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Since 2002, LAF has refuted the follies of feminism and promoted a strong, intelligent, biblical view of womanhood. We love femininity and are delighted to share the beauties of the womanly virtues with women all over the world. New to LAF? Start here! Looking for older articles? Please visit the archives!

Super Women vs Superwoman

February 17, 2015 | Author:

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[Editor’s note: There will always be women who strive to succeed at the highest level. That is why it is important that we understand the jurisdiction God gave women and all the things within that jurisdiction that she can put her hand to, excel, and prosper at. Ask yourself, “Who are the real producers?” Much of the feminist ambition is achieved by truncating, cutting back, killing, taxing, borrowing, etc. Stay-at-home wives and mothers produce and have something to show for their work when they’re done. They’re truly fruitful. More people through child bearing, better education through the work they do with home education, christian discipleship in the homes creating a people group with sound moral ethics, established debt-free home economies, home-businesses, cultural discipleship through church and community involvement relieving the burden of the state welfare systems, etc.

Also, what is ‘flashy’ exactly? Flashy is pride not a fruit of the spirit, or a christian virtue, flashy is nothing and you can’t build with nothing.]

An article published in The Daily Mail today laments that women increasingly base their self-worth on the success of their working lives, labelling this a “toxic legacy of the feminist Superwoman“.  It asks the question: “Career women insist feminism means ALL women having jobs, but could that belief blight the lives of mothers – and their children?“.

It is a question worth asking.  How much must women do to realize their true worth and live great lives?  Even government policy is so often now pointed towards encouraging women back into work, increasing economic ‘productivity’ (forgetting, perhaps, that a working age, tax paying population is a direct result of mothers bringing up children and stable family life), and making regular counts of the numbers of women in top corporate and government positions to show how far we have come.

All this makes it easy for women to feel that they are not doing something truly important unless they also have some sort of career.  So much is expected of women today. There is no question that this is one of the reasons that countries across the world are seeing dramatic and worrying drops in fertility rates.

Read the rest here

Recommended Resources
Passionate Housewives Desperate for God
Three Decades of Fertility
Start Your Family: Inspiration for Having Babies
BIRTH CONTROL: How Did We Get Here?

Love Letters: George Washington to his Wife

February 16, 2015 | Author:

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Like her husband, Martha’s letters also mention divine Providence. Writing to Mercy Otis Warren from Valley Forge on March 7, 1778, she says, “…indeed I think providence was very bountiful in her goodness to your state….would bountiful providence aim a like stroke at Genl Howe, the measure of my happiness would be complete.”

Writing to Mrs. Elizabeth Powel on January 18th, 1788, Martha said, “She is blessed however with a charming family of children, and providence has been bountiful in giving her resolution and strength of Body and mind to be  able to undertake the care that have developed upon her.”

By Washington’s own testimony, throughout his life, he was a happily married man. On September 20, 1759, he wrote, “I am now I believe fixed at this seat [Mount Vernon] with an agreeable Consort [Mrs. Martha Washington] for Life and hope to find more happiness in retirement [from service in the British Army at the end of the French and Indian War] than I ever experienced amidst a wide and bustling World.”

Purchase your copy of George Washington’s Sacred Fire

Feminism is Bad for Your Heart Health

February 16, 2015 | Author:

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[Editor’s Note: Anything that is bad for you will not end well. Defying common sense is not the highest of human attributes though many try to prove otherwise. Feminism will cause it’s own extinction. i.e. Feminism gave us birth control, singleness, a putrid sexual ethic, a self-satisfying power grab, statist substitutionary motherhood and dependency. Birth control gave us cancer and declining populations, immorality, marital instability. Singleness gave us, narcissism, a individualized political ethic, declining family values, massive college debt, detachment from generational establishment of property and economic stability. Sexual liberation has given us a demoralized population, disease, abuse, orphans, further objectification of women by compromising bio-ethical practices. Empowerment has given us an array of sordid victimization and entitlement issues compromising law, and usurping family, church, and state. And so on, and so on….

Feminism will cause it’s own death. Don’t be a part of the death toll.]

Marriage protects men and women from fatal heart attacks. Indeed, even among individuals who do suffer a heart attack, men and women are more likely to survive if they are married than if they are not. The relationship between marital status and fatal heart attacks receives illuminating attention in two European studies: one by researchers at the University of Stirling and University College London in Great Britain, and a second by researchers at Skåne University in Sweden. The British study measures the degree of protection from fatal heart attacks enjoyed by married men and women and tries to account for that protection. The Swedish study scrutinizes the distinctively high survival rates among married men and women who do suffer a heart attack.

