Comments on: Is It My Fault That I’m Not Married? http://www.ladiesagainstfeminism.com/for-the-unmarried/is-it-my-fault-that-im-not-married/ promoting beautiful womanhood worldwide! Tue, 07 Feb 2012 08:09:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Miss Rebekah Ann S. http://www.ladiesagainstfeminism.com/for-the-unmarried/is-it-my-fault-that-im-not-married/comment-page-1/#comment-1460 Miss Rebekah Ann S. Thu, 29 Jul 2010 21:29:33 +0000 http://www.ladiesagainstfeminism.com/?p=1775#comment-1460 Dear Anna Sofia and Elizabeth, Your articles always leave me wanting to shout hallelujahs! :) When I first read your previous article, I was SO appreciative and impressed. I can see where you could have stepped on some toes (I personally loved your brief sarcasm and boldness!), but toes sometimes need to be stepped on (my own included at times!). The main point you made in the previous article that made me so excited, refreshed, and appreciative was the one that was similar to Jasmine's in her most recent article-that Biblical daughterhood and Biblical womanhood are about so much more than baking cookies, crocheting baby blankets, and wearing aprons (even though I adore each one of these things! :) ). If we as young women are not seeking to be thoroughly saturated in Biblical knowledge, armed to wage war against the aberrant worldviews raging in our culture, etc., then we're not being God-honoring young women, nor are we preparing ourselves for a successful, culture-changing marriage. This wonderful article was no exception-what a blessing it was to read, and what excellent points you made! I really appreciated this: "This means we can be encouraged in our singleness. The single state is not a penalty box, and we are not second-class citizens, and God is not dooming us to a purgatory of ineffectual puttering. He wants us, and has big plans for us, right where we are. We can be used mightily, right now. Our fruit can be significant, today." And I must say, the two of you are prime examples of this! As young women in your early-mid 20s, you are anything but lazy or fruitless! Both of you inspire me so much in your godly example of using every day to further Christ's Kingdom and using your time wisely for projects that bring Him glory. You are both (as is your whole family) being used mightily, and I praise the Lord that the two of you are being faithful to the Lord with your time and pursuits. You went on to say: "On the other hand, if our days now are introspectively focused on our own personal issues and needs and interests, what makes us think we will suddenly become outward-focused and kingdom-focused when we marry?" Great point. I, too, have been convicted by this thought. We cannot think there will be some magical change in us the moment we have a wedding ring placed on our finger. This is one of the reasons why I am so passionate about encouraging young women to implement the teachings of Proverbs 31 into their everyday lives now. If we desire to be Proverbs 31 wives and mothers, then we must be Proverbs 31 daughters! Well, I've said enough! :) Thank you both so much for your wonderful writing, and I'm greatly looking forward to the future articles on this and surrounding topics! Blessings, Rebekah www.byhisgraceandforhisglory.blogspot.com Dear Anna Sofia and Elizabeth,

Your articles always leave me wanting to shout hallelujahs! :) When I first read your previous article, I was SO appreciative and impressed. I can see where you could have stepped on some toes (I personally loved your brief sarcasm and boldness!), but toes sometimes need to be stepped on (my own included at times!). The main point you made in the previous article that made me so excited, refreshed, and appreciative was the one that was similar to Jasmine’s in her most recent article-that Biblical daughterhood and Biblical womanhood are about so much more than baking cookies, crocheting baby blankets, and wearing aprons (even though I adore each one of these things! :) ). If we as young women are not seeking to be thoroughly saturated in Biblical knowledge, armed to wage war against the aberrant worldviews raging in our culture, etc., then we’re not being God-honoring young women, nor are we preparing ourselves for a successful, culture-changing marriage.

This wonderful article was no exception-what a blessing it was to read, and what excellent points you made!

I really appreciated this:

“This means we can be encouraged in our singleness. The single state is not a penalty box, and we are not second-class citizens, and God is not dooming us to a purgatory of ineffectual puttering. He wants us, and has big plans for us, right where we are. We can be used mightily, right now. Our fruit can be significant, today.”

And I must say, the two of you are prime examples of this! As young women in your early-mid 20s, you are anything but lazy or fruitless! Both of you inspire me so much in your godly example of using every day to further Christ’s Kingdom and using your time wisely for projects that bring Him glory. You are both (as is your whole family) being used mightily, and I praise the Lord that the two of you are being faithful to the Lord with your time and pursuits.

