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Since 2002, LAF has refuted the follies of feminism and promoted a strong, intelligent, biblical view of womanhood. We love femininity and are delighted to share the beauties of the womanly virtues with women all over the world. New to LAF? Start here! Looking for older articles? Please visit the archives!

Challies: I Feel, I Think, I Believe

February 22, 2016 | Author:

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[Editor’s note: It is important to sort these things out especially since all three precede action. It gets tricky when beliefs are rooted in feelings and become seeming convictions we’re passionate about. We witness passionate illogical campaigns that work toward selfish ends everyday. Feminism has modeled this in countless ways. The humanist is left to himself to find ultimate meaning upon which he grounds his beliefs.

The Christian however, is wholly transformed in belief, in thought, and in feeling by the grace of God. The Christian is rooted in the wisdom of God as well and because he is, his feelings aren’t the source of his convictions but the passion that helps drive them. He is self-controlled because belief comes first, intellect coincides with his faith’s presuppositions, and his feelings are the fruit of the works of grace that stirs him in a righteous fashion along righteous pathways. He is a different creature all together.

And this is why the Christian woman’s life looks totally different, thinks totally different, behaves totally different, feels totally different than what we’ve seen coming out of the feminist sphere.]

Have you noticed how today everyone seems to tell us what and how they *feel*? I feel like we should pray about that before we do it.” “I feel like Hillary Clinton would make a terrible (or wonderful) president.” “I feel like that’s an unfair statement.” I could be wrong here, but aren’t these “I feel” statements more common than they used to be? It may be a matter of mere semantics or a matter of the evolution of the English language. But it may just be more than that. It may just point us to something we ought to consider.

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Why Be Happy?

February 22, 2016 | Author:


Prager University give us a big clue as to why feminism will never make us happy. Happiness is at it’s core selfless.

Our happiness affects others profoundly, that’s why happiness is a moral obligation. We cannot be guided by feelings because it is how we act that affects others not how we feel. Don’t inflict a bad mood on others. Being happier is good for us and it is what we owe everyone in our lives.

Grammy-Winning Sensation Adele Finally Has Purpose in Motherhood

February 22, 2016 | Author:

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“Adele tells interviewer Hamish Bowles about how her life has been completely transformed by becoming a mom. Her son, she says, “makes me very proud of myself. When I became a parent, I felt like I was truly living. I had a purpose, where before I didn’t.” Later on she adds: “My main thing is Mum, then it’s me, then it’s work.”

This is a bold, potentially controversial, statement for a celebrity mom. Adele, ADELE, didn’t feel like she was truly living before she became a mom?! She, the universally adored force of nature behind, at the time, one of the bestselling albums of all time, felt like she didn’t have a purpose?

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Taking a break…

February 17, 2016 | Author:

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We’ll be taking a break for a while. Our editor had a family emergency this week and is shifting things around right now. Thanks for your continued support!

Want to keep reading? Visit our archives by using the search box on the left or by visiting our original site here.

 

Capturing Weak Women and Weak Men

February 13, 2016 | Author:

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“Empowered” is a power word for women (and for men frankly, but we’ll focus on women right now), so much so I hate to even try to redeem it. It is the feminist ideal which tempts women toward a man-centered confidence rather than living in Christ. It’s a seemingly invigorating idea that ends with God establishing the glory due Him by laying the sinner low, and yet we chase after it at the expense of our souls.

There seems to be a counterfeit for everything and Feminism is a counterfeit gospel promising to be the salvation of women. But the confidence it teaches isn’t rooted in faith, but in self. Many of us should reexamine the philosophies of self-confidence we’re following.

You don’t have to be a card carrying member of an elitist group, or one of the various, numerous shades of elitism, to be in the position Tim Challies outlines here, explaining how weak women are carried away captive by vain philosophies. We’re all born with a sinful self-interest.

For all have sinned; all are sinners by nature, by practice, and have come short of the glory of God – have failed of that which is the chief end of man. -Matthew Henry on Rom. 3:23

And what Challies is describing is not just the normal process of sin, chastisement, repentance, and a persevering and sanctifying growth in Christian graces. He outlines 2 Timothy 3:6-7 in a very understandable fashion: through spiritual weakness, a burden of guilt, sinful desires, a love for speculation, “They never appropriate the truth that can set them free from their guilt and never submit to the Spirit who can destroy their evil desires. They are weak or backslidden or perhaps lost altogether.”

Women are capable of intellectual knowledge to be sure, just as men are. What Challies makes clear for us is that logic and reason coupled with self-confidence (read pride) may seem as though it is sure footing by which we may find human flourishing, but in reality it leaves us utterly blind, even when things seem to be as clear as day to us. We tear down our own households. Our relationships suffer as we miss the fact that we’ve grown accustomed to thinking everything is a means to our own ends.

