was raised in a christian home, but mom was the "head of household". I married when I was 23 and was separated 5 months later. I wish I had known what God really expected of a wife before I was married. I would have done things so differenly. I am attempting to raise my daughter differently. My ex-husband was killed in 2002. Even though I do have a job outside the home, and it is just a few hours each day, I would like to be able to be home unless I choose to leave. Katie (6) doesn't want me to leave either. I guess I'm doing something right, she wants to be just like me when she grows up. I don't understand why parents don't embrace the privilege of guiding a young mind; one that God chose to bless them with. Children are our inheritance from God himself. When God lets me know who I am to marry, we plan to have more. I really appreciate your stand. I don't feel quite so alone. Christy Dear L.A.F., Thank you for this wonderful web site. It is so refreshing to come and read the different articles that you post on your site. I am 13 years old and for the past 2 years I have been looking for a site that discussed different topics such as courtship, sewing, hope chest Modest dressing and other wholesome topics. I have been truly blessed to read the many articals that have been put on your site, and come to your site daily to read and re-read the different articles that you have posted. Thank-you again. God Bless, Kelsey W. Thank you ladies so much for your efforts in providing this website that has changed my life! It is a daily pleasure to check it for new additions and encouragement. I know that both of you are very busy with your families and it means so much that you would devote your precious time to your LAF audience. Jennie, your journal of feminine dressing through the week made such an impression that I now wear nice dresses/skirts while at home to beautify my family's environment. I am also training my young daughter to dress ladylike in all circumstances, which is no easy task in today's fashion quagmire! Lydia, your helpful and practical advice on sewing or shopping for pretty clothes has been such a wonderful education. I look forward to your inspiring newsletters also! I just wanted you to know that I deeply appreciate this site's ministry. God bless you! Sincerely, Kim H I just wanted to thank you so much for this lovely website. I found my true calling as a wife and mother 15 years ago when I left the military to become a stay at home mom. This life choice has been the best one I ever could have made for our family. My husband and I are blessed with three wonderful children, who are now entering some of the most challenging years of their lives ~ (16,14 and 12). However, I feel that with my being home when they get home from school has made a huge difference in their lives. I have even heard my daughters' friends remark "I wish my mom stayed at home too !" Your website is full of wonderful articles to encourage the homemaker today. I only wish you were around 15 years ago !!! Please keep up the good work,you are so appreciated. Having just found your site, I am gathering some of my favorite articles that I keep in a binder close at hand, Beautifully decorated of course!! I have found that wearing pretty dresses does influence not only the way I behave but the way others behave around me. I have found many nice dresses and skirts at the local thrift store,and I have found that I can dress them up a bit by adding lace trim to the hemline,not only making them a bit longer but more feminine as well. Thank you for taking time to read my little note. God bless you, Lady Laurie I am a sixteen year old girl who has very limited reasources about real femininity at a school that doesn't have any morals or proper teaching to a young lady. Even my parents believe in education, social equlity, and sexual freedom. Though I respect my parents I do not, at all, share their views. I do believe in talent and discovering that talent, but I do believe in modesty, sexual commitment until marriage, and most of all lady like manners. I have been dreading on these morals for the longest time and I find that no one in my region shares these views at all. I was in totally disheart until I read about finishing schools for women. Though most of them are for younger girls, and the ones that are for young women are disguised themselves as 'modeling schools', which I do have a problem with the modeling industry today I would never think of such a thing to do. I was told by a wonderful lady, of the name Lydia, in Sense and Sensibility forum to ask the wonderful ladies at LAF if they could direct me to any finishing schools that are associated with the ladies at LAF or if of ones that you know of for older girls. I would be grateful for any links or information you could possibly send me. Kareina Thank you for writing to us, Kareina! I can relate to your struggle to find resources on femininity and purity. My 17-year-old step-sister has also wondered how she can find like-minded young women and good reading materials, and I've been sending her what I can. There are many online resources that you will find helpful and enjoyable -- and several that have message forums for young women who feel the same way you do. Here are a few to try out: Young Ladies' Christian Fellowship Being Virtuous Women The Phunny Farm Gracious Living Virtuous Womanhood Ladies in Waiting Modest Young Ladies The only finishing school I know of is