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Alabama counties not issuing same sex marriage licenses

February 10, 2015 | Author:

Traditional Marriage - May It Always Be. (TempusVolat Compfight CC)

Traditional Marriage – May It Always Be. (TempusVolat Compfight CC)

According to one group of gay rights activists, as many as 50 Alabama counties are currently not issuing marriage licenses to same sex couples.

Many counties around the state have suspended the issuance of marriage licenses altogether in the wake of conflicting rulings from the chief justice of the Alabama Supreme Court and a federal judge in south Alabama. Roughly a dozen counties are said to still be issuing licenses for traditional marriages, while turning away same sex couples.

On Sunday, Alabama Supreme Court Chief Justice Roy Moore issued an order to probate judges around the state instructing them not to issue marriage licenses to gay couples.

According to Moore’s six-page letter, “no probate judge shall issue or recognize a marriage license that is inconsistent with” Alabama’s constitutional ban on same sex marriage, which went into effect in 2006 after a statewide ballot initiative approved by 81 percent of voters.

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Piper, Carson, and Keller on Sustaining the Covenant of Marital Love

February 10, 2015 | Author:

Piper, Carson, and Keller on Sustaining the Covenant of Marital Love from The Gospel Coalition on Vimeo.

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Four Lessons from Solomon’s Song

February 9, 2015 | Author:

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In our culture, February means roses, chocolates, and all the traditional symbols of romantic love. After nearly five years of marriage to my wonderful husband, I have enjoyed receiving love letters, holding hands over candlelit dinners, and taking nighttime walks under the stars with my sweetheart. However, I have also learned that there is more to making and maintaining a healthy, thriving relationship than these kinds of romantic gestures. The world (and its businesses) may tout their own ideology regarding love and marriage, but I know of no better place to find true principles and sound wisdom than in the word of God.

While every book of the Bible has taught me something about strengthening my marriage and loving my husband, the Song of Solomon is one book in particular that has offered me a wealth of insight on the love between a man and his wife. My husband and I have read this book together and often talked over the main lessons we have gleaned from this beautiful, inspired poem—insights that have also been confirmed by our own experiences. Since February is traditionally a month in which love and romance are emphasized, I thought I’d share four lessons from Solomon’s song that I’ve found particularly helpful in my own life.  (more…)

Christian Love and Putting on Christ

February 8, 2015 | Author:

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[Editor’s note: An appropriate sermon considering the recent conversations here about Christian love and the degrading counterfeits the world offers us. How does a christian understand love in a culture fraught with obscenity? It begins with putting on Christ.]

How Do We Put On Christ?

And how do you do that? We could answer this question simply from the nature of faith and hope and love themselves. Faith comes from hearing, so put on Christ by listening to the word of God about Christ. Hope comes from promises, so put on Christ by remembering the promises of Christ. Love comes by the loveliness of Christ, so put on Christ by calling to mind his beauty.

But there is a signal in this text itself that confirms that we are on the right track in answering this way about how to put on Christ. Verse 14: “But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires.” The word “provision” means literally “forethought,” and the whole sentence would go like this: “Put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and don’t let any thought in your head that would lead to a sinful desire—not just to the gratification of the sinful desire, but even the desire itself. (more…)

What’s the Most Common Word Found in Porn Site Comments? Are You Sitting Down for This One?

February 6, 2015 | Author:

From Faithit.com

At the end of every year, companies and organizations typically release an annual report that details what happened in the last 365 days. These reports usually contain numbers, statistics, charts, figures, and breakdowns of the past year, and then what the company is projecting for the upcoming year.

Unfortunately, giant porn website PornHub, is no different. In its seemingly never ending effort to normalize pornography in society, PornHub collects detailed analytics from their site and releases a “year in review” containing all the information. But instead of talking about profits made, charities supported, or environmental contributions, PornHub reports on things like “Favorite Porn Star,” “Most Popular Search Terms,” and “Average Time Spent Ver Visit.”

Real cool. (Not.)