Feminism has shown us what Challies describes as, women who are not mental simpletons, but spiritual weaklings. Burdening themselves with guilt by pursuing sin with no strings attached.

We women make this mistake, as the article points out, by failing to persevere in Christian graces, in repentance, and sanctification, and by bucking godly headship.

Spiritual disciplines aren’t always fun, they can be tedious, they can be almost monotonous, they can be somewhat even boring but they pay great dividends. I suppose you could parallel it to a person who is in athletics. They go to the gym every day, they have to lift the weights, and do the same thing over and over and over again, but it’s worth it…The pursuit of spiritual disciplines, takes discipline. It doesn’t always seem to be the easy way or the pleasant way, but it produces great fruit…You and I, as we pursue spiritual disciplines in our lives are pursuing a harvest of righteousness and peace. – John H. Johnson, The Enduring Character of Love

Challies makes the gateway plain to see in his article. By God’s grace we can remain closed to false philosophies; feminism being one of them. Piper explains how this can be done, in part:

There is a way to apply [2 Cor. 10:5] to ourselves. We just have to get ourselves in the right place, and the place we belong in is the group whose opinions and thoughts Paul is trying to demolish. That is where we belong. We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God and we take every thought captive.

So when John Piper reads that or when Sarah reads it, I should say or she should say, “Ok, Paul. Here I am. Do your demolishing work on me. Do your captive-taking work on me. Destroy in my mind any false or proud thoughts that I have about God.” Which really means two things, I think, that Sarah and I and anybody else, any Christian, should do. One, we should listen to Paul and submit all our thoughts and ideas and feelings about God and about life to Paul’s teaching (as God’s apostle) for scrutiny. And if anything is out of sync with Paul’s teaching, we should let it be destroyed.

I have experienced this very painfully. If you put your mind and thoughts really at the disposal of the apostolic teaching and say, “Anything in my thinking that needs to be destroyed, destroy it,” that can utterly undo you. There have been seasons in my life where I have wept over the dismantling of what felt like really important structures in my brain, so I think that is the first thing we do. We listen to Paul. We submit everything we think — all of our ideas, all of our worldview, all of our viewpoints to God — and we say, “Paul, let your Word dismantle me if necessary.”

“We should ask the Holy Spirit to work, because Paul said we don’t fight with mere human fleshly arguments. Our ministry has power. So we should expose ourselves to that power. Verse 4 says, “The weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh, but have divine power.” In other words, he is tearing down arguments and God-belittling ideas, but he is not doing it merely by argument.” -John Piper, How Do I Take My Thoughts Captive?

And yes, this does apply to men too, something unwed women should consider as deal-breaking criteria. The world is filled with elitist ideals and identities which men and women chase after. The desire for empowerment is not exclusive to women. It has left many a man undone and many a woman suffer when the sexes aren’t in harmony with God. We all rise and fall by measuring ourselves by ourselves, it’s time to leave it off all together.

Watch a man long enough and you’ll see his repeated failings, wanderings, and that he’s driven with the wind and tossed. Or you may see the steady sustaining incline outlining the perseverance grace presents. There’s a stark difference between the two.

Every christian makes mistakes but it’s what they do with them that makes the difference. Do they do despite to the Spirit of grace? Or do they find it an opportunity to grow in faith, hope, and love? Are chastisements something to be ignored? Or before the chastisement comes have they taken the initiative to humble themselves? Are authorities honored and their wisdom sought after? Or are they challenged and ignored? Is his wisdom the fruit of God’s handiwork or polished and refashioned self-centered humanistic lies?

Unfit men do try to creep in and we must be aware. Dependent and needy, they’re con-artists who get by with mental faculties and selfish aims, learning and mimicking, but who fail to exhibit the budding aroma of Christ.

Take away points,

Grow in Christian graces. The Puritans are a great help with this.

Know what true repentance is and live it out. It’s not good enough to change your ways, and hope people notice. Say your sorry. One of the greatest gifts you can give the people in your life is restitution for the sins committed against them. Don’t leave it up to them to sort it out. Build their faith in you by building your faith in God. God resists the proud but gives grace to the humble. Humility is always becoming.

Don’t make light of your sin, to your self, to others, to God. Everyone can spin a story. Most now-a-days can’t tell the difference between spin and reality. It’s our job to bring a sense of reality to a culture that known little of it. Eventually, when we’ve lied to our selves long enough, we cannot tell the difference either. But, we’ll never deceive God no matter how successful we’ve been deceiving others.

If you’ve been hurt, sort it out. Sometimes we’re burdened with guilt that is not ours. Silly women often enable sinful men. Break the cycle. There is help. If you’ve sinned and never faced it, you’re salvation is God and God alone.

Cultivate pure desires. Scripture makes it plain what we are to love and what we are to hate. Let it be your rule and guide.

