Since 2002, LAF has refuted the follies of feminism and promoted a strong, intelligent, biblical view of womanhood. We love femininity and are delighted to share the beauties of the womanly virtues with women all over the world. New to LAF? Start here! Looking for older articles? Please visit the archives!

Thomas: Please Don’t Marry Him

October 27, 2015 | Author:

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A dysfunctional dating relationship sealed by marriage doesn’t make any problems go away; it simply cements you in a dysfunctional marriage.

Marriage won’t improve your man. Marriage won’t change your man. (The same is true of a woman, of course.) Marriage simply weds you to your partner’s problems.

When you raise a significant issue in dating and the man or woman responds by crying and saying they’re sorry, nothing has changed. They’ve been caught, they don’t want to lose you, but it doesn’t mean they will repent. It doesn’t mean their character will improve. It just means they cried.

That’s it.

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Relevant: 3 Prayers We Need to Stop Praying – With Better Alternatives

October 26, 2015 | Author:

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beccaneidle Compfight CC

Accidental habits are easy to form and hard to break.

No one means to leave the towel on the floor every morning. Only the cruel and heartless consciously keep the toilet seat up. It certainly doesn’t take much self-discipline to become obsessed with a cellphone. We can snooze the alarm clock in our sleep. Maybe the scariest of all, a lot of drivers can make it to and from work without even thinking. It doesn’t take much to develop a habit.

Of course, habits can be healthy, and some are harmless. But still other habits can birth negative consequences in ways we never imagined.

The same goes for our faith. Spiritual habits can be healthy, harmless or harmful. When these habits don’t engage our hearts and minds, they’ll never touch our souls.

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Amy Loux: An Incompatible Marriage

October 26, 2015 | Author:

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Parker Knight, Compfight CC

When it comes to romantic relationships our society is obsessed with finding the “perfect match” or “soul mate”. Personality tests, attraction, chemistry…these are the things we talk about when we think of compatibility. It’s all a little nebulous, but apparently “when you know, you know”…that spark or indescribable connection is what separates the others from “the one”.

There is a notion that finding someone who is truly compatible with you is the bedrock of a strong marriage. It’s about finding the “right person” to spend the rest of your life with; that one person who will bring out the best in you and vice versa. Family background, future goals and attraction are the basis of this decision making. We think of this compatibility as glue, and the stronger the better.

There’s only one problem…compatibility is not what holds a marriage together.

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Recommended Resources

Get Married: What Women Can Do To Help It Happen
Start Your Family: Inspiration for Having Babies
The Excellent Wife: A Biblical Perspective

MercatorNet: It shouldn’t be ground-breaking that women are not men

October 26, 2015 | Author:

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premasagar Compfight CC

[Editor’s note: In the end, our goal isn’t to achieve a purer form of feminism, but biblical femininity. This is an important distinction. This article is a rich and rewarding read otherwise. Enjoy!]

The struggle to get more women into CEO jobs and boardrooms can seem like a puzzle where the pieces don’t quite fit together.  Juggling pressured work and young children can seem like squeezing a square peg into a round hole.  The sides grind against each making everyone wonder if there’s a better way.  This is exactly what Anne-Marie Slaughter has now come to appreciate in her new book ‘Unfinished Business: Women, Men, Work, Family’.  The book revises the approach she took in her highly popular 2012 Atlantic article ‘Why women still can’t have it all’ to make some really salient points about womanhood. She comments of her title that:

The reason behind “unfinished business” is that describes most working caregivers’ lives, certainly working mothers. If you talk to a woman between 30 and 50 who is taking care of kids and holding down a job, she will say, “My entire life is unfinished business. I never get to finish anything. I never feel like I’m ever doing anything all the way.”

The real rub is why people don’t appreciate motherhood and raising children as an admirable job in itself.  Why do some so-called feminists seem to think that being in a boardroom in a sharply cut suit is so much more useful and worthy?

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MercatorNet: Do We Need Fertility Education?

October 24, 2015 | Author:


[Editor’s note: The responsibility of education falls to parents not the state. A statist system will always put itself first. But this article does reveal a severe lack of understanding when it comes to basic biology. Some which feminism worked so hard to cover-up, deny, and manipulate. God’s design is perfect however. ]

[M]en can father children well into old age (for example, Charlie Chaplin fathered a child at the age of 73). A woman, however, has a limited supply of eggs in her ovaries at birth and cannot produce new ones, so that her “biological clock” runs much more quickly than a man’s. This now causes “obvious imbalance and tension between the sexes”. As Pacey states:

“When couples were still having their babies at 20 these differences didn’t really matter. But within a generation, most developed countries have seen an increase in the age at which men and women start to have children. Typically in the UK, first-time parents are now over 30. Each year this age rises still further. There will come a point, however, at which the average age couples start to try to become parents will be incompatible with their reproductive biology.” (Emphasis added.)
As we delay having children we are coming up against some hard biological facts.

