Pushing Back Against the Porn Invasion

Posted By on April 20, 2010

With many fourth-wave feminists in favor of pornography as “empowerment,” it’s baffling to figure out how to protest the stuff these days. Dozens of feminist blogs celebrate the “freedom” of pornography, leaving you to wonder what happened to the female brain this century. Thankfully, there are a lot of women out there (including feminists) who rightly protest the exploitation and degradation that pornography represents. Here are a couple of good pieces that show this:

P-word sees kiddie bras vanish from shelves: As Mumsnet says, such items “encourages a culture in which children are viewed as sexually available”. And with politicians joining the chorus of condemnation — “completely disgraceful” said Conservative leader David Cameron.

A More Serious Topic: I’ve read so many “defenses” of pornography that assert that watching it or possessing it is, so to speak, a victimless crime. This is ridiculous. The individuals in the film or pictures are objectified. The individual who watches the film absorbs the idea that such objectification is morally okay, and degrades his or her own body by using others as objects.

Not for young readers, but it’s so important to talk about these things with your children, reminding them that their bodies are a precious gift from God and are to be protected and cherished.

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Jennie is the wife of Matthew and mother of ten children, all of whom keep the household bubbling with life, learning, and levity. Jennie co-founded LAF in 2002 with Lydia Sherman and has been delighted to hear from women all over the world who enjoy their femininity and love to cultivate womanly virtues.

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8 Responses to “Pushing Back Against the Porn Invasion”

  1. Abbysmom says:

    Jennie,

    The link titled “A More Serious Topic” is very sad and showed me that porn addiction was a much more widespread than I ever imagined. It didn’t get to the addictive phase in our marriage but I once found a porn DVD in the DVD player when my husband and I were going to watch a DVD together. I felt as though he had committed emotional adultery against me, just as the author said. I consulted our deacon (I am an Anglican and a deacon is an ordained member of the clergy, but not a priest), and she validated my feelings, helped me worked through my anger, led me to forgive my husband, and helped me remember that in God’s sight I was just as beautiful as any surgically reconstructed “actress” half my age. My husband said he has quit and I believe him. (I don’t want to stir up controversy about the appropriateness of female clergy; that’s not the point of this post.)

    My heart breaks for the author of that article and what she went through — it had to be 2000% worse for her than it was for me.

    If people see porn as “freedom as expression”, they are shutting their eyes to all the societal costs, as this author lays out so clearly. If an organization like the American Psychiatric Association (hardly a conservative body) is going to add porn addiction as a diagnosis in its next Manual of diagnoses, they obviously know how serious a problem this is.

    The other article is very troubling as well, IMHO. Marketing padded bras to 7 year old girls, along with a picture of a”bra” for 4 year olds is ridiculous. 7-year old girls should be having tea parties, playing with dolls, taking ballet lessons, learning about reading, music, computers, soccer, T-ball, gardening, caring for a pet or a younger sibling (your list will probably vary, but you get the point).

    Thanks for bringing up this unfortunate but timely topic.

  2. ladyscott says:

    Porn is not a victimless crime or just a sin against self. It is a sin against God, yourself, your spouse and family(present and future because it haunts even after you’ve repented and left the habit), and those who’ve been viewed. It is adultry. It is fornication. It is a trap like quicksand-it may not seem so bad at first, like you can easily get out, but if you linger even just a little while, you get deeper and deeper until it sucks you down into darkness.

    What is so sad, though, is that it is so easily accessable and widely accepted and the general immodesty of women especially is so wide-spread that it is a snare our men and women are finding harder and harder to avoid. Innocent searches on the internet can result in shocking finds. The smallest dabble can turn into the biggest addiction.

    Pray for a hedge of protection for yourself, your spouse and your family from this.

    Thank God my husband isn’t in the quicksand!

  3. Porn? Victimless? The very thought would be laughable, if the whole subject weren’t so unspeakably sad. The victims include not only the “actors” and viewers of the pornography, but the wives and children of the men who become addicted. These individuals often suffer abandonment, heartbreak and outright abuse even though they have likely never viewed the pornography itself. Like ripples from a pebble dropped into a pool, the effects of this evil are spreading throughout our society and leaving innumerable victims in their wake. The idea that anyone would rise to defend it is reprehensible.

  4. wordywife says:

    It baffles me how anybody could think pornography is empowering to women. Why would a porn actress feel good about committing or feigning sexual acts for thousands to see?

    And what’s so tragic is that the world considers pornography viewing as “normal” and “not a big deal” and “every guy does it.” Terrible!

  5. My family was nearly ripped apart by pornography several times during my growing up years, and now that my brother has reached puberty it threatens to do so again. I get quite passionate about it whenever it is spoken of as “freedom of expression” or someone says “it’s not that bad–they’re not hurting anyone.” It’s almost enough to make me sick; people who say such things have no idea what they’re dealing with.
    I think my experiences were a big part in why I’ve chosen to dress as covered as I do: I know *how little skin or shape it takes* to trigger a man’s (or a woman’s, for that matter) addiction.

  6. Also, here’s a great link that was posted by Mrs. Parunak on her blog http://pursuingtitus2.com that is a good resource to help our guys deal with the porn they see all around them: http://www.challies.com/christian-living/sexual-detox-the-e-book

  7. curlyqs says:

    Porn is NOT a victimless crime. I personally have been shattered into a thousand pieces after discovering my husband’s addiction. It IS cheating, it IS hurtful, it IS damaging. With God’s help, we are rebuilding our marriage, but it is going to take a long time to build that trust and respect back up. It tears me up to think that there are thousands of women out there who have to be put through this awful mess because of their man’s selfishness, and the industry’s lies. We need to stand up and shout from the rooftops that this behavior is NOT okay, and that it must stop. And seriously?! Empowering to women?! My disgust can’t be put into words. God didn’t create us to behave this way.

  8. bidoou says:

    You just cannot cope with the fact that many men are watching porn (even those who condemn it in public space in order to divert from themselves and to get attractive to the women who take everything literally someone says in public) and don’t have to work for women as slaves in order to get sex.

    Of course some work in porn because they need the money and don’t have fun at doing so…but you don’t have a problem with soldiers who don’t do such a harmless thing but murder people and pretend that it was for safety reasons.

    You are control freaks and hope that you can cross anybody’s borders – even if the “reasons” you give are fictional or very base motives – with what you already show that you’re acting just like the Nazis or the ones who subdued the Afro-Americans (now they have more indirect methods) did.

    Go on with your babbling since you cannot stop us.

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