Recommended Resources
What’s the difference between being humble and being a doormat?
Keep in Step with the Spirit: Finding Fullness in Our Walk with God
The Cure of Souls: Recovering the Biblical Doctrine of Confession
Putting off Procrastination

AiG: Table for One, Please…

February 12, 2016 | Author:

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A. Pagliaricci ♦ CC Compfight, Altered

If there’s one thing I absolutely don’t want to do on Valentine’s Day, it’s to go to a restaurant by myself. Not that I begrudge the happy couples around me their status, chocolates, or flowers. As someone who is single, I’m not prone to notice whether most of the people in a place are paired up, single, or in a group. But on Valentine’s Day, it’s different. The scenario of me as the lone single in a roomful of couples—each focusing on their relationship—is something I prefer to avoid. And by prefer, I mean go to any lengths to prevent. The combination of a public appearance during the dinner hour, plus that holiday, plus me by myself isn’t good. However, it gives me some compassion for Adam in the Garden of Eden. Did you know he was the first person to be single? We find him in the second chapter of the Bible, knowing a bit of what it’s like to be alone.

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Real Strength & Real Men

February 11, 2016 | Author:

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Jacob Bass

I once thought I was strong because I could bench press 365 lbs. and felt like the Hulk after a little workout. I once thought I was strong because people looked at me and I could tell they were impressed or intimidated by my height and build. When I became a husband and father, I’ve come to realize this is a feeble and laughable strength.

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Love or Die: Christ’s Wake-Up Call to the Church

February 9, 2016 | Author:

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Alexander Strauch writes,

Pursue love…

1 Cor. 14:1

My first encounter with the biblical principles of love started in a negative way during my early years as a born-again Christian. I was surprised when I saw true believers fight, display angry attitudes, and separate from one another. To make matters worse, the conflicts I witnessed weren’t about lofty, eternal theological issues of the gospel, but rather, personal preferences and church traditions. To me, as a young believer, fighting among older, godly believers was quite discouraging.

To deal with my disillusionment, I began to search the New Testament for answers as to what should really be important in the life of the local church. What are correct Christian priorities and attitudes? How can true believers disagree without mutual destruction (Gal. 5:15)? What I discovered, among other things, was what I called, at the time, the moral (or Christlike) character of the church. The church is to be a family of brothers and sisters characterized by humility, gentleness, peace, forgiveness, forbearance, faith, hope, and love, with love being the supreme, overarching virtue. “And above all these, ” writes Paul, “put on love, which binds everything in perfect harmony” (Col. 3:14).

First Corinthians 13, in particular, spoke to me about the fact that there is a “more excellent way” of thinking and behaving, and that the greatest theological knowledge, the most extraordinary spiritual gifts, and most sacrificial services are profitless–even hurtful–if not motivated and colored by the spirit of Christlike love. As a result of my Bible study, I realized the priority of love in all that we do and say.

Read the rest here.

Recommended Resources
Love or Die: Christ’s Wake-up Call to the Church
If You Bite & Devour One Another
Christian Love (Puritan Paperbacks)
Glorious Freedom: The Excellency of the Gospel Above the Law (Puritan Paperbacks)

Unbroken Faith Ministries: Dead Women in Combat: Does Anyone Care? A Call for Americans to Cherish the Weaker Sex

February 9, 2016 | Author:

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Wesley Strackbein

In light of the outrageous view espoused by Gov. Bush, Sen. Rubio, and Gov. Christie at last’s Saturday’s debate – supporting women signing up for Selective Service – we would do well to understand that the Bible teaches that men, not women, are to go to war. The alternative is barbarism and an abandonment of the Chivalric Code that calls for the protection of women and children.

This article – first published when the Obama Administration lifted the last restraints on women serving in combat roles – explains this important principle.

Dead women—killed on the frontlines of combat—are no more a terrible sight to behold than dead men.

So declared General Martin Dempsey, Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff, as he joined President Barack Obama and Secretary of Defense Leon Panetta in announcing a formal policy change on January 24 which removes the last restraints for women to serve in all active combat roles in the U.S. military. As part of a much-hyped and heralded public relations move by the current administration, Dempsey stated: “I’ve gone to Bethesda to visit wounded warriors, and I’ve gone to Arlington to bury our dead. There’s no distinction [between men and women].”1

As shocking as this may sound, it accurately reflects the changing attitudes of most Americans toward women in combat.

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Wilson: Courtship and Rape Culture

February 8, 2016 | Author:

Douglas-Wilson-2Let us begin with what I believe to be a common sense observation, which is that when everything is rape then nothing is.

