My Experience, as a 13-year-old, in Government Sex Education Class

Posted By on June 29, 2015

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[Editor’s Note: Originally published here August 28, 2008, by Sara Bodirsky, © Beautiful Womanhood 2015]

I have known several people throughout my life who have ruined their lives through fornication. And I am not exaggerating. Sometimes it was losing their virginity and dealing with the agony of the person breaking up with them later on. All breakups are hard. But I have been told that there is a great deal of difference in breakups of pure relationships vs. physical relationships. With the pure relationships, both parties have still saved themselves. They may have given their hearts temporarily, but not their bodies. Not their physical purity. Not their virginity. I am told that you never forget “your first.” Why would I give myself to a man outside of marriage, only to have my future husband feeling inferior at the thought of being compared to him? And why would I want those memories that never leave?

(For Mature Readers)

They told us that we, as fifth graders, should have a sex ed class. They told us about periods and condoms and things that our mothers had not thought it necessary that we know at the time. They taught us, as 13-year-olds in freshman sex ed class, all of the embarrassing mechanics and technical terms of sex. They showed us embarrassing videos about which I am not going to go into detail. Innocence stolen.Then the female teacher called a male student to the front of the class and asked him to hold a banana while she rolled the condom onto it. I’ve only seen two condoms in my life. One from that class, and one that a girl had out in freshman algebra class in high school. And that’s been it. Eight years later, and that’s still been it.

All of the talk about contraceptives…I didn’t need to know that at age 13. I had been raised correctly to keep my chastity until marriage. It seems like sex ed classes are a sort of “Welcome to high school! You are expected to have sex. Embrace it! Just don’t get pregnant, and don’t get AIDS! Do whatever you want! Anything goes, just wear a condom! And we’ll even supply them for you!” Such an environment is hard for a 13-year old Christian girl who is being pulled in two separate directions.

I knew that what my parents said and what the Bible said was true. I knew the commands and am eternally grateful that I knew them, or else I would have made some major mistakes. But at the time, you are still tempted to want to be like everyone else. Until you reach 18-21 and all of your “friends” that you looked up to so much and wanted to be just like start having children outside of marriage, committing fornication and creating huge problems for themselves, doing drugs/drinking, and then you begin to see why your parents taught you what they did.

Chastity is not a chain. Not a burden. Not a lock and key that you put upon yourself. It is protection. It is physical, mental, spiritual, and emotional protection. It is a stone wall that you place around your heart…not so that you can’t feel anything, but that you protect yourself from misery.

I have known several people throughout my life who have ruined their lives through fornication. And I am not exaggerating. Sometimes it was losing their virginity and dealing with the agony of the person breaking up with them later on. All breakups are hard. But I have been told that there is a great deal of difference in breakups of pure relationships vs. physical relationships. With the pure relationships, both parties have still saved themselves. They may have given their hearts temporarily, but not their bodies. Not their physical purity. Not their virginity. I am told that you never forget “your first.” Why would I give myself to a man outside of marriage, only to have my future husband feeling inferior at the thought of being compared to him? And why would I want those memories that never leave?

This is why God mandated chastity. To keep us free from hurt, from AIDS, STDs, everything. To keep us free from illegitimate pregnancies which shame the couple and their families and harm children. To keep us free from being the butt of sexual jokes. A child of God is to be above such reproach. To keep us free from ourselves, even. We are renowned for punishing ourselves for past mistakes.

The love of God is the main motivator. He is 98% of the reason why I have chosen to stay chaste. But the other 2% is this: I may not have met my future husband yet, but I love him enough to save myself for him. Love, as in more than a passing fancy. Love, as in respect and courtesy. Respect, so that I will know no other man’s touch, and courtesy to keep myself free from the mental and physical repercussions that accompany fornication so that I will be a better wife to him.

God knew what He was doing when he commanded purity. But our culture doesn’t realize this. They assume that we are all destined to be fornicators, adulterers, homosexuals, and such like. They don’t think that we, as America’s youth, are capable of anything more. Our culture plugs us into society and its cavern of sin, and we are indoctrinated through public schooling and the liberal, awful media.  Our children in elementary school are having “Gay Days” where it is taught that it’s okay to have “two mommies” or “two daddies,” which means an even greater combination of sin…homosexuality and fornication. And our young children, whose minds are like sponges, are being taught that this is normal. This is not normal.

What the Bible labels an “abomination” is being touted as a “civil right.” Nobody has the “right” to disobey God’s commandments. Whether or not our crooked legal system okays it or not, nobody has the “right” to do wrong.  God gave us the common sense to be better than our culture. I truly believe that. We are not pre-programmed to be brainless animals that follow blindly. If you follow blindly, then that is your choice. But there are others who choose not to. And those are the ones who have my respect and who I look up to.

God is smart. Amazingly so. He wrote the Bible through over 40 amazing men who lived during different times. But His word is constant. His truth is constant. And there is a better way for Americans, and people all around the world. The world, as we see it, is a façade. It’s not truth; it is a sequined veil drawn tantalizingly over a pit lined with dead bodies and unimaginable evil. We do not want to be there. So keep your hearts pure, let God live there, and obey His commands, because they truly are in our best interests.

Recommended Resources
When the Wicked Seize a City
IndoctriNation: Public Schools and the Decline of Christianity in America
Raising Maidens of Virtue: A Study of Feminine Loveliness for Mothers and Daughters
Daughters of Destiny

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  1. slykat87 says:

    I proudly can say I have been intimate with only my husband… but was subject to an over sexualized environment growing up. Keeping myself for my husband has been the hardest but so rewarding. I feel wonderful and I am happy to know that God was with me all the time, even when at times I thought he was not. But I now fear for my children, who will have to fight such a horrible future with so many awful things happening. But with HIM and following his word, I am sure they will make it. Good for you for saving yourself until marriage. Believe me, it is worth it in EVERY possible way.

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