Read the rest here

Recommended Resources
It’s Not That Complicated: How To Relate to Guys in a Healthy, Sane, and Biblical Way
What Our Father Taught us About Boys: How to Relate to Brothers in Christ, A Practical Guide
Marrying Well: Practical Wisdom on Courtship for Parents and Children
How To Evaluate A Suitor

 

‘Call the police, my girlfriend’s father killed my child!’: The day I lost my unborn baby to the Culture of Death

February 16, 2015 | Author:

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We were born to know the truth, and something in our soul is repulsed by lies. This awakening takes work and it takes time. But it is ultimately unstoppable.

It was two days before my seventeenth birthday, a Saturday morning, the day after a football game in which I’d played. So I was tired and sore, but I could smell breakfast coming from downstairs and somebody was walking up the stairs. I was half asleep. The door opened: it was my girlfriend, I smiled, of course—but from the look on her face I could see that this wasn’t called for. This was a serious moment. I steeled myself.

After a few long seconds, she looked up at me and said, “I’m pregnant.” That woke me up quick. We sat there in my bedroom, two young teenagers. My room was still a boy’s place, hung with football posters, sneakers, and baseball gloves strewn across the floor. But there I was, sitting next to my pregnant girlfriend. I knew all of a sudden I’d lost the right to keep on being just a boy. My girlfriend went to an all-girls Catholic school and looked ahead to college, while I was dreaming of college football and a career in the NFL. We each had a plan for our lives. It was time to scrap those plans.

We strategized together figuring out how to take care of the new life we created. It felt completely natural and, incomprehensibly, even a little exciting: Our adult lives were starting much sooner than we had planned, but we’d figure it out. So here’s what we decided: I could drop out of high school to join the army (a friend of mine had just done the same). My girlfriend would keep things secret, wear baggy sweaters and take vitamins until I got back from basic training and then we would be together—and I’d take care of all three of us.

Read the rest here

Recommended Resources
Wait Till It’s Free
Start Your Family: Inspiration for Having Babies
180′ Movie
BIRTH CONTROL: How Did We Get Here?
Abortion: A Rational Look At An Emotional Issue
A Biblical Worldview On Abortion
Blood Money: Getting Rich Off a Woman’s Right to Choose
Unplanned: The Dramatic True Story of a Former Planned Parenthood Leader’s Eye-Opening Journey across the Life Line (Focus on the Family Books)
The Heidi Group
Rescued: The Heart of Adoption and Caring for Orphans
Grand Illusions: The Legacy of Planned Parenthood
Won by Love: Norma McCorvey, Jane Roe of Roe V. Wade, Speaks Out for the Unborn As She Shares Her New Conviction for Life

Is Italy Dying?

February 16, 2015 | Author:

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The Italian health minister has recently said some alarming words about his country’s demographic outlook:

We are very close to the threshold of non-renewal where the people dying are not replaced by new-borns. That means we are a dying country,” Health Minister Beatrice Lorenzin said.

This situation has enormous implications for every sector: the economy, society, health, pensions, just to give a few examples,” Lorenzin said.

We need a wake-up call and a real change of culture to turn the trend around in the coming years, added the minister. 

What has caused this pessimistic outburst from Lorenzin has been the news that 2014 saw fewer Italian babies born than in any other year since 1861 when the modern Italian state was formed. The Italian national statistics office ISTAT released figures last week showing that the number of live births last year was a touch over half a million (509,000) a number that was 5,000 fewer than 2013.

Read the rest here

Recommended Resources
Passionate Housewives Desperate for God
Three Decades of Fertility
Start Your Family: Inspiration for Having Babies
BIRTH CONTROL: How Did We Get Here?

4 Lies About Sexuality in Fifty Shades of Grey

February 15, 2015 | Author:

Real Men vs Christian Grey

February 15, 2015 | Author:

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[Editor’s Note: The author’s conclusion that we should be grateful in apart for the film production of 50 Shades of Grey is in error. Smut doesn’t produce wisdom. If we can see this for what it is, poison it is due solely conscience. That internal guide created by God we’ve long ignored in the small things. We think we crossed the line with 50SoG. We crossed the line and crossed conscience long ago, hardened our hearts and that is why it takes something as devastating as 50SoG to remind us who we are. If we can remember that is. ]

Dear E.L. James (author of Fifty Shades of Grey),

I have a bone to pick with you. Valentine’s Day is a day to celebrate love – not to degrade and thoroughly undermine it. But through your books, and now with the film’s release on February 14, that’s exactly what you are doing. You are conveying to women that certain characteristics in a man are attractive when they are really not. You are telling women that your book has something to do with love, whereas I can hardly think of anything that’s further away.