the Athenaeum in Tennessee. It is structured like a real Victorian finishing school (complete with etiquette lessons, etc.). You can learn about it at this link. I know there has been a lot of talk here in the East about starting a summer school/finishing school for young women, bringing in speakers and teachers who can cover all kinds of womanly arts, etiquette, homemaking skills, and even history and theology. I'll be sure to have an article on LAF if such a thing ever comes about! I'd encourage you to read good books and listen to good talks about femininity, womanliness, and modesty as well. We have many in our online bookstore. Off the top of my head, I'd recommend the following: "Feminine to the Glory of God" - tape series by Mrs. Stacy McDonald of PatriarchsPath.com "What's a Girl to Do?" - tape by Douglas Phillips of VisionForum.com Stepping Heavenward by Elizabeth Prentiss (This is a wonderful book written in the style of a journal kept by a girl growing up in the 19th century. Her struggles are so easy to relate to today!) Her Hand in Marriage by Douglas Wilson (covers more than courtship) Let Me Be a Woman by Elisabeth Elliot Passion and Purity by Elisabeth Elliot The Excellent Wife<i by martha peace that should get you started at any rate I came across your site while searching for "little girls dress patterns". I was searching for patterns because I have decided that I will need to resort to making nearly all of the clothes that my 4 year old daughter (and later her younger sister) wears. My stomach turns when I try to shop in the little girls clothing section of most stores. I also read the article on the extinction of the feminine nightgown. I too have been searching for sweet nightgowns for my daughter to no avail. I am even having a hard time finding a pattern to sew a nightgown. I would also like to thank you for your efforts to preserve the beauty of being a woman. My sister is away at an extremely liberal all girls school and has been totally and thoroughly brainwashed by their feminist teaching, among other things. It has become difficult to converse with her about anything because she has come to believe that everyone is out to get her...because she is a female. The contents of your site have been a breath of fresh air for me. Thank you, Melissa D. I stumbled upon this website while doing research for a paper on the effects of feminism. I will admit that I consider myself a feminist, and in the beginning the title of your website frustrated me. However, after reading some of your articles I will say that I was pleasantly surprised by what I saw. While I have not changed me own views, the site helped me to see feminism from a different point of view. ~ Taffie Loved the article on growing older gracefully. As an "older woman" (10 months shy of fifty) I have found delight in trying to do this. Long hair, even with gray in it, softens the features and invites the touch of husband and children when kept clean and well-brushed. Dressing each morning, applying a bit of make-up (which pleases my dear spouse), and a light fragrance helps me to mentally orient to trying to bless others. I was delighted to read in More Love to Thee: The Life and Letters of Elizabeth Prentiss, that she rejoiced in growing older because she was learning to love younger women better. What a lovely perspective! Keep the encouragement coming. Blessings, Linda What a great sight..a real drink of pure, cool water in this vast parched desert. I have been "Homemaker for 45 years and have been so proud of it..It is truly a real career and My hubby is so proud. I have truly been free to bloom and grow. ~ Nada J. Dear Ladies Against Feminism, I greatly enjoy your wonderful site! I know of a lot of people who just put on a show of being feminine, and yet in truth, are (very manly). I am only 15 years old, but I thank my Lord, for my parents wise teaching, in instructing me, I am glad that at a young age, I am learning how to become a modest, feminine woman. I am glad there are still some women who believe what the Bible says, about how women should be.I Thank the Ladies who have put this site up, It is a great encouragement to know that there (ARE) others out there, that are our friends, in the fight agaist feminism! May God Bless this site, to women all over the world. -Sincerely yours, Sarah S I am a 19 year old female . I very much enjoy your site. It has been very helpful to me and I encourage you to keep up the work. Before my mother sent me the link to your site I was one of the teens that cursed, wore tight low rider and little bitty tops and was always fighting with my family and boyfriend of 2 years.Now I spend time with my family with out fighting.I am learning to do a lot of work with my hands and also I am learning to cook. My boyfriend(he is one of the gentlemen who protect the ladies and open doors etc..) and I get along now .He says he enjoys being around me because I do not look like a prostitute. His family is starting to warm up to me.I feel happier and less stressd. Keep up the good work. ~ Janie Dear LAF, thank you so much for this site! I am a stay at home mom, home schooler and I have been married for 18 yrs. I'd like to say that I'm a good christian homemaker, sometimes I fall way short of this title. Fememisim has caused heartache in my home but the Lord in His awesome mercy is renewing my heart and mind. I have printed out all your articles and will read them with a thankful heart as I know finding