Unfortunately, people tend to be averse to having uncongenial facts pointed out to them and would rather shoot the messenger. –

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Recommended Resources
Start Your Family
Get Married
Three Decades of Fertility

Well-Behaved Women Making History

October 23, 2015 | Author:

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Public Domain, CC 2.5, 3.5 wiki

“Well-behaved women seldom make history.” It’s a common feminist slogan. The suggestion, however tongue-in-cheek, seems to be that for a woman to make headlines, turn heads, or alter the course of human events, it’s necessary for her to misbehave somehow, presumably as defined against the social norms of traditional patriarchal society.

Like most propaganda, this slogan is hard to argue with. It wins a neat ideological victory for the feminists, in one fell swoop annexing practically every famous woman who has ever lived—candidates from the reasonable (Jezebel, Mary Stuart, Susan B Anthony) to the wildly implausible (Saint Margaret of Scotland, Jane Austen, Corrie ten Boom). It’s also a cautionary tale for young women reminiscent of Gail Carson Levine’s young adult novel Ella Enchanted—Don’t be too obedient. Or, presumably, you’ll never make history.

The origin of the slogan is actually quite illuminating. According to Quote Investigator (quoteinvestigator.com/2012/11/03/well-behaved-women/), the line was first coined by Laurel Thatcher Ulrich in a 1976 scholarly paper appearing in the journal “American Quarterly.” Now a Pulitzer Prize-winning writer and professor of early American History at Harvard, Ulrich was then a student at the University of New Hampshire. The first sentences of her paper, “Vertuous Women Found: New England Ministerial Literature, 1668-1735”, read:

Cotton Mather called them “The Hidden Ones.” They never preached or sat in a deacon’s bench. Nor did they vote or attend Harvard. Neither, because they were virtuous women, did they question God or the magistrates. They prayed secretly, read the Bible through at least once a year, and went to hear the minister preach even when it snowed. Hoping for an eternal crown, they never asked to be remembered on earth. And they haven’t been. Well-behaved women seldom make history; against Antinomians and witches, these pious matrons have had little chance at all.

To Laurel Thatcher Ulrich, such women are not memorable and therefore unlikely to make history. (more…)

Texas Pays Planned Parenthood Surprise Visit

October 22, 2015 | Author:

65207e2153de2beb1a666fbdb457f22a_400x400After a Houston-based Planned Parenthood abortion clinic was caught selling aborted baby body parts, state investigators conducted a raid today on multiple Planned Parenthood abortion clinics across the state.

Texas officials raided several Planned Parenthood facilities today in an unprecedented move that follows on the heels of pro-life Governor Greg Abbott announcing earlier in the week that the state would further de-fund the abortion business.  Abbott said this week “the gruesome harvesting of baby body parts by Planned Parenthood will not be allowed,” but so far the state has released no evidence of illegal activity by the group.

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4 Reasons Modesty Empowers Women

October 17, 2015 | Author:

Empowering? I don’t think so.

A study called “The Paradox of Declining Female Happiness” stated, “Women are less happy nowadays despite 40 years of feminism. Despite having more opportunities than ever before, they have a lower sense of well-being and life satisfaction.”

Rather than jumping on board with our culture’s push to undress, I’m proposing a new method for empowering women. Modesty. I strongly believe that modesty empowers women far (far!) more than nudity does.

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Mercatornet: To Whom Do Children Belong?

October 14, 2015 | Author:

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Parker Knight Compfight CC

How Same-Sex Marriage Threatens Parental Rights

A crucial aspect of liberty is respect for subsidiarity—in particular, recognition that the family, based on marriage, is a pre-political community with natural and original authority over its internal affairs, especially the education and upbringing of children. Redefining marriage in law to include same-sex couples undermines the principled basis for the primacy of parental child-rearing authority by obliterating the link between marriage and procreation as well as the norm of conjoined biological parenthood that conjugal marriage laws help to foster. What was once almost unanimously understood to be a normative ideal—the intact biological family composed of married mother and father with their biological children—is now culturally (and to a large extent legally) demoted to being merely one among an increasingly wide variety of family forms.

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Challies: It’s Not Just A Guy Thing?

