Learning to be left on the shelf

Posted By on April 20, 2010

The Times (U.K.) published a wake-up call Sunday by a feminist who now laments the childless state of so many women:

No one, not my family or my teachers, ever said, “Oh yes, and by the way you might want to be a wife and mother too.” They were so determined we would follow a new, egalitarian, modern path that the historic ambitions of generations of women — to get married and raise a family — were intentionally airbrushed from their vision of our future.

So, like the good girls we are, we set about achieving. The friends I am talking about here were my peers at school and university. Many succeeded beyond their feminist mothers’ wildest dreams. But now, and often too late, we are realising that no job will ever love you back; that the graveyards are full of important executives; that the only people you are ever irreplaceable to are your family.

As they stare into a barren future, many singletons wish they’d put some of the focus and drive that has furnished them with sparkling careers, worn-out passports and glamorous social lives into the more mundane business of having a family.

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About The Author

Jennie is the wife of Matthew and mother of eleven children, all of whom keep the household bubbling with life, learning, and levity. Jennie co-founded LAF in 2002 with Lydia Sherman and has been delighted to hear from women all over the world who enjoy their femininity and love to cultivate womanly virtues.

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2 Responses to “Learning to be left on the shelf”

  1. TiffanyJ says:

    This column is heartbreaking. I am just a few years younger than the writer, and was raised by a “Christian feminist” divorced mom. I heard all the feminist lies my whole childhood. Praise God, by his grace he took me away from that. I’m so very thankful for my husband, my children, and my housewife status!

  2. wordywife says:

    That article makes me feel so saddened for these women.

    My husband and I are trying to start our family, and I enjoy browsing forums and websites for others who are trying to conceive. They are filled with older women who waited too long and are now struggling with infertility. Society tells us it’s okay – even good – to put off marriage and family and focus on the “important” things like a successful career. Society says that you shouldn’t get married or get “tied down” too young. But too often, people let the opportunity for marriage and children pass them by… and by the time they realize it, it’s too late.