your site is not an accident but the Fathers timing. Please pray for me, I don't want to be a man hater anylonger and I don't want my daughters to be either. Thank you again for these topics. God bless, Mrs. J I love this site! I only wish I would have found it years ago. Thanks for the support! ~ Valerie Dear Lady Lydia, I did as you suggested. I looked up photos of women in the past. Our female relatives were wearing dresses when they drove a buggy, fed the geese, dug potatoes, went on a picnic or when they went fishing. They were at home in their dresses. One lady was sitting right on the bank fishing with her hat on enjoying the day! Thanks for the suggestion to look at the photos. Sincerely, Marylee Hello, I wanted just to let you know how much I have enjoyed reading the content of your website. I am not, by any stretch of the imagination, a conscious Christian - but I was certainly pleasantly suprised to read of so many women (and men of course) who are not so quick to follow in the footsteps of the feminist regime. I felt your site was visually beautiful, user friendly in every sense, and uplifting in it's encouragement to women like me who see such worth and beauty in our own womanly gifts - motherhood being the greatest of them. So, while my friends and acquaintances are keeping their "maiden" names, burning their bras, sending their children to daycare and school and rushing off to their high paying professions, I will plod along with my three homeschooled, never-seen-a-daycare, delightful children as we work in the garden (in skirts of course!), look at beautiful art for pleasure and enjoy storytime - and I will know there are countless others doing the same. What's more, I won't think I am under the control of my husband when he makes our important family decisions, nor will I feel a sex object just because I freshen up just before he arrives home. I know where my place is, and I treasure it - my place is in this home I have created for my family - the place we feel safe. Congratulations, you are doing a wonderful job. Warm Regards, Sonia F It was a blessed and rewarding day when I have found this site. I am not an American and do not live in the USA. In fact I live in Poland, still, thank God, largely a religious and family centred society.Perhaps for that very reason we do not seem very perceptive of the change that is coming - the belief that marriage and family are a not conducive to greater happiness, but rather to exploitation and lack of joy and excitement.(I leave aside the religious implications, to which, sadly, not everybody is willing to look to with open heart) In my country we seem to have arrived on that misled conclusion through a very different road than the radical feminism which was such a strong voice in the USA. Technically speaking, women were "liberated" in Poland long before Communism collapsed. Since 1945 85% of city women of appropriate age were employed full time away from home , virtually in all fields. After the human loss of WW2 there was a pressing need for doctors, judges, university proffessors, engineers, and so plenty of those positions went to the new style career women as early as 1950s. Abortion was made legal in 1956, years before the "liberated women" of the West could claim a similar "benefit". For the most difficult years those brave women, our mothers, struggled with a colossal load of full time work and household duties without basic appliances. NO washing machines, and no refrigerators, and hardly ever a car. They valliantly carried on, knitting our jumpers, preserving autumn fruit for the winter months, queeing long hours for the meat and butter, sewing clothes for everybody and yet still cherishing family life as their best reward from the drudgery of this existence. But now, times have changed and it seems the change was brought to us by consumerism, not feminism. The feminist message does not seem to take hold. But the idea that children will make for unbearably hard life - does. The young people seem so intent on the idea of making up for all the hardships of their parents and grandparents, it seems like the only luxury that is competely out of the question is getting married and having children. It is not yet the "No kidding" style, rather there is a pressure on everyone to agree that children are too much of a financial sacrifice, something that you cannot expect from anybody but the richest people. The idea that a woman who does not work outside the home is not a fully fledged citizen is very old in POland, and again, planted by the Communists , not by feminists. I remember my own Mother, a most hard working woman imaginable and an exemplary Christian speaking with great derision about those "parasites" and "house hens" and bringing me up with a similar idea in my mind. In short, even though I am now 47 and a mother of 2 teens, I had in my head a great confusion of contradictory ideas about my role as a woman, and the direction I wanted to take. (However my heart was often smarter than my head, and with my husband's support I was able to bring up my children at home throughout their childhood; even so I felt very ambivalent about my "lack of ambition"). Finding this website is really helping me to see things in the right perspective and to see rational arguments behind many of my own impulsive decisions (so I had thought). I am pleased. I am an educated woman and I need this level of discourse to make peace between my heart and my