5 Things I Wish I’d Done Before Marriage

Posted By on December 18, 2013

Editor’s note: This is not an endorsement of Beyonce.

From Relevant

There’s no doubt you need to have a certain degree of personal maturity in order to have a healthy marriage.

Even though you can’t be totally “ready” for something like marriage (more on that here), you should be cultivating a healthy, balanced, God-centered lifestyle in your singleness if you want to do marriage well. The decision to get married is the second-most important decision you can make, and it warrants some very careful thinking and planning.

But this is the 27-year-old version of me talking.

When I was a 22-year-old grad student in Louisville, Kentucky, I was pretty obsessed with the idea of marriage, and I wanted to make it happen sooner rather than later. I didn’t spend too much time wondering about how to cultivate maturity in my singleness.

When a gorgeous, half-Italian, sweet-natured girl named Mandy came into my life, I felt like I didn’t have any reason to. I was hopelessly in love with a godly woman I knew would make for an incredible marriage. Heeding Beyonce’s call, I put a ring on it pretty quickly.

That was almost four years ago, and thankfully it has worked out pretty well. Our marriage has been nothing short of incredible, and I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

To be honest, though, every once in a while, I wonder if I got married too young. Not that I regret it at all, but I wonder if I could have been a better man for her if I had spent more time as a single man developing maturity. I think about some of the ups and downs we’ve had, and I wonder if some of that could have been avoided.

Read the rest here.

Recommended Resources
Marrying Well: Practical Wisdom on Courtship for Parents & Children
It’s (Not That) Complicated: How to Relate to Guys in a Healthy, Sane, and Biblical Way
Building a God-Centered Family, A Father’s Manual
Family Reformation: The Legacy of Sola Scriptura in Calvin’s Geneva

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One Response to “5 Things I Wish I’d Done Before Marriage”

  1. MrsDanny says:

    “Relevant” seems to hold to a pretty wishy-washy type of Christianity. They say they’re “20 and 30 something Christians”. I’m a “30 something” (31 to be exact) and found the site pretty weak. I must just come from a totally different background than their target audience.

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