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“Who is this who looks down like the dawn, beautiful as the moon, bright as the sun, awesome as an army with banners? (Song of Solomon 6:10 ESV)
Who indeed? A woman, of course.
Where but in the Scriptures could we find a vision of womanhood as glorious as this? Who but our God could design something with such blinding beauty alongside robust strength? The Psalms and Proverbs fill out this vision of a woman that shows us fortitude clothed in splendor — a woman who presides over her domain with strong arms and resourcefulness (Proverbs 31); daughters that are corner pillars, whose strong support could only be matched by their exquisiteness (Psalm 144:12).
I had a vision for who she would be. I was fairly certain that, with enough work, I could make her happen. I could be all the things: educated, well dressed, articulate, political, logical, and – the end goal – successful.
Then I had a baby.
When God brought me home – literally and figuratively – the limits I’d set on myself were removed, and I was free to embrace the woman God designed me to be.
Willing to be exploited, this is what we’ve become.
How important is it that we are an example of what God created and defined as man and woman? How important is it that we model Christian family life? How important is it that we order every sphere of our societies with godly order and according to scriptural terms?
When we can no longer define what is reality from what is not, we become push-overs, unwilling to stand for anything. This is how the enemies of what is good and what is right, erode our freedoms. They know weakness when they see it and they exploit it.
I love C.S. Lewis’ simple, yet profound depiction of spiritual warfare. “There is no neutral ground in the universe. Every square inch, every split second is claimed by God and counterclaimed by Satan.”11
If we just focused on the psychology behind feminist ambitions for a second, we’d find they are counterfeiting a false strength which they sell us as empowerment. We need to know the difference between what is a sound sense of strength and what is not.
Paul Washer points out the truth here. If we’re weak it’s because we’ve bought into the idea of empowerment.
They say, “Look at what men have done to you,” but we say: look at what Christ, the perfect man, has done for us, and our husbands, and our children. Look at what His work has lead to. The fruit is incomparable to the deceptive promises of feminism. It is, as Paul concludes, absolutely spectacular.
What is the difference between a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship involving two Christians and courting? This is a question I get asked a lot! I think one of the key differences can be summed up by a single word: ‘BELONGING’. Let me explain! Read the rest here!
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Men were built for fighting. Women were built for childbearing. It’s interesting to note how stubbornly true—even obvious—these statements remain, despite aggressive efforts to bury them.Women have bodies of amazing power: Nothing can compare to holding a newborn and realizing with awe, “My body builtthat.” It’s a remarkable feat that men can never simulate.
Women are physiologically awe-inspiring, but not in a way suited for soldiering. Their energies go towards something else; indeed, the female reproductive system is far more “expensive” in terms of invested energy, whether or not a woman ever bears a child.
Might these physiological differences tell us anything about what a flourishing life should look like, for men or women? Modern feminists would say “no”; that kind of reasoning is angrily rejected as “biological determinism.” Gloria Steinem famously declared, “Everybody with a womb doesn’t have to have a child any more than everybody with vocal cords has to be an opera singer.”
Have you ever started reading a story book in the middle, or tried to watch a movie starting halfway through the plot? I have, and though it is possible to figure out the gist of the story, it can be hard to have adequate context, and sometimes important details are missed. Most of all, the significance of events is lost on an audience who doesn’t understand the history of what has come before. Most people start in the middle of the gospel story, with man’s need of a savior and Christ’s atoning work on the cross. But while this is an appropriate message in some settings, if we never understand the beginning of the story, we’ll be left with a truncated view of the significance of the gospel. Instead of starting in the gospels, it’s crucial to start where God does… in the beginning.
Children are the center of any reasonably healthy society. Child-rearing is at the center of any reasonably healthy civilization…We currently inhabit a society in which more people die than are allowed to be conceived and survive until birth. Such a society is fundamentally different, including in its child-centrism, from one in which new life is welcomed as part of the natural order. The children who succeed in being born today often are treated as precious items to be protected from all harm, affirmed, and made the center of attention in any reasonably well-off household—at least when that attention is given by professional “caregivers” in government, education, or the childcare industry. What these children are not is part of functioning families and communities, in which they learn how to cooperate, compete, and practice daily virtues. The result? Two generations of people who are too self-centered to enter into lasting marital relationships, choose life, and work to make better lives for themselves and their posterity.
From children being the center of our culture we have reached a point where each child sees himself as the center of the world. Why? Because so few of us recognize ourselves as part (though not the center) of an ongoing tradition, an order of existence tying the dead with the living and the yet unborn.