I have not polluted my mind with the books or movie, but I’ve educated myself enough about them to know that I should stay away. But I thought I’d help you out, just in case you have any future books in the works. Because from now on, I’m thinking that you should grab the attention of women across the world with something infinitely more impressive: the qualities of a real man. Why? Because a real man trumps Christian Grey any day – including Valentine’s Day. Here’s how:

Read the rest here

Recommended Resources
Courtship Resources for the 21st Century
The Christian Lover: The Sweetness of Love and Marriage in the Letters of Believers
Passion and Purity: Learning to Bring Your Love Life Under Christ’s Control

A Woman, A Dog, and A Walnut Tree…

February 15, 2015 | Author:

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By Geoffrey Botkin From Western Conservatory,

So goes the centuries-old English proverb about romance and human affection. Just in time for Valentine’s Day, British fantasy-pornographer Erika Mitchell has revived this cruel idea in a major motion picture1. In Mitchell’s narrative, an innocent college girl is deceived, tormented and abused for the apparent sexual gratification of the criminal doing the beating. True to the proverb, the story suggests that the victim is the better for it, and now millions of filmgoers worldwide are lining up for a prurient peek at this perversion of romance and human affection.

Mitchell’s visual depictions of Sadistic abuse and deviant sexual passion are being elevated to a prominent and honored position in box-office culture. Mitchell’s Fifty Shades of Grey, a trilogy of erotic escapism has sold 100 million copies worldwide, and has been translated from British English into 52 languages. What curious viewers are forced to see is a vivid demonstration of the Marquis de Sade’s brutal theology of abuse. The Marquis was a liberation theologian and pornographer of 19th century France. Sade and his disciples believe all women of any age belong to all men in any way the men choose, and any harm to the woman is nobody’s business but the man’s. “The issue of her wellbeing, I repeat, is irrelevant,” wrote Sade. He justified the use of any violence necessary to force his will on any woman of any age at any time in order to obtain personal pleasure from cruelty. “I’ve already told you,” he preached, “the only way to a woman’s heart is along the path of torment. I know none other as sure.” Sade was not simply trying to brand a new lifestyle, or trying to make himself happy, or trying to satisfy a lustful urge. He was seriously trying to destroy God’s created institution known as marriage, and God’s created masterpiece known as woman, by dismantling every form of dignity and protection women were entitled to enjoy, and every relationship through which God intended women to find joy. 2

Read the rest here

Recommended Resources
She Shall Be Called Woman
Good Girls and Problem Guys 
Jane Austen and Vampires
It’s Not That Complicated

The Tragedy of the Sexual Revolution

February 14, 2015 | Author:

chprego[Editor’s Note: An article from 2004 but as applicable today as ever. I would point out that it is not futile to argue. If the author really believed that he would not have finished writing the article. The advances that we’ve seen by the Pro-life movement are great examples of arguing the point and seeing fruit. Be willing to give an answer.]

What is lost is the notion that sin is something that harms us. The God-given moral law is something that warns us of danger. I like to think of the Ten Commandments as the “owner’s manual” for our lives, and the road map of Reality the Reality created by God.

The “Sexual Revolution” with its contraception and abortion has not liberated women at all, but enslaved them to chemicals that distort the natural functions of their bodies and grisly surgical procedures that can leave them scarred for life both physically and emotionally.

It has also eviscerated relations between the sexes leaving genuine romance and true love seem like an impossible dream for many lonely people.

A man of character will marry a women he truly loves without pushing her into bed. He will care for her without blackmailing her into sex with the threat of loneliness.

What kind of “feminism” believes women can only be equal to men by attacking the uniqueness and life-giving faculties of their own bodies, either with chemical birth control, or devices that look like they belong in a chamber of horrors museum, or the great violence of abortion.

The Sexual Revolution has gone a long way to destroying true love, romance and driving a wedge between the sexes. When Jesus spoke of the future saying “Through the increase of evil, the love of many will grow cold” (Matt. 24:12) I wonder if He was thinking of our times.

Read the rest here

Recommended Resources
It’s (Not That) Complicated: How to Relate to Guys in a Healthy, Sane, and Biblical Way
Family Reformation
Sex, Marriage, and Family in John Calvin’s Geneva: Courtship, Engagement and Marriage
Marrying Well

Challies: Ten Articles on Porn

February 13, 2015 | Author:

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Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day, and, thanks to one surprising bestseller and its new film adaptation, the whole world is buzzing about pornography and deviant sexuality. 50 Shades has done everything it can to beat and brutalize an otherwise sweet occasion. The day of hearts and flowers has been turned into a day of whips and chains. It’s abhorrent.

Sadly, pornography is one of those subjects I have written about many times over the years. I did not set out to write so many articles, and even a short book, on the subject. Yet as someone who has invested a lot of effort in discipling young adults, and who has at the same time been attempting to make sense of the digital explosion, it has been sadly inevitable.

