Holmes: How to Handle Your Spouse’s Sexual Past

Posted By on September 14, 2015


Long before I was even considering marriage, a Titus 2 woman shared with me the pain of confessing her sexual history to her future husband. “It was hard,” she told me. “We both cried. We both repented. It made us a stronger couple.”

I remember being grateful for her openness with me, but also feeling that her story didn’t really apply to me. My romantic history can be shared in about sixty seconds, and the physical aspects of those relationships would make it an even minute and a half. And, as for the history of whomever I was going to marry? That was easy: I would just forgive him. What was done was done. Case closed.

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One Response to “Holmes: How to Handle Your Spouse’s Sexual Past”

  1. Hobbit says:

    As CS Lewis put it, “The sins of the flesh are bad, but they are the least bad of all sins, because the worst sins are the purely spiritual ones. The great sin is pride”.

    The courtship movement is surely right to encourage purity, but it needs to have a response ready when people are coming to marriage with a “past”. Given that if we are doing our job as the Church, we will be seeing people come to faith in Christ – and often from completely non-Christian backgrounds – so we will need something to say if they are single and then go on to get married.

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