What makes children the center of this vision? Children are not merely “the future” in some abstract sense; they are carriers of our traditions and of our beings in this world. They are to be valued for themselves, as products of both God’s love and our own selves. But they also are to be valued—and reared—as carriers of our way of life into the future. They are the next link in the chain of social being of our families and other associations, and also of ourselves.
One of the chronic problems of men is that too often they react instead of acting…This has all too often been true of the reactions of men, Christian and non-Christian, to the women’s liberation movement. The results are sometimes painful.
Are women’s bible studies okay or not? Is the husband the mediator between his wife and family and God? Is a woman’s place merely to supplement a man’s life or does her existence have a more essential meaning, which points to a variety of things she can do with her life? Is it ever right for her to put her foot down?
A long time ago, a woman I knew was acting boorishly and rude. This was rather typical of her but always chalked up to her “quirky” personality: “Oh, that’s just Elaine. She always walks 10 steps ahead of everybody.” Or: “Elaine doesn’t like to sit at the table and eat with others.” Or: “Elaine always talks that way.” But lo and behold, a new person in the group gently confronted Elaine and said to her: “A lot of what you think of as your personality is just plain sin.”
This is the great lesson of history: it is ordinary people of authentic Christian faith who are ultimately the ones who best able to shape the outcome of human events–not kings and princes, not masters and tyrants. It is laborers and workmen, cousins and acquaintances that upend the expectations of the brilliant and the glamorous, the expert and the meticulous. It is plain folks, simple people, who literally change the course of history–because they are the stuff of which history is made. They are the ones who make the world go round. For, as G.K. Chesterton said, “The most extraordinary thing in the world is an ordinary man and an ordinary woman and their ordinary children.”
Ultimately, that is our greatest hope for the future. It is simply that a new grassroots majoritarian emphasis on things that really matter–on the Gospel and its fruits–will emerge as we train up the next generation of culture-shapers. It is that a love for hearth and home, community and culture, accountability and availability, service and substance, morality and magnanimity, responsibility and restoration will capture hearts and minds and lives. It is a hope that may be stymied, obstructed, and hampered–but ultimately it cannot fail.
I know a woman who married for complex reasons: Her sordid past made her fearful and distrustful—of herself most of all. She met a man who was strong and committed to the faith she had recently discovered. A godsend! Or that’s what she told herself, even when she questioned some of his demands. But perhaps that was her fault; she had tons of sin to purge.
Soon enough, though, she began to wonder if this was what Jesus meant by “abundant life.” None of the churches they visited lived up to her husband’s standards, so they began “meeting” at home, as a congregation of two. He did most of the talking. The hothouse atmosphere produced strange fruit, and she couldn’t help noticing that while he zealously corrected her faults, he seemed blind to his own. As her loneliness intensified, so did her doubts—about him and about her own judgment. He began dictating how to dress and what to read and whom to befriend, backing himself up with Bible verses. They could scarcely have a conversation anymore; even the most trivial subjects led to lectures or arguments. Her heart shriveled, and thoughts of getting away devoured thoughts of pleasing him.
Finally she turned to the elders of her former church. After prayer and further counsel, they advised her to separate. The marriage died, but her faith survived.
[Editor’s note: It is important to sort these things out especially since all three precede action. It gets tricky when beliefs are rooted in feelings and become seeming convictions we’re passionate about. We witness passionate illogical campaigns that work toward selfish ends everyday. Feminism has modeled this in countless ways. The humanist is left to himself to find ultimate meaning upon which he grounds his beliefs.
The Christian however, is wholly transformed in belief, in thought, and in feeling by the grace of God. The Christian is rooted in the wisdom of God as well and because he is, his feelings aren’t the source of his convictions but the passion that helps drive them. He is self-controlled because belief comes first, intellect coincides with his faith’s presuppositions, and his feelings are the fruit of the works of grace that stirs him in a righteous fashion along righteous pathways. He is a different creature all together.
And this is why the Christian woman’s life looks totally different, thinks totally different, behaves totally different, feels totally different than what we’ve seen coming out of the feminist sphere.]
Have you noticed how today everyone seems to tell us what and how they *feel*? I feel like we should pray about that before we do it.” “I feel like Hillary Clinton would make a terrible (or wonderful) president.” “I feel like that’s an unfair statement.” I could be wrong here, but aren’t these “I feel” statements more common than they used to be? It may be a matter of mere semantics or a matter of the evolution of the English language. But it may just be more than that. It may just point us to something we ought to consider.
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