Here are ten articles I’ve written on the subject of pornography and deviant sexuality.

Read Tim Challies articles here.

The Industrialization of Sex

February 12, 2015 | Author:

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I was reminded of Berry’s insight because of the release of the new film, 50 Shades of Grey, which epitomizes and promotes this view of industrialized sex. Too much has already been written about the stupidity and vulgarity of the novel, so I won’t waste time rehashing why no Christian should engage with that pornography. Instead, just as Berry offers advice on how to recover the pleasures of eating from consumerism, I want to offer a few modest suggestions for how Christians can recover sex from industrialization.

Read the rest here. [ For mature readers only]

Self-Control and Sexual Addiction

February 12, 2015 | Author:

You Can Say No to Porn from Desiring God on Vimeo.

Not all sexual desire is lust. God made sexual desire. It has its good place and it can, in fact, become an act of worship in the temple of marriage. But lust is sexual desire gone wrong. Here’s my definition:

Lust is a sexual desire that dishonors its object and disregards God. Disregards the promises and the warnings of having or losing the beauties of Christ.
The lusted-after woman or man in your head, or on the screen, or on the street, is dishonored — not treated as a sacred, precious, eternal person made in the image of God, whose eternal destiny is always paramount, and whose holiness we either long for or ignore. And the only way this dishonor can be so daringly carried out is by disregarding God while we are in the sway of our lust — disregarding the promises and warnings of having or losing the beauties of Christ. So lust is a sexual desire that dishonors its object and disregards God. Ponder with me for a few minutes the natural and the spiritual role of self-control in relation to lust. . .

Read the rest here

Recommended Resources
She Shall Be Called Woman: Practical Wisdom From Victoria Botkin
It’s Not That Complicated: How To Relate to Guys in a Healthy, Sane, and Biblical Way
In Love with Christ: The Narrative of Sarah Edwards
Sussannah Spurgeon: Free Grace and Dying Love (Morning Devotions with the Life of Susannah Spurgeon)
The Christian Lover: The Sweetness of Love and Marriage in the Letters of Believers
Beloved Bride: The Letters of Stonewall Jackson to His Wife

Co-stars Criticize 50 Shades of Grey

February 12, 2015 | Author:

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I kind of have to pity Jamie Dornan and Dakota Johnson, the co-stars of the forthcoming cinematic adaptation of E.L. James’ best-selling book 50 Shades of Grey.

Unfortunately for the pair, once the initial excitement of receiving the casting call had abated, they still had to go through the process of actually playing Christian Grey and Anastasia Steele: i.e. two of the most vapid, one-dimensional and unsympathetic characters ever, drawn from a book that, when you actually read it, you discover is basically a plot-less, poorly-written, 500-page glorification of misogyny and domestic abuse, based around a bunch of weird and unpleasant sexual practices.

Which is a bit of a letdown. And which is probably why Johnson and Dornan have been so painfully ambivalent about the film during their recent press tour appearances. Actually, that’s being way too kind. After all, what do you call it when one of the lead actors kind of, sort of appears to compare the 50 Shades phenomenon to…well…Hitler.

Read the rest here (mature readers only)

Love Letters: Home is Not Home Without You

February 12, 2015 | Author:

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He called her “my beloved esposa” because Anna was his dearest love on this earth. Ironically, while the great military exploits of General Stonewall Jackson are studied in military schools the world over and his iron will and stern self-discipline have become legendary, little is said about his remarkable marriage. The real Thomas J. Jackson was a humble Christian and loving husband and father. The tender and instructive letters he wrote to his wife Anna are a model of godly leadership and covenantal faithfulness. From their courtship to their final days together, trace the true story of this remarkable couple through the letters of General Jackson to his bride. Even in the midst of the most arduous military campaigns, Stonewall took the time to send home extensive letters of love and devotion.

Purchase your copy of Beloved Bride here

The Reality of a “Fifty Shades” Relationship

February 11, 2015 | Author:

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[Editor’s Note: For mature readers.]

Truth has one shade and this is what it looks like. The mass media and throngs of women are swooning over the “love story” Fifty Shades of Grey. However, this cultural phenomenon’s impact to society will only serve to romanticize sexual violence and excuse domestic abuse.

While thousands of women are fantasizing about the controlling and abusive Christian Grey from the book, there are many women dealing with the horrors of actually living with men like him

Read the rest here

Recommended Resources
Fifty Shades is Abuse www.endsexualexploitation.org
The Christian Lover: The Sweetness of Love and Marriage in the Letters of Believers
Revolt against maturity: A Biblical psychology of man
Passionate Housewives Desperate for God

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