Duggar Daughter’s Courtship Has Old-Fashioned Roots With a Tech-Savvy Twist

Posted By on September 23, 2013

Jessa and Ben have an unusual relationship by modern standards. They met at church and started to get to know one another, which is a normal “how “Courtship is not just about having fun,” added Michelle, 47. “You are really considering if this person could be your life partner — you pray about it and see what happens. … All of our family is involved in this relationship. It is an exciting time.”they met” story; however, all of their interactions are monitored by her parents, and their families are deeply involved in their relationship.

Explaining the difference between a courtship and dating to People magazine, Jim Bob, 48, said, “Courting is getting to know each other in a group setting, both families spending time together and the couple setting goals together to determine if they are meant to marry. With dating, a couple will often pair off alone and that sometimes leads to a more physical relationship.”

While getting to know one another, Jessa and Ben’s conversations are mostly faith-based, involving probing questions about theology and scripture. “They are enjoying getting to know each other and are recommending sermons to one another,” the father of 19 shared.

Any physical contact between the couple is limited to hugging hello and goodbye. Specifically a “quick 30 second or less side hug.”

“Jessa and Ben have said that was the only contact they would have,” said Michelle, who, along with her husband, has faced controversy for not practicing birth control. “They want to wait on the physical relationship until later. If there is an engagement that comes about, they will work together on their goals and standards for that.”

However, there is a modern twist on Jessa and Ben’s old-fashioned courtship. They often communicate through text messages, but, again, those are monitored by Jim Bob and Michelle because they are actually sent through the parents’ phones.

“It has been fun to watch them and both of our phones are going off back and forth, ping, ping, ping,” said Michelle. “It has been interesting to watch their interactions because for her personality type, they share very similar beliefs.”

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