Leah Hardy used to be delighted that she delayed pregnancy but now has regrets

Posted By on May 29, 2011

From the UK’s Daily Mail:

Almost ten years ago, I wrote a rather smug article for a glossy magazine extolling the virtues of late motherhood. At the age of 38 I’d just had my first child, and I waxed lyrical about how I felt it was the perfect age to embark upon motherhood.

In my 20s and early 30s, I had travelled, partied and had fun, I wrote, and was now ready for what I suppose I must have assumed was the duller, more restricted, and frankly, less fun life of being a mother.

I seem to recall congratulating myself on being calmer, more patient and less flighty than a younger mother would be.

My son, Henry, was born in 2002. Three years later, at the age of 41, I went on to have another child, my daughter Cecily, who is now six.

So do I count myself lucky? Yes, every single day. Would I write that article if I were 38 again? Absolutely not. In fact, I think I was completely wrong in what I felt and argued then. I also think I was fooling myself.

In an ideal world I would have had my children at least ten years earlier, and although it’s taboo to say so, most older mothers I know agree with me.

The rest of the article is at THIS LINK. [Be warned that the site is tabloid-style, so the sidebar is filled with inappropriate stories; not for young readers.] I’ve been encouraged to see that the delayed motherhood trend has lost ground in recent years with many young women choosing to start their families early rather than waiting and chancing the loss of fertility. However, it should be noted that having children later in life isn’t necessarily a burden, particularly if you have older children who help run the household and enjoy younger siblings. I’m nearing 40 now, and my youngest is not yet two. I feel my children have kept me young and fit as I run to keep up with them. 🙂 It also helps not to obsess about wrinkles and old age. Our culture worships youth, but aging is natural and inevitable, and our children can make our transition into middle age and old age a comfort rather than a terror.

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About The Author

Jennie is the wife of Matthew and mother of eleven children, all of whom keep the household bubbling with life, learning, and levity. Jennie co-founded LAF in 2002 with Lydia Sherman and has been delighted to hear from women all over the world who enjoy their femininity and love to cultivate womanly virtues.

Comments

3 Responses to “Leah Hardy used to be delighted that she delayed pregnancy but now has regrets”

  1. I loved this article. It’s a message more women and men definitely need to hear. Having children earlier is a trend that needs to be embraced by both sexes if things are really going to turn around.

  2. snvarbor says:

    Being married in my early 20’s, but not being able to have kids until my early 30’s due to med issues? or God’s timing I am now an “older” mom with still young kids. We may have had the 5-7 I wanted if we were able to have started earlier, but we are very grateful to God for our 3, now my kids want us to adopt some little siblings for them. Are considering it….. I really hope my kids are blessed with loving spouses & kids in their 20’s.  

  3. Sherrin Drew says:

    Thanks for your sweet testimony of being a Mum of young children in your late thirties!

    It has surprised me how some people do view young motherhood negatively, as though you are “tying yourself down”.