“Easy For You To Say!”

Posted By on May 31, 2010

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Lately, I have been convicted of a truth that I have long denied:

I am sheltered.

I know what you might be thinking. As a homeschool graduate, as an adult daughter living at home, as a Christian, this is a claim that I have been taught to deny. I do not live in a comfortably insulated bubble. I am not just a privileged princess who has never had to endure hardship. I am not young and idealistic!

But the fact of the matter is, I really am all of those things.

And it’s easy to say, “When I get married, I want to trust the Lord’s sovereignty over my womb” when I try to forget the stories my grandmother tells me about the women she works with in the San Antonio court system, who have more children than they can care for.

It’s easy to say, “I would like to be a stay-at-home mom” when, for the most part, I’ve grown up in a single-income family, and I have never been hungry.

It’s easy to say, “Government education should not be considered a viable option for Christian parents” when my two well-educated parents have given me every opportunity to excel academically at home.

It’s simple to say, “I want my parents to be involved in my life decisions” when I have only ever known a loving, conscientious Mama and Daddy who I always know have my best interest and -foremost -God’s glory at heart.

So simple to say, “I reject the follies of feminism” when I have never been hurt or abused by a man -only cherished and protected by the males in my life.

So simple to go to the crisis pregnancy center, serve at the homeless shelter, or slip a panhandler some change and the to forget about lives touched by pain and hardship as soon as I get home –to be insulated.

My life has been touched by hardship, but the hardship has been a little like secondhand smoke: my dad was raised by a single mother who worked so very hard to raise him into the strong man that he is today and who is now an amazing woman of God-my mother suffered an abusive childhood that has given her a testimony of faith and forgiveness -my four younger brothers were adopted, and their birth mothers were a rape victim, a fourteen-year-old girl, a twenty-one-year-old who had three other children already…

But my road so far has been simple. I walk it with an empathetic heart that feels deeply the pain of others… but I walk it with very little pain of my own to show for it.

I am idealistic, yes, and I have reason to be. But if anything, my life has taught me that the God I serve and the gospel I strive to proclaim heals. It heals broken hearts and binds bruised spirits to such a degree that -from suffering, from pain, from poverty -the Lord put together a family where six children are being raised in the nurture and admonition of the Lord, full of the biblical ideals that can spring cultural reformation that can allow little girls to grow up sheltered, loved, and protected, and can spur young men on to treat the women in their lives with tenderness, respect, and love.

I know what you’re thinking. Easy for you to say. It’s only because of God’s grace, though, that I can say these things with ease -and only because of his faithfulness that I can trust him, through the little storms that buffet me now, and through bigger storms that lay ahead. It’s only because of his love that we as Christians are able to extend love to others who so desperately need to know him. My life’s not as easy as you think it is –I’ve just known God’s goodness. I’m not teaching a prosperity, name-it-and-claim-it gospel here -I am not the most materially blessed girl you’re ever going to meet! But, because of God’s grace, my life is rich with purpose.

I do not live in a perfect world, despite having had what I admit was a picturesque childhood, and despite living in a Christian home -I have experienced hurt that I do not share with everyone -not one of us has escaped pain this side of heaven. Beyond that, there’s a hurting, dying world outside of my front door. But throwing up my hands in despair is not the answer -accepting the status quo is not the answer -making the exceptions the rule is not the answer: the gospel is. Trusting the Lord will not eradicate the hardships in our lives, but it will give our souls shelter from life’s storms, and it will unite us with the purpose we were made for: to glorify the Lord.

Biblical womanhood is not about calling other women to live perfect little cookie-cutter lives -it has just as much to do with the suffering single mom as it does the stereotypical Susie Homemaker -it has just as much to do with the downtrodden, abused woman as it does with the cherished wife of a God-fearing man -it has jut as much to do with the overwhelmed mother of nine as it does with the perfect “little” family of four… because biblical womanhood is about the gospel. It is about the unwavering standards of God’s Word. It is about the timeless truths that heal. Yes, they seem idealistic in our day and age, because of how far we have fallen from them -but as the gospel’s healing influence invades our life, they will be more and more within our grasp. As we reach out to love others as Christ first loved us, his truths will permeate our lives and the lives of those around us. As we humble ourselves before the Lord and delve deeply into his Word, we are able to follow the pattern that Christ has set for us (Romans 12:2).

It starts here.

He gives power to the faint,
and to him who has no might he increases strength.
Even youths shall faint and be weary,
and young men shall fall exhausted;
but they who wait for the LORD shall renew their strength;
they shall mount up with wings like eagles;
they shall run and not be weary;
they shall walk and not faint. ~Isaiah 40:29-31

About The Author

Jasmine is the oldest of Voddie and Bridget Baucham's seven children. She is a homeschool graduate who enjoys studying and writing about areas as varied as theology, philosophy, political science, art, film and culture. She is also an aspiring author who currently lives at home where she continues to assist her father in his research, is completing a degree in English literature, has written a book called, Joyfully at Home based on her old blog by the same title and is blessed to assist her mother with the care of her younger siblings. You can now find her rambling occasionally at All She Has to Say


12 Responses to ““Easy For You To Say!””

  1. Janel says:

    There is a strength in being able to admit you have been sheltered and know the implications of it. Good for you! : )

  2. Good word! As a homeschool grad and mom of soon to be 5, I recognize that in a lot of ways I too am sheltered. But like you said, the principles of God’s word are unchanging, no matter our situation. I’m sure Rahab was thankful that the way in for her was the same as the way in for the children of Israel. Thank you for taking the time to pen these thoughts and share them with us. =)

  3. I really appreciate hearing your perspective. xo

  4. Mrs. Parunak says:

    GREAT post, Jasmine! I’ve been (fairly) sheltered, too. And I’ve gotten the “easy for you to say” argument, several times. This is an excellent response to it.