We live in a time when the truth of much of this is playing out in real time. Let us begin with one side of the equation, which would be the current climate on college campuses created by various certified buttercups, which wants to define rape culture as a giant edifice built out of, among other things, microaggressions, mansplaining, and manspreading. We are rapidly getting to the point where rape culture is any culture with men in it. That drives us in the direction of “everything is rape.”

But what about the “nothing is” part? This is the world where young Muslim men can grope women ad libitum, and the women are the ones blamed, where glorified rape fantasies like 50 Shades sell a kabillion copies to ostensibly liberated women, and where any attractive woman, regardless how modest, every day has to navigate a world catechized by porn.

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AV: NARAL Super Bowl Ad Rant Shows How Radical Abortionists Really Are

February 8, 2016 | Author:

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As several sites have reported now, abortion-rights radicals NARAL tweeted a rant during aDoritos Super Bowl ad. The objection demonstrates just how murderous the abortionists really are, and just how sensitive they are to the truth getting out to the public.

Doritos aired a Super Bowl ad in which a dad is munching Doritos while his obviously preggo wifey is having an ultrasound. With every crunch of the clearly delectable snack, the baby in the ultrasound struggles harder to reach and snag one for himself! Pretty soon, he leaps so hard there’s an implied early delivery!

Who’d-a-thunk something so comical would rile the abortionists, but it does make sense. NARAL tweeted in utter disdain…

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Love Letters: Mercy Doddridge to her husband

February 5, 2016 | Author:

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The Christian Lover: The Sweetness of Love and Marriage in the Letters of Believers
Marriage is under siege in our time, and Christian unions are not going unscathed. Dr. Michael A. G. Haykin believes that love letters written by Christian husbands and wives of the past can help strengthen the ties that bind believing spouses today. In this anthology, he brings together letters from one or both parties in twelve significant relationships from church history. The contents range from courtship communications to proposals of marriage to final words before dying, but most have to do with the ups and downs of married life. In the end, The Christian Lover is a celebration of marriage, an intimate window into the thoughts of men and women who were deeply in love with both God and one another.

Purchase your copy here.

Desiring God: Romantic Love is a Wonderful gift and a Terrible God

February 5, 2016 | Author:

 

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The lie says: If you find romantic love, then your life will be safe and fulfilling. So much so that marriage becomes a type of salvation, and romantic love takes on almost redemptive expectations. So what would you say to Christians, either singles or newlyweds, who are in danger of losing awe in God by becoming preoccupied with romantic love?

The first thing I would say to them is that romance is never the cause of a good marriage. Now I am by nature a very romantic man. I like romance, but romance is actually the result of a good marriage. And if you look to romance to form for you a good marriage, you are going to be a freaked out, discouraged, disappointed, ultimately hopeless human being. Why? What is a biblical view of marriage? It is a flawed person married to a flawed person in a fallen world. Are you encouraged yet? But with a faithful God.

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MercatorNet: A Donor Conceived Woman Speaks Out

February 5, 2016 | Author:

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The Belgian advertising industry recently launched a campaign to support sperm donation. Award-winning men donated theirs to boost national creativity. As the child of an anonymous donor, what did you think of it?

I found it an appalling campaign for many reasons. In the first place, their claim is pure nonsense. A creative gene does not exist. Studies prove that the environment where one grows up is more likely to contribute to one’s creativity. Stating that you can create creative people by letting “creative” men donate their sperm is utter fiction. In a YouTube video clip you can see the head of a genetics department supporting this fiction. Because of this I filed an official complaint against her hospital: they are actually lying in the hope of attracting more donors and clients.

It is selling out on so many levels but up mostly it is a sell-out at the expense of the children that are going to be conceived by this sperm. Those children will not be allowed to know whom they descent from and will live their lives trying to fill the gaps in their identity. They will have a huge hole deliberately inflicted by others. They will have no access to their full medical record and will have no means to track down their biological father and potentially a dozen siblings.

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Frontpage: Marxist Feminism’s Ruined Lives

February 3, 2016 | Author:

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“Socialism is a philosophy of failure, the creed of ignorance, and the gospel of envy; its inherent virtue is the equal sharing of misery.”  Winston Churchill wrote this over a century ago.

During my junior year in high school, the nuns asked about our plans for after we graduated. When I said I was going to attend State University, I noticed their disappointment.  I asked my favorite nun, “Why?” She answered, “That means you’ll leave four years later a communist and an atheist!”

What a giggle we girls had over that. “How ridiculously unsophisticated these nuns are,” we thought. Then I went to the university and four years later walked out a communist and an atheist, just as my sister Katie had six years before me.

Sometime later, I was a young divorcee with a small child. At the urging of my sister, I relocated to NYC after spending years married to an American executive stationed in Southeast Asia. The marriage over, I was making a new life for my daughter and me.  Katie said, “Come to New York.  We’re making revolution! Some of us are starting the National Organization of Women and you can be part of it.”

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