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From ladiesagainstfeminism.com Comments and Letters Today I read the article entitled "What God Says Do, and Let Him Take Care of the Rest." While reading, I immediately thought back to the day eleven years ago when I decided to leave my career and stay at home. That day, I was standing at the kitchen sink washing dishes, thinking about the impending birth of my first child. As I worked, I continued to imagine what life would soon be like; the break from employment and the time to be spent with my baby during maternity leave. As my thoughts moved ahead to the eventual need for childcare, I felt a heart-wrenching pain and began to weep. When my husband came home at the end of the day I told him, through tears, that I could not bear the thought of leaving our baby in someone else's care at the tender age of six weeks. He agreed without hesitation that I should stay home, and I filled out the necessary paperwork to leave my position. During this time we didn't stop to consider the financial ramifications of our decision; after all, our income would drop by nearly fifty percent almost overnight, and things were already tight. How were we to pay all our existing bills plus the costs associated with a new baby? What about the student loans, car payment, doctor bills, etc.? All I can say is that the Lord was faithful to honor the intention of our hearts. He provided for our needs even though the numbers would never have worked out on paper. I encourage every woman whose heart longs to be home to seek the Lord's direction and timing. Although the transition may sometimes be difficult, we can trust Him; He is well able to make a way where there seems to be no way. My family is living proof. ~ Mrs. Michelle L. I am so grateful to have found this site! All my life I've felt guilt for enjoying womanly, feminine activities. Now I know that there is nothing wrong with me, but there is something wrong with a world that trivializes women's divine calling as wives and mothers. I have not been able to stop reading the articles on this site. I have felt pushed my whole life to become a successful career woman and bring home a large paycheck, but have dealt with depression that I think stems a lot from having to deny my essential female longings. Keep up the good work! While I don't think I can quit my job and be a stay at home wife, I am encouraged to cut back my hours, dress a little bit more femininely, and take a little bit more pleasure in making our home cozy and warm for my husband and me. I truly love being my husband's wife! ~ Mrs. Erin R. Thank you for the much needed and courageous witness to correct ordering of priorities and the beauty of living out all of the gifts of authentic femininity. I have been reading your site for over a year now, and the articles, especially concerning modesty of dress, have been very helpful to me. Shortly before I came across your site, I began wearing dresses and skirts every day, for every activity. My friends understood and were pleased and supportive. My mother and others, however, did not understand. Everyone in my life has now gotten used to my more feminine wardrobe, and I must say I have not been restricted in any manner. Whenever someone asks me if I find skirts to be cumbersome, I respond that pioneer women crossed the rockies and forded rivers wearing skirts and petticoats. All in all I have found that most people are a little surprised, and very receptive to the idea that trying to become more manly in dress and demeanor does not "liberate" women; it forces them to try to mold themselves into what they were not created to be. I often see the beginnings of reflection when I mention that God created two sexes with different strengths for a reason, and by living fully the way we were created to be, more helthful, harmonious families and societies will result. Thank you again for your website. It has been a great help to me as I discern God's will in my life and as I share the beauty of the complementarity--not the antagonism--of the sexes with others. Pax Domini! Sincerely, Jessica B. Well, I must say: When I first found this website I was put off. As a young woman in college fond of her jeans, big t-shirts, and sweatshirts, I didn't expect to find much that would resonate with me here. Well, I must say: I was wrong. Though I disagreed with many of the specifics, I couldn't deny the underlying principles evident in the articles I read. At first I thought some of the clothing ideas silly, but after some consideration, I thought, Is it better to err on the side of modesty or immodesty? This led to the decision to wear a more covering bathing suit and to opt for capris in the summer instead of shorts, among other things. You also gave me some more appreciation for the idea of Biblical femininity. I've often hated myself for "acting like a girl" and tried to act like a guy to make up for it. But both sexes have their bad habits, just as both have their God-given beauty. You helped me to see this. I don't suppose we'd see eye-to-eye on everything. (Does anyone?) However, the honesty I've found on this site is refreshing. It's a Christian perspective that doesn't care if it's "relevant" or "tolerant," realizing that God's Word is more relevant than most of us recognize. So thank you, and may the Lord bless you and your work. Sincerely, Michelle G. Dear LAF, I enjoy your site quite a bit and it has inspired me! After a lot of deliberation with my husband, today I am notifying my boss that I will not be back after this semester. I am going home to take care of my family full-time! Thanks! ~ Laura May I say that I appreciate you and your ministry here at LAF! You have such a loving and direct way of speaking truth to those who are willing to hear it and receive it. I can truly say my life has been changed because of you and LAF. I have gleaned so much from you and the others here ministering. I have grown by leaps and bounds since coming here! I have been coming here for a very long time and will continue to do so! Thank you for the time, the effort and the wisdom that you put into this place! I pray the Lord pours out His blessings upon you and this place in abundance. Please continue to bring forth the message your sharing here, peoples lives are being changed without a doubt, I know this because I am one of those lives that has been changed! You all stand for what in my oppinion a woman of God is about and I stand with you in this. I will be praying deligently for this ministry! Praise the Lord for the truth that is spoken here! God Bless you and again Thank You! Jamie S. What a breath of fresh air your site is. It is a real blessing. It is educational, informative, and entertaining. Thank you for providing this site. I just wanted to let you know I found the articles on women in the military to be so true. I spent 4+ years in the USN Reserve. When