  5. Jasmine, this is excellent. Every family is different, just as all the parts of the Body of Christ are different (by God’s design!)–but the principles of God’s Word work in every situation. I am so thankful for the diverse group of ladies who have written for LAF over the years, because they demonstrate this very powerfully. We’ve had wives and moms who’ve written while working a job and aiming for their homecoming; we’ve had a blind homemaker; we’ve got two ladies who deal with chronic illness yet keep the home and train their children; we’ve got two single mommas who have managed to stay at home with their children, home educate, and run home businesses to make ends meet; we’ve got women of all ages, colors, and financial backgrounds. All of them testify to the power of God to “work all things together for good.” Bottom line: it is never about us. It is about the power and grace of God to accomplish His will through broken people and difficult circumstances.

    There’s a quote I love: “The more obstacles you have, the more opportunities there are for God to do something” (Clarence W. Jones). God is going to equip us to meet the obstacles that will sanctify us and help us to grow more Christlike over a lifetime. But when it comes to the whole “sheltered” argument, the point is that we do not go throw ourselves into bad/sinful situations on purpose in order for God to sanctify us. To that end, yes, ma’am, I will be sheltering my children from the pornography that passes for “prime time” television today; I will be providing my children access to a rich library in our home that has taken years and careful thought to compile; I’ll be giving my sons a vision for the godly, honoring treatment of women and teaching them and my daughters to value and respect their sexuality rather than cheapening it (so, yes, that means no Miley Cyrus in my house). God can (and does) redeem people out of terrible circumstances. We praise Him for that. But it doesn’t mean we keep adding exceptions to the rules so we can experience those circumstances for ourselves. Christ created reality, and He calls us to live in it, holding out hope to others that there is life and health and peace in the way of the cross. Thank you for sharing that hope today!

  6. I love this article Jasmine! You are blessed to be growing up in such an environment (as you’ve already stated).

  7. ladyscott says:

    Well, this article turned out to be what I didn’t expect. I expected to write in how when I was a fairly sheltered teenager in a public school system, I would be so surprised at what other parents allowed their children to see, hear and do. I was called “sheltered” as if it were a bad name by my fellow peers who were having every last bit of their innocents and childhood ripped away from them by negligent or indulgent parents.

    I love how you’ve made it clear that God’s Word and God’s Truth prevails in every situation, from the idealistic childhood to the tortured one. It also reminds me that as a parent myself, I am responsible before God for what I put in front of my children, what I allow them to see and hear, and what I allow them to do.


  8. jcharles5 says:

    Of course, your life is idealistic! You might be sheltered, but that is what God wants. He wants us to live life abundantly and under his protective wing. You were brought up in the love of the Lord, which is ideal. Your parents showed you the more excellent way to live by following God’s plan. If the rest of the world would live by the same example we would all live an ideal life. I praise Him for your life!

  9. Lauren says:

    This was wonderful, Jasmine!

  10. kimmiek says:

    Jasmine, this IS a wonderful article. I have to say that the whole time I was reading it, I was thinking, “Sheltering is the point. The Lord tells us what is best to shelter and protect us. Why has ‘sheltering’ become a dirty word in the church???” I can remember going to dinner with a couple one night and being snapped at because I implied that homeschooling is a much safer option than Christian private schools. (My husband attended Christian schools in high school and can remember plenty of scandals taking place there!) The other mother sitting at the table asked in an indignant tone why she should want to shelter her children. I was astounded. Though I am thankful for God’s sovereignty in my life and the way that he worked my life circumstances to His glory, I look back and wish I had been more sheltered. Maybe then I would not have been exposed to pornography, drugs, sex, and alcohol abuse–all under the age of 13. Sheltering is a blessed thing, in my opinion, and I pray that I shelter my children–that I do not give in to the status quo.

  11. Jenn84 says:

    Sounds like you have a good plan, Mrs. Chancey.

    Jasmine, you really are one of the best writers here! You’ve not been sheltered in the bad sense, because you have empathy and reality in your heart. You know how the world works and how God works in it. Thank you!

  12. Ya know what’s intersting, is that I get people complaining of how ‘sheltered’ I am even though I’ve lived a long non-sheltered life. They can sure make my life sound pretty easy too, as if I could never understand where they’re coming from in life. Well, it’s not so for me. I lived over 20 years of a hard life! If you’d like, I’ve just begun a new blog from my family blog about my life. To begin with, I’m working on my testimony. Then you can go to my family blog from my profile on here and see God’s blessing. Or I’ll just post both links in this comment. I hope you’ll be encouraged!

    Ms. Elsie

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