mind.Finally - I am sorry, of course, that I find no comparable support in my own country and my own Church. The Roman Catholic Church in Poland is only just beginning even to notice the issue; and anyway, with the very real poverty problems, the SAHM and her dilemmas is not a very common phenomenon. All the more reason to thank you for providing support for someone with a very different background and life history. keep up the good work! Marzena R. Dear Ladies, Although I DO cherish my pants and jeans, I agree with most of the other opinions presented here. I grew up on Laura Ingalls Wilder, Louisa May Alcott, and other "old-fashioned" authors who portrayed women not as doormats or constant dishwashers, but as princesses and queens of their homes. I so strongly feel that men and women are just "hard-wired" in their most primal instincts, and the subversion of those instincts is responsible for so much pain these days, especially in the U.S. Thank you for showing us that we can be the queens of our castles if we choose. "Wise as a serpent, gentle as a dove"! Mrs. Susanna B I want to say thank you for your web site. My husband and myself have tried to live life and raise our five children in the fashion the bible has instructed us to do. It is very hard in this world. You will be made fun of by family, old friends, strangers. But once people get to know you and your family they grow to understand and ever honor you effect to love the lord with all your heart and soul. When people choose to live life different than the world I feel it might make them uneasy. So the normal response is to judge that person or family. The only other feedback I would like to add is I would love to see more on homemaking skills. Alot of women do not know how to bake bread, sew, knit, or many other old homekeeping skills. I thank god everyday that i had grandmothers that not only taught me to pray but also taught me the basic homekeeping skills. I was very lucky to have a mother that taught me family was one of the most important things in this earthly world. Not a job!! Thank you for you site again. And thank you for your time. May God bless you and you effect to bring this information to women around the world. Mrs. Glenda G I would like to thank all of you at LAF for putting together and maintaining this site despite the pressure and time constraints I'm sure you're all under. As a 17 year old female in a world which seems to be fast rotting at the core I find it a blessing and an encouragement to come across sites like this one, that shows there are still spots of light in a quickly darkening and degenerating world. May God richly bless you for everything you have done! Sincerely, S- *~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~* Hello Ladies, I am always searching for women's sites on homemaking. I like your site, from what I have had time to read. I agree with alot of what you have said. Keep up the good work, it really does encourage me to do my best. Thank you so much. Sincerely, Mrs. Shelley S I am more than impressed by what I have read on your website. My wife and I are still quite young and we have two very small children. We feel very blessed that she can stay home and care for them. As we dated, I was grateful to find a woman who WANTED to stay home. She was grateful to find a man who wanted such a woman. We have often joked that she works harder than I do (although it's actually no joke). It has been very refreshing to read your articles occasionally and I wanted to offer you my thanks for your intelligent commentary. It has served to reinforce many values that we treasure. It has also given us some ideas as we have talked about the decision to home school our children. Our decision has been strengthened by some of your articles. Thank you for your research and all the efforts that go into making such a site. I think all of you have been blessed with some wonderful wisdom; thanks for sharing it. ~ Brett W. I have recently started dressing more femininely due to reading your website. I feel strongly that God has put it into my heart to do this for my husband, my daughter and my own view of myself. I feel much more ladylike now! I had my husband take an "everyday" photo of my daughter and me in our dresses and would like to send it to you! Sincerely, Kelley S Hello Ladies of LAF, I am a 22 year old college student and I am thrilled at what I read on this site! Women my age nowdays are bombarded with everything UN-ladylike as role models and it is refreshing to see what a REAL lady should be. This site has helped challenge all the things I have been brought up believing and I LOVE IT because it truly challenges ladies to live a life as God commands. One aspect of this site I love most is the continual search for the truth despite opposition. I have utmost respect for people who are honest with themselves regardless of what the world thinks. I continually strive myself to conquer this challenge and this site actually makes me a little braver in expressing my godly opinions. It is so nice to see that there are women out there who are like minded. I cannot give this website enough applause and I am eager to see how God will keep blessing those who search and seek to live in the truth. Thank you again and I can't wait to read more!! God Bless, Ashlee I was thoroughly astonished when I stumbled upon your website. After the initial shock, I nearly wept for joy. I had no idea there was such a site in existence! Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! I foresee your site as being a source of great encouragement to me. I am not the type to type flowery words that read like prose worthy of publication, but I wanted to share my personal experience with the LAF website. I found LAF through a search using the word "femininity". I had actually heard of LAF before, but had never investigated what it was about. I am so glad I stuck around to read the articles! As a work-from-home part time wife and mother (of a 4 year old), I cannot even begin to express how much I enjoy the articles. They have truly changed my life. I am making changes in my life to be more feminine and to be the wife, mother and the woman that God intended for me to be. Albeit slowly, these changes are starting inside and showing on the outside more and more each day. My favorite portions are homemaking and feminine dress. I have already begun making changes in my attitude about homemaking as well as dressing more feminine. Thank you so much for this site. I've only been privy to it for a week now, and I know that you put new articles on it regularly (unlike some other sites where it is only updated semi-annually). They are all insightful and Biblically-based. I will continue to keep LAF bookmarked as my favorite. ~ Yvonne I love y'all's writing. I myself came to very similar beliefs to yours on my own, against the pressure of a mother who was a divorced career woman, a sister who works with a two year old at home, encouragement by my father, teachers, mentors, friends, and seemingly all the men I met, to get my degree! Work hard! Do the best you can! I strove to take the world by storm. I was overtaken by the hunger for a family in my early twenties. Nothing seemed natural about my life. I was deeply in love, and we fell apart. Now I am single, chaste, reading the Bible and learning about being a Christian woman, and sworn to have all the children I can, waiting for a loving husband, and hoping to stay home and rear my children in homeschooling. I am catching up on all the skills of homemaking and nurturing that I never learned from my exhausted working mom. Your site is an oasis of sweetness for me. Many thanks, A Reader How lovely to know that there are like minded women around the world, who consider it a priviledge to be good wives and mothers to their families. Caring and nurturing future generations to become responsible, caring human beings is the most important 'job' ever and is more relevent in todays tortured society than ever before. Please continue with your wonderful work. Ang I just read the December 10th article about the Titus 2 passage. I am a Husband, Father and Pastor. My wife if 15 years has stayed home for the past 12 years. We have two sons 12 and 10 and we are getting a reversal so we can be fruitful and multiply. I was very encouraged to read your article. You did a great job going through the greek when defining that passage. You have been a blessing to my whole family. I have been trying to teach this to other men in our church but I feel like I am casting pearls before swine. But I know one thing. God's Word will prevail. Thanks Randy W Dear friends at LAF, I have really enjoyed your website and have shared the articles with many of my close friends. You are just what we need in a society that tells us everyday that being a Wife and Mom are not enough. I will admit some convicting articals, and changes that are taking place in my life. I've been a stay at home mom and ministry wife for 26 years. The last three years I have been taking college classes and this is enough to overwhelm our family and our schedule. Pray for those of us trying to make this work in our homes and trying to create balance in our lives and our testimonies. God is gracious to forgive when we fail, and many times we just need to readjust and put his ways at the forefront once again. We just held a beautiful girlhood series at church. I led it and we had 6 faithful elementary age girls and their mothers attend. We used the book little book of manners, shared a chapter or two and talked about Godly life characteristics that we need to work on as young women and mothers. It was wonderful. Each week we shared a different lady of the Bible as an example of Godly living and characters. One of the sweetest ones the girls really enjoyed was talking about the the servant girl to Nahum and what kind of a girl she must have been for him to respect and respond to her spiritual guidance to seek God in his healing. This idea came from Vision Forum and your LAF columns. May God Bless ~ Cynthia H. I just had to e-mail you and let you know how timely the article entitled "An Uncommon Opinion on Contraception" is for our family. My mom has been having medical problems and yesterday she went to see a doctor about fixing these problems. The doctor told her she may need to go on birth control pills. My mom informed the doctor that she was philosophically against birth control and the doctor in turn ridiculed her beliefs and told her that birth control did not cause early abortions. Anyway, that evening she met a lady that gave her the phone number to a Christian doctor that agreed with our convictions. I was just encouraged though that at the time that this topic was becoming a major discussion in our house, your article appeared! Thank you. ~ Amy I. © Copyright 2002-2008 by LAF/BeautifulWomanhood.org
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