You went on to say:

“On the other hand, if our days now are introspectively focused on our own personal issues and needs and interests, what makes us think we will suddenly become outward-focused and kingdom-focused when we marry?”

Great point. I, too, have been convicted by this thought. We cannot think there will be some magical change in us the moment we have a wedding ring placed on our finger. This is one of the reasons why I am so passionate about encouraging young women to implement the teachings of Proverbs 31 into their everyday lives now. If we desire to be Proverbs 31 wives and mothers, then we must be Proverbs 31 daughters!

Well, I’ve said enough! :) Thank you both so much for your wonderful writing, and I’m greatly looking forward to the future articles on this and surrounding topics!

Blessings,
Rebekah

http://www.byhisgraceandforhisglory.blogspot.com

]]> By: sweet ti http://www.ladiesagainstfeminism.com/for-the-unmarried/is-it-my-fault-that-im-not-married/comment-page-1/#comment-1453 sweet ti Thu, 29 Jul 2010 19:58:10 +0000 http://www.ladiesagainstfeminism.com/?p=1775#comment-1453 Thank you for the encouragement for us unmarried young ladies. Focusing our thoughts on Christ- centered character-building is really the key to godliness with contentment, something the Apostle Paul writes as "great gain". (Also something I am working on...) In Christian love, Theresa Thank you for the encouragement for us unmarried young ladies. Focusing our thoughts on Christ- centered character-building is really the key to godliness with contentment, something the Apostle Paul writes as “great gain”. (Also something I am working on…)

In Christian love,
Theresa

]]> By: homemaking 101 http://www.ladiesagainstfeminism.com/for-the-unmarried/is-it-my-fault-that-im-not-married/comment-page-1/#comment-1451 homemaking 101 Thu, 29 Jul 2010 06:29:37 +0000 http://www.ladiesagainstfeminism.com/?p=1775#comment-1451 wow! fabulous article! i love how you so eloquently addressed the issues here. point #4 is especially important. I married at 28 and did feel some frustration, and wondered WHEN??? but my husband is 5.5 years younger than me. it is true... even because YOU are the only one you are aware of in this process, there is another half of it. wow! fabulous article! i love how you so eloquently addressed the issues here. point #4 is especially important. I married at 28 and did feel some frustration, and wondered WHEN??? but my husband is 5.5 years younger than me. it is true… even because YOU are the only one you are aware of in this process, there is another half of it.

]]> By: Bethany Hudson http://www.ladiesagainstfeminism.com/for-the-unmarried/is-it-my-fault-that-im-not-married/comment-page-1/#comment-1449 Bethany Hudson Thu, 29 Jul 2010 03:28:51 +0000 http://www.ladiesagainstfeminism.com/?p=1775#comment-1449 Some wise words here, ladies. I find that the struggles many young singles go through is not unlike the pain and disillusionment of married couples who suffer from infertility. There is a lot of guilt, blame, and temptation to compromise--and even to sin--all because there is so much pain and so much want. I think that one of the most incredible gifts that the Church at large can give to singles is to make a place for them JUST AS THEY ARE where they can feel a part of the core and heart of ministry and fellowship. Too often, churches divide themselves into segregated groups: "young singles" "re-singles" "widows" "young marrieds" "40-something marrieds-with-kids" (you get the idea). A communal, multi-generational, Church FAMILY is what so many Chrsitians need--and I think singles especially. Thank you both for your ministry and especially for carrying it out with such grace and compassion. Some wise words here, ladies. I find that the struggles many young singles go through is not unlike the pain and disillusionment of married couples who suffer from infertility. There is a lot of guilt, blame, and temptation to compromise–and even to sin–all because there is so much pain and so much want. I think that one of the most incredible gifts that the Church at large can give to singles is to make a place for them JUST AS THEY ARE where they can feel a part of the core and heart of ministry and fellowship. Too often, churches divide themselves into segregated groups: “young singles” “re-singles” “widows” “young marrieds” “40-something marrieds-with-kids” (you get the idea). A communal, multi-generational, Church FAMILY is what so many Chrsitians need–and I think singles especially.

Thank you both for your ministry and especially for carrying it out with such grace and compassion.

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