Recently, PornHub released their 2014 year in review numbers, which beneath the surface, show the extreme growth that the epidemic of pornography is currently experiencing (i.e over 18 billion visits this year to the site) and the money-making machine that basically celebrates in making the problem in society even worse. Now, as shocking as all this information is, want to know which one we found most interesting? “Love” is the most common word used in comments.

How ironic is it that one of the main places that you can get the furthest from real love is where that word pops up the most in people’s online conversations? Now, granted, we realize that the word is probably being used in a much different way than we should associate it with, but does that make it any less saddening? Does it make it okay that this word, which is meant to be used to describe the most intimate of feelings and deepest of affection, is now the most common word on a site that shows the complete opposite of love?

We don’t think so. Selfish desire and taking pleasure in objectifying humans is most definitely not love. As a matter of fact, it is the furthest thing from it. Read the rest here.
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Love Letters: Mercy Doddridge to her husband

February 6, 2015 | Author:

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The Christian Lover: The Sweetness of Love and Marriage in the Letters of Believers
Marriage is under siege in our time, and Christian unions are not going unscathed. Dr. Michael A. G. Haykin believes that love letters written by Christian husbands and wives of the past can help strengthen the ties that bind believing spouses today. In this anthology, he brings together letters from one or both parties in twelve significant relationships from church history. The contents range from courtship communications to proposals of marriage to final words before dying, but most have to do with the ups and downs of married life. In the end, The Christian Lover is a celebration of marriage, an intimate window into the thoughts of men and women who were deeply in love with both God and one another.

Purchase your copy here.

Birth Control Causing Growing Moral Discomfort

February 5, 2015 | Author:

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Simon Laroche_8 Compfight CC

Jessica Wilson got married five months before she graduated from an evangelical college in 2010. Because she believed that sex is reserved for marriage, it wasn’t much earlier that she had started thinking about what kind of birth control to use. No one in her family or her church had ever questioned the idea of contraception, but they hadn’t taught her much about it, either.

Eventually she came upon the writings of Randy Alcorn, an author and activist who promotes the idea that hormonal birth control, like the pill and some intrauterine devices, sometimes works as an abortifacient by preventing the implantation of a fertilized egg. Alarmed, she decided she couldn’t take that risk, especially since she had already heard horror stories from friends who said the pill made them gain weight, diminished their sex drive or caused depression… when she got married she used a diaphragm with spermicide when she thought she was ovulating. All three of her pregnancies, including those that resulted in a son and daughter born 15 months apart, were unplanned, but she says she has no regrets.

“I have seen a lot of people [questioning] the idea in our culture that couples deserve to have five years of freedom before they have kids or this unwritten code that all Americans should have two boys and a girl and then they’re done,” she said. “Why are we buying this idea that we shouldn’t have kids?”

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Love Letters: Jonathan Edwards to His Intended Sarah Pierpont

February 5, 2015 | Author:

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How ‘Big Abortion’ is losing

February 4, 2015 | Author:

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Editor’s note: Glad to see a feminist turning around. I hope she arrives at a full understanding of God’s intentions are for women. Something she says stands out and so I want to comment on it. “Rather than structure society around the wombless, unencumbered male, ought not society be structured around those who, in addition to being able to do all that men can do, can also bear life?” Society isn’t structured around men. It’s structured around the purposes man and women are called to serve together for the glory of God. Or it’s supposed to be. Do we really believe that this is what it comes down to? Us against them? Or is there something greater than both of us put together that gives our lives meaning, component purposes, and direction where in we find that we fit together though different to serve that end? This is why feminism must come to an end. It ushers in policy, social structure, bio-ethical nightmares, etc. which undermine the bigger picture. Feminism is about self-interest and so it coincides that socialism is the power structure to assure her every dream. From Mercatornet:

The truth and the lies have become clearer.