I joined women never went to combat. Mothers were given the option to discharge. I was a glorified secretary trying to earn my way through college. Sadly my father (unsaved) had always taught me I would be nothing without a degree and career. I praise God that he spoke to my heart with the birth of my first child and 15+ years later I have always been home. Thank you for providing an honest look into this issue. I pray for all our men and women serving in the armed forces. I wish all the women could come home and know what it is to be the mothers, sisters, and wives God meant them to be. How hard it is for any women to learn to submit and retain her femininity in that realm of influence. God bless you all. ~ Angel D. Bless you dear ladies for answering God's call to be Titus women on the web. I love your site and take time to enjoy reading it a little bit each day. I am learning a lot. Be encouraged that people are being blessed by your labors. Thank you for keeping it up despite the time it takes and the "scorching rhetoric" you recieve. God bless! ~ Elese E. I just finished reading your article: "You don't know feminism." I come from a feminist background. I WAS a Goddess Worshipper for several years. I also was going to a school to become trained as a minister in said religion. All I can say is I totally agree with your article. Finally one day I realized what this was doing to my marriage and my family. I TOTALLY support your website! Thank you for trying to set the record straight. Sincerely, Jill M. ~ Housewife and stay at home mother of 2, and happy to be such! Your site, which I have recently discovered,was a balm to my spirit today. I am coming home after 38 years of fulltime work (I will be giving my formal notice Monday!) and this morning I had two emails from co-workers asking why I am planning to "throw my life away." !!! There is an article at your site on "Coming Home" which I plan to attach to my letter of resignation. ~ Joan H. I want to thank you for your site. I have recently recognized God's magnificent design for women and am trying to apply it in my life. Your site has been a great help in understanding what a Christian woman's responsibilities and character traits should be. Thank you so much for being faithful to God's word and providing a place where others can come and learn. Thank you. ~ Melissa C. How REFRESHING! I can't wait to share this site with my friends. I'm a 55-year-old former "feminazi" whom the Lord called and saved 21 years ago, delivering me from a career job to become a homemaker for my beloved husband who has since become a Christian. How I long to see lovely, lady-like women again, who are willing to take a stand for modesty and the Word of God. One day I would like to share my story with you about how the Lord brought me out of feminism and made me a truly submissive woman to my husband and father. Until then, THANK YOU for the wonderful encouragement you give us ladies who feel we are a vanishing breed. May our Lord's richest blessings rest upon your efforts. ~ Mary T. I just read some of the encouragement and much of the scorching rhetoric about this site. I just wanted to say that this site is an Oasis in the desert to me. I was raised by a hard-core feminist, and it was only at the age of 20 that I finally realized that what I really wanted was to be a stay-at-home wife and mom. The "scorches" I read here sounded all to [sic] much like what I was raised to believe ("A woman in the home is a woman oppressed"). I know the Truth now, the real Truth of 1 Cor 11 that sets up God's order of things (God, Christ, man, woman). I have found that a woman who stays in her sphere is like a train on its track, where a feminist is like a train that decides to jump the track and "shortcut" through a field. Which one is going to get to its destination, and which one is going to crash? I'd rather be "confined" into an all-loving God's order than "free" and wrecked. ~ Anna B. Women of LAF, Thank you for your work and dedication to Biblical womanhood. I find your website to be edifying and very encouraging. There are so many negative influences in the world that it is incredibly refreshing to be able to visit your site. I appreciate your efforts, knowledge, and understanding of Scripture. Sincerely, Mrs. Jennifer P. Thank you for this very interesting site. As a christian women with 'feminist' leanings it is good to see a well written and intesting site about women roles from a different perspective. When I read a few of the articles I could see one of my best friends from church and her decisions in life more clearly. Perhaps, by reading your sight more throughly, I will be able to be more understanding and open to her and her life choices. May God be with you. ~ Emily Dear Ladies, I have been enjoying the articles and helpful links on your site for some time now. Sometimes I visit just to look at the lovely pictures. Though at first I was taken a back by the negativity of the site name, I have grown to appreciate it's nuanced message. I applaud your stand, and thank you for giving voice to those whose hearts have been trodded upon by feminist idealism. Though I never felt a feminist at heart, I picked up the message throughout my education that if I don't support *feminist* female equality then I don't support women. I now know that is not true, and in fact we are already equal in the eyes of God, and to live His Will is the only ideal we need be concerned about. I hope more women will come to see that feminist ideals have robbed them of what is pure and true of being female. Thank you for all the insightful articles, and gracious direction in returning to a modest and feminine state of womanhood. May God bless your endeavors! Your friend, Melissa A. I just have to tell you how much I'm enjoying your website and what an eye-opening experience it has been! I grew up in the 60's at the height of all the feminism. While I wasn't radical, I was a former "half-hearted" feminist who has worked all my life to support myself and my mom before she passed away, plus raise a god-child. I've always been very feminine, and loved my home, but with the circumstances that were attendant at the time, I did what I had to do, which is work to support my little family. I did this while going to college & after graduating. Unfortunately, I actually took Helen Reddy's song, "I Am Woman" to heart and I believed I was invincible! I could do anything on my own! How sad (and wrong)that is - men and women each have roles to play according to God's plan. It'so sad to see how many women and young girls have been duped into believing this feminist rhetoric, and what a complete disservice it is to them. Keep up the great work - you've really opened my eyes! ~ A.P.  Lady Folding a Letter by Elizabeth Vigee LeBrun © Copyright 2002-2008 by LAF/BeautifulWomanhood.org
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