Posted By Mrs. Wayne Hunter on May 7, 2010

“Deep in his heart every man longs for admiration of his manliness – his masculine skills, abilities, achievements, ideas, dreams, and manly body.  He hungers for it as for bread.  Just as you need love, he needs admiration.  In fact, the center of a woman’s happiness in marriage is to be loved – but the center of a man’s is to be admired.”~ Mrs. Helen Andelin from page seventy-nine of the book Fascinating Womanhood, 2007 edition.

“As the fining pot for silver, and the furnace for gold; so is a man to his praise.” ~ Proverbs 27:21

Genuine praise and admiration edifies a husband and makes him a better man through and through.  It gives him the strength and determination to go on, to keep trying.  It gives him the impetus to work, to think, to dream, to come up with new plans and ways to prosper in all forms.  It is amazing what earnest, edifying praise/admiration can do for a man.  Whereas women thrive on love, men thrive on earnest, building praise–biblical respect.A man’s need for admiration…

A husband wants admiration (in this context it is the same as praise) from the woman that he loves – his wife - more than from anyone else.  No other human can give the man the heartfelt, soul-feeding admiration that his wife can.  Of all the awards, achievements, fame, and glory in the world, the only admiration that can feed him deeply in heart and soul, in places inside of him that can’t be reached by any other human, is from his beloved wife.

Unfortunately, we live in such a day and age that we are bombarded with the opposite message.  We are bombarded through music, television shows, movies, and all such things with the message that we must continually, as women, put men down and see and treat them as nincompoops who have trainwrecked everything.  The enemy of love and goodness uses this lie to destroy men and their relationships with the women they love.  We mustn’t let ourselves fall into this way of thinking and acting. We mustn’t even listen to or read of such destructive lies, for it will seep into our thinking and can easily become part of our words and actions in many different ways.  We mustn’t let this evil out in our homes to taint our children’s minds.  If we do so, we are helping to destroy the very men we love!  That is no way for a God-fearing or Christian family to live.

Don’t Lie or Flatter

Whatever you do, if you plan to give your husband admiration, do not lie or flatter (to flatter means to “lay it on thick” in a way, to say things that aren’t completely sincere and meaningful). Only admire him for things you truly admire, or you stand a chance of humiliating him and wounding his masculine pride.  You will send him the message that there is absolutely nothing to really admire about him, so you have to make up lies.  At the very least, he will see you as insincere, and that’s a horrible way to be seen by one’s husband; it can take a very long time to convince him that you are a sincere, honest person after such an incident.  Just don’t do it, don’t take a chance on hurting his pride, humiliating him, and don’t take a chance on destroying marital trust.

Adulterous women know that the key to seducing married men is to flatter them.  They offer them flattery disguised as admiration.  They do not really admire these men, for if they did they would respect them and their families; they would want to see them prosper for the good of all mankind.  Adulterous women do not want these men to prosper; they want to destroy them and their families.  Every single married woman in our land needs to know this and remember this: if she does not feed her husband sincere, building, admiration, then her husband stands a big chance of being deceived and lured in by the flattery of an adulterous woman.  On the other hand, if he receives true admiration and not wicked flattery from his beloved wife, he will be more apt to see right through the wicked lies and flattery of adulterous women.  Most husbands who are sincerely admired by their wives won’t even pay an adulteress any mind; they will have enough inner strength not to turn into her path, for they have tasted of true, life-building, strength-building praise, and will want nothing less than eating of the fruit that their wives offer.

“That they may keep thee from the strange woman, from the stranger which flattereth with her words” ~ Proverbs 7:5

“To keep thee from the evil woman, from the flattery of the tongue of a strange woman.” ~ Proverbs 6:24

“To deliver thee from the strange woman, even from the stranger which flattereth with her words; which foresaketh the guide of her youth, and forgetteth the covenant of her God.  For her house inclineth unto death, and her paths unto the dead” ~ Proverbs 2:16-18

In part two of this series, information is given on how to give your husband admiration and gain his heart.

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Categories: Biblical Womanhood
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