Posted By Jennie Chancey on September 14, 2011
From the UK’s Daily Mail newspaper:
A generation of young women have been put off starting a family because it will damage their lifestyle, career and looks, a survey shows. One in three childless women quizzed now say they don’t ever want to become a mother while increasing numbers of thirty-somethings in stable relationships and with good jobs have different priorities.
Almost half would rather get on the property ladder than have a baby while 28 per cent would prefer a £100,000 salary, according to a poll of 2,000 women….
Childless women just aren’t willing to make the sacrifices they now see are necessary for motherhood with 44 per cent feeling sorry for working mums struggling to have it all, the survey said. A quarter think working mothers always look exhausted and one in five say it looks so difficult it makes them think twice about having children. Half of childless women over 30 look at stay-at-home mothers and think it will be difficult for them to get back on the career ladder and a fifth believe they’ve lost their identity.
Body issues are also a factor with three in ten worried about the effect pregnancy would have on their appearance.
Read the entire piece at THIS LINK (be warned, there is a big sidebar with lots of tabloid-style photos and article links). There are so many things this survey points to, but notice that the conclusion is for someone to provide “support systems” so young moms don’t feel it is such a struggle to keep a career and have a family at the same time. Interpretation: taxpayer funding should be used to provide “free” day care and paid leave for mothers so they can have the kids and keep the job (see Kay Hymowitz’s earlier article, which comments on this very issue). This means mothers who choose to forgo the second income and stay at home with their children end up footing the bill for those who do not want to make the same sacrifice.
It really is not possible to have both the full-time career and a meaningfully connected mothering relationship with our children. That more young women are choosing careers, houses, and bikini bodies over children is an incredibly sobering commentary on our times and reveals that we have put our trust in what we can have right now to make us happy — rather than being willing to make the long-term investment in the future that is bringing up children to be responsible adults. And, no, this doesn’t mean stay-at-home mothers do not “work.” It means that work is done in the context of the family and with the involvement of children… the household economy model we advocate here at LAF. Much to mull over….