In a recent sermon I found that I had to touch upon one what I consider of the trickiest passages in the Bible: 1 Timothy 2:15. Here is what this verse says: “Yet she will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith and love and holiness, with self-control.” Taken on its own, this is a remarkably sexist statement. But I’m convinced there is truth … Continue reading Challies: Saved Through Childbearing
A dysfunctional dating relationship sealed by marriage doesn’t make any problems go away; it simply cements you in a dysfunctional marriage. Marriage won’t improve your man. Marriage won’t change your man. (The same is true of a woman, of course.) Marriage simply weds you to your partner’s problems. When you raise a significant issue in dating and the man or woman responds by crying and … Continue reading Thomas: Please Don’t Marry Him
When it comes to romantic relationships our society is obsessed with finding the “perfect match” or “soul mate”. Personality tests, attraction, chemistry…these are the things we talk about when we think of compatibility. It’s all a little nebulous, but apparently “when you know, you know”…that spark or indescribable connection is what separates the others from “the one”. There is a notion that finding someone who is … Continue reading Amy Loux: An Incompatible Marriage
For years I’ve been saying that once you open the door to redefine marriage, where do you stop? Well, that’s already starting to happen since the Supreme Court of the United States (SCOTUS) decision to legalize gay “marriage” in June. After all, if “love wins,” as gay “marriage” activists say, then by this line of thinking why shouldn’t “love win” in cases of polygamy, bestiality, … Continue reading AiG: Is Polygamy Next?
My dear wife recently sent me a list of three things that a chronically ill person wants her loved ones to know. You can access that article here. It is very well done, and puts to words all that you are feeling. My darling, I know. I’ve heard you. I understand. I also want you to know that there are three things that a husband … Continue reading What the husband of a chronically ill wife wants her to know
Long before I was even considering marriage, a Titus 2 woman shared with me the pain of confessing her sexual history to her future husband. “It was hard,” she told me. “We both cried. We both repented. It made us a stronger couple.” I remember being grateful for her openness with me, but also feeling that her story didn’t really apply to me. My romantic … Continue reading Holmes: How to Handle Your Spouse’s Sexual Past
I haven’t written on my blog in a long time. To be frank, I just got tired of dealing with the antagonists. But I felt compelled to write today. Marriage is so precious. It’s not supposed to be something you’re stuck in; it’s something you’re supposed to be thankful for—something you get to enjoy! So there were two reasons I felt compelled to write. The first had … Continue reading Your Sacred Calling: A Christian Response to the Ashley Madison Scandal
[Editor’s note: First, with regards to “False Messages,” if you take the time to read “False Messages,” and I hope you do, I think you’ll find it rewarding as well as great insight into this article by Aileen Challies. I do want to make a couple notes however. One is on the point of men feeling rejection. Women feel it to. Women make huge investments too and are often retorted, belittled, and misunderstood. We can understand what they are going through. Also, while Aileen Challies is speaking only about the sexual aspect of marriage, the conflict she outlines so well happens in other areas of marriage as well. We can show rejection of our loved ones in more ways than one and so can men. So, please don’t react to what she’s saying. She’s done a great job of making the principle clear. It’s excellent wisdom, so please be gracious understanding she’s teaching in only one context. Continue reading “Challies: My Wife’s Plea to Christian Men”
[I]n the larger secular culture, the big question is whether adultery really matters or not. Marriage and monogamy have been subverted from an array of cultural forces. Moral revolutionaries declared war on monogamy, declaring it to be unrealistic, patriarchal, repressive, and antiquated. Popular culture and entertainment glorified virtually any experiment in sexual gratification and often portrayed adultery as the victory of personal autonomy and freedom. … Continue reading Mohler: Ashley Madison and the Death of Monogamy