October 14, 2015 | Author:

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Seif Alaya, CC Compfight

Every guy has received a warning about “the second glance.” Here’s how it works: When you see an attractive woman, you are morally responsible for the second glance, not the first. Because you cannot help seeing what is there in front of you, the second glance is the one where you will display sin or virtue. It is here that you make the moral choice—the choice to lust or the choice to direct your eyes and your thoughts to something that honors God.

I have never been completely comfortable with the second glance logic. More on that in a moment, but first we need to see that this is not only a guy thing.

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Recommended Resources
Overcoming Fear, Worry, and Anxiety: Becoming a Woman of Faith and Confidence
A Woman’s Wisdom: How the Book of Proverbs Speaks to Everything
Purity: A Godly Woman’s Adornment (Devotional-on-the-go)
Raising Maiden’s Of Virtue
Daughter’s of Destiny

LiveActionNews: BREAKING: Planned Parenthood announces halt on accepting ‘reimbursements’ for fetal body parts

October 14, 2015 | Author:


Today, Planned Parenthood president Cecile Richards announced in a letter to the National Institutes of Health that the abortion giant plans to stop accepting ‘reimbursement’ from the sales of aborted fetal body parts – a decision which Richards says is an effort to take away the “smokescreen” of the “extremists” behind the Center for Medical Progress videos. But while claims of “smokescreens” may win points with supporters, the facts just don’t add up.

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Mercatornet: Celibate mothers carry forward the sexual revolution

October 13, 2015 | Author:


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[Editor’s note: Feminist doctrine is predicated upon fear which can create a female-only comfort zone, which, ironically, isn’t really all that comfortable. No one can live without love. The self imposed solitary confinement is sustained by concessions and substitutions. Live with a man? Fine, but don’t marry him.  Lesbianism? that’s okay. Make children out of your pets? That’s okay. Got the cash and was a child? That’s okay! As long as you remember what our feminist mothers taught us, “You don’t need a man. Be strong and independent. You’re better , smarter, and you can’t trust a man anyway.” With sex selective abortion and sperm banks, feminists can achieve their long held goal of dominating society.]

Their child will not be the fruit of a loving relationship, or indeed of any human relationship. Admittedly, single-motherhood-by-choice has become a familiar option in the sexual revolution. But most people have presumed that single women who had recourse IVF are or were in a relationship of some kind. Some scraps of the notion that children deserve both a mother and a father remain. Even women who say that they had failed to find Mr Right were at least searching for him.

In short, these are women who want a child but no intimacy and no love. Josephine Quintavalle, of the group Comment on Reproductive Ethics, nailed it when she told the Mail:

“What is the child for these women? A teddy bear that they pick off the shelf? The message from nature is for a male and female to have a child, and I am saddened that we are willing to distort this. The diminished role of the father is not desirable for the child. Once you start down this route, where do you stop?”

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To All the Girls Who Didn’t Say No

October 12, 2015 | Author:

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Photo: hugrakka/Flickr

One of the most profound days of my life was the day I told my mom and dad I was pregnant.

I wasn’t married. I had just moved home and out of the apartment I shared with my boyfriend. I was beginning my first semester at a technical college trying to make the most of my messed up life. It was far from stable.

After my parents took in the initial shock, we had a long conversation. I will never forget the small smile that emerged from my mom’s face as she said, “I am going to be a Grandma.”

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Before You Meet Price Charming
The Doctrine of Repentance
The Gospel Mystery of Sanctification
A Lifting Up for the Downcast
Emotional Purity: An Affair of the Heart

How Does The Bible Present Marriage?

October 5, 2015 | Author:

We Can’t Let The Family Die

October 3, 2015 | Author:

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[Editor’s Note: From the archives but relevant as ever. If only we’d listen know, like we should have listened then. An excellent lesson on how feminism kills the family.]

If the family fails, society breaks up, and there are many signs that this is happening. Britain may not lead the world in much, but we are certainly ahead when it comes to social pathology. So many children are neglected and, as a result, run out of control: we have high rates of truancy and exclusions, while violence and disorder among youngsters – even murder – have escalated in recent years to become daily headline fodder. Children who self-harm were virtually unheard of 25 years ago but today they are commonplace.

The rising level of social dysfunction mirrors a rising level of family fragmentation. Our expectations of parents and their responsibilities for their children’s wellbeing have never been lower. Despite numerous tragedies and endless inquiries into the failure of parents and the state to safeguard children, little appears to change – witness the death of Baby P. (for mature readers only)

That so many more of our children are now disadvantaged and neglected is rooted in the fact that so many more are being born to lone and cohabiting parents, while the Government remains wedded to the politically correct myth that this is OK.

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