Vast numbers of young people turning out for the March for Life in Washington DC, other such rallies across the US, and in the groups, operations, organizations and services dedicated to daily outreach and care for women and children, are survivors of the Roe generation. They’ve lost siblings, classmates and peers, some even their own child in a surprise and unintended pregnancy, and they know the toll it has taken on them, their parents, families and society. They’re the most life loving, fiercely determined, committed and outspoken generation of pro-life activists. Abortion activists saw that years ago, the evidence that their generation was dying off as a natural consequence of devaluing human life and motherhood and the natural bond between the generations.

Read the rest here

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Three Parent Children, Germ Line Manipulation, and Designer Humans

February 4, 2015 | Author:

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Time – Janurary 11, 1999

Today’s vote in Parliament in favour of allowing three parent children makes the UK the first country to cross internationally respected bioethical red lines. It does so first by allowing the creation of human beings using DNA from three human beings and secondly, by opening the door to germ-line gene modification. By altering the very make-up of the human species, the technique provokes a global race to manufacture the bio-characteristics of the human person by germ-line gene manipulation.

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Ideas Have Consequences

February 4, 2015 | Author:

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Birth Control, Abortion, and Obscenity

February 4, 2015 | Author:

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What we can learn from 50 Shades of Grey

February 3, 2015 | Author:

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The trailer is smoldering temptingly on computers around the globe. Fans of the book are checking their diaries and booking tickets online. Reviewers are readying their pens and preparing their remarks. In just a few short days 50 Shades of Grey will hit the big screen, just in time for Valentine’s Day.

On one level, this is just another in a long line of films with a storyline that portrays sex and relationships in ways far removed from God’s design. But it is so much more than that. I believe that 50 Shades of Grey can serve as a kind of cultural barometer that alerts us to the colossal changes that have been occurring in recent years, and to the consequences they bring.

So what can the 50 Shades phenomenon teach us today? I teamed up with Helen Thorne, who has written Purity Is Possible: How To Live Free of the Fantasy Trap, and together we prepared 7 lessons from 50 Shades of Grey.

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Carl Djerassi, inventor of the pill, dies

February 3, 2015 | Author:

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Shemer Compfight CC

As a public figure, he was above all an apologist for the pill, travelling widely to promote it and also to defend it against the likes of Germaine Greer — “always a vociferous opponent of the pill,” he noted in a 2007 interview with The Guardian — and Barbara Seaman, whose 1969 book The Doctor’s Case Against the Pill exposed side effects including the risk of blood clots, heart attack, stroke, depression, weight gain and loss of libido.

He was dismissive of such claims – “everything has side effects” – and countered the feminist critique (Why not a male pill?”) by arguing that feminists, above all, should know that women could not trust men to take a pill. Scientifically, he told the Guardian, there was no difficulty; they knew how to make a male pill. But sharing the burden of contraception would take away women’s control over their own fertility, and potentially all the political gains of the previous 50 years.

It’s a comment that sheds quite a lot of light on the effects of the contraceptive revolution. The pill’s “guarantee” of sex without children is also the death of trust between spouses or partners, and between men and women generally. Sex from now on is about negotiation between two people who are (theoretically) equal in power, though equally uncertain of each other’s motives and feelings. And society is reduced to competing camps.

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God Made Gender

February 3, 2015 | Author:

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Parker Knight Compfight CC

We need to be diligent in teaching our children that God has made us different as males and females and that both sexes are made in the image of God. While secularists may want to say that a person can have a “gender identity” separate from their biological gender, nowhere does God make this distinction in His Word. Yes, we live in a sin-cursed, fallen world, and sometimes children are born with hermaphroditism and other related issues, but these exceptions (and we need to emphasize—they are exceptions), clearly do not negate the fact that God has designed us male and female. And He has given certain expectations exclusive to each gender, such as men being the leaders of their families. These standards are grounded in God’s original creation in Genesis and reaffirmed elsewhere in Scripture. (For more about expectations regarding masculinity and femininity, see “Are Gender Roles a Social Construct?”) Part of the confusion in regard to these issues is that many people no longer either accept or understand the effects of sin in relation to our minds and bodies, in this fallen world.

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