Waiting for sex makes marriages stronger

Posted By on February 1, 2011

From Carolyn Moynihan:

Many young adults believe that they will have a better marriage if they try out some components of marital life first, but the opposite effect is more likely. For example, a new study shows that couples who keep sexual intercourse for marriage then have a significantly better relationship….

Lead study author Dean Busby, a professor in Brigham Young University’s School of Family Life, says, “I think it’s because they’ve learned to talk and have the skills to work with issues that come up.”

Because religious belief often plays a role for couples who choose to wait, Busby and his co-authors controlled for the influence of religious involvement in their analysis.

“Regardless of religiosity, waiting helps the relationship form better communication processes, and these help improve long-term stability and relationship satisfaction,” Busby said.

Apart from anything else, the study shows that couples can and do wait — still. Human mating is not the same as among non-rational animals.

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Jennie is the wife of Matthew and mother of eleven children, all of whom keep the household bubbling with life, learning, and levity. Jennie co-founded LAF in 2002 with Lydia Sherman and has been delighted to hear from women all over the world who enjoy their femininity and love to cultivate womanly virtues.

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  1. My husband and I had a somewhat long engagement of two and a half years. We didn’t plan for this, but he took a while to find a good job to support us both. It was *hard*, especially when everyone else seemed to be shacking up–but now we are married and those times just added to the richness of our relationship now. Plus, it just kind of shows that it can be done! We aren’t scarred for life, and neither were we during the engagement. We are looking forward to a long healthy